What exactly is happiness? It is viewed as the ultimate state of wellbeing that everyone wants to achieve, but few seem able to attain. Feeling happy can be difficult at times, but realizing that we have the power to change the way we feel can be incredibly empowering.
Never let a bad day make you feel like you have a bad life. – Unknown
Bad days; we all have them. Even the Dalai Lama has bad days. But it is how we react to the challenges we face which define the rest of our day. And having a bad day doesn’t mean we have a bad life. Sometimes we just have to take things that happen to us on the chin. Not every day is going to be a good day; events happen.
We all have to deal with loss at some point in our lives and we all face challenges, whether they are big or small. But such events should not define our entire life. Some events may be character building, or even change the course of our lives, but it is our attitude to things which really defines our happiness.
We are the ones with the power to be happy or sad.
It’s important to make someone happy, and it’s important to start with yourself. – Unknown
Many women believe it is their role to make others happy before they make themselves happy. This may stem from traditionally being homemakers and care-givers and putting children and loved ones before themselves, or down to innate motherly instincts.
There is nothing wrong with putting others needs before our own, but we must ensure we do not neglect our own needs in the process.
Some women even feel guilty when they have a bit of ’me’ time. But the fact of the matter is; you have to care for yourself and make yourself happy before you can do it for others.
If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem. – Richard Bach
Never depend on someone else for your happiness, because at the end of the day only you are responsible for the way you feel. Sure, other people can make you happy by the things they say and do, and it’s great to think about another person with a smile, but don’t depend on the actions of someone else to make you happy or you will be disappointed.
Someone else is happy with far less than what you have. – Unknown
When you are feeling down this is a good one to remember. If you look around you will always find someone worse off than you who are happy with their lot, so why aren’t you?
Put things into perspective and be grateful for all that you have now, as now is the only moment you truly have.
If you want to be happy and bright, let go of your need to always be right. – Unknown
We can’t all be right all of the time, and even if we are, some things are just not worth arguing over; especially if it means that we make ourselves and others unhappy, or ruin a relationship over a silly argument.
Sometimes it is better to just let things go. We don’t always need to be right, and knowing this is very liberating.
If only we’d stop trying to be happy we could have a pretty good time. – Edith Wharton
We all seem to be so hotly in pursuit of happiness that we have forgotten what we are seeking. If we just stopped and allowed ourselves to be happy with what is, we would be a lot more contented.
Stop forcing happiness, and like a butterfly it will alight on us when we least expect it, when we are relaxed and at one with ourselves.
We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. – Frederick Keonig
Again, the message of being grateful for all the things we already do have. Every breath we take is a miracle, as are the existence of our friends, family and loved ones; these are the things we have already to be grateful for and to be happy about.
Indeed, man wishes to be happy even when he so lives as to make happiness impossible. – St Augustine
It does appear that man is doing everything he can to make himself unhappy. Whether it is through conflict, competition, envy, greed, you name it. We participate in a host of actions and indulge in emotions which do nothing to make us happy. We think that once we have this or attain that we will be happy, but it doesn’t work like that. Be happy now.
Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go. – Oscar Wilde
Unfortunately, some people cause happiness when they leave. We have all been there; wishing someone would just go away because they are spreading such negativity, well, don’t be one of them. No one likes an energy vampire!
Instead try and bring some happiness wherever you go, even if it is in a small way. It is the small things in life which often have the greatest impact. A kind word said here, or a little chuckle there. This is the stuff which life is made of.
Always believe something wonderful is about to happen. – Unknown
I love this quote as it always gives a sense of excitement for the immediate future. Each moment of our lives we are venturing into the unknown, and who knows what is around the next corner? It might just be the miracle we are waiting for. It is better to live in a place of hope rather than a place of fear.
Oftentimes when we are going through challenging times, it is when we are at the very end of our tether, that we get the breakthrough we were looking for. Always believe, and never give up.
What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner. – Colette
Life is wonderful and we can all find beauty and love and light even in the most darkest moments, if only we willing to see it. Many of us experience truly wonderful lives but we fail to recognize it. Perhaps we have been caught up in the hum drum of everyday existence and forget that each living moment is a miracle. Life truly is a great and wonderful gift.
Of course it can be hard sometimes to be happy and inspired when we are going through challenging phases in our lives, so with this in mind I leave you with the following mantra