Face it, your sex life is dull and adding new toys, sexy lingerie, and freaky porn just isn’t cutting it anymore.
Regardless if you are a fresh couple exploring your sexuality together or have been married 15 years, at some point sex will get boring.
So what do you do when the traditional ideas no longer get you guys hot and bothered? The answer is simple: step into swinging.
Chances are when you hear the term ‘swinger’ you assume the person is bed hopping all around town; or that you go to a party and grab a set of keys out of a fish bowl like they did in the 70’s.
Newsflash: this is not what the world of swinging entails.
Swinging explained
Swingers are confident sexy couples who are looking to add some extra spice to their sex lives and they understand that it stops right there.
They are not looking for emotional connections or relationships with other people; they just want a romp in the sheets with other hotties like you!
Now the idea of sharing your partner may not be appealing at first but there is the best part: there are MANY other facets to the swinger lifestyle that you never have to share yourself or your partner and you can still have an amazing time!
Before you start swinging
Yes, the possibilities are endless for adventure, but here are a few important things to keep in mind if you want to try the lifestyle.
First, be clear about your feelings, intentions, and rules with your partner to eliminate any sticky situations. As long as everything is agreed upon there should be no problems.
Second, remember you are in control of every situation.
Last, take your time and explore the many options swinging has to offer. No, you are not cheating nor is it a free pass for your partner to do so. You are simply steeping outside the very boring box of traditional tricks to satisfy yourself and your lover.
Now that you are armed with the proper info it’s time to improve your sex and step into swinging!
How & where to swing
Here are some of the different experiences you can have swinging that will surely improve your sex life.
#1: Swingers clubs
Stop letting the rumors you have heard about swingers clubs scare you from checking one out. To ease your mind a bit here is a simple breakdown of the swingers club atmosphere.
The front of the club is set up like a normal club; most have a DJ and the bar is BYOB. They also have security and offer condoms if you do not have your own. You pay an entrance fee and just walk in.
Sure, you will see porn playing on all the TV’s and you may see people having sex in the open areas. That is what makes the atmosphere exciting! Everyone understands that no means no and you are not expected to play your first night.
If you want to improve your sex life then this is the best way to start. You can talk to other people who have been in the lifestyle and ask questions.
The back of the club is where the action takes place. You and your partner can go into a themed room and have sex, you can watch others have sex, or any number of other things depending on what the club offers.
The important thing is to take your time to explore and keep an open mind.
#2: Voyeurism
This is great for beginners who are not sure if they want to take the leap into the swinger lifestyle. Go to a local swingers club (yes you do have them no matter what city you are in) and watch others have sex in the open.
If you feel confident enough take your partner into one of the rooms with a window and give others a sex show they will never forget!
Simply close the door and lock it and away you go.
#3: Hotels and private parties
Another great way to jump into swinging is by attending hotel or private home parties. Some people prefer these over going to the club and vice versa.
Try both and see what you and your partner like best.
This kind of setting is great if you already have friends in the lifestyle; they can introduce you around and you can get acclimated. Same rules apply as those at the swingers club: no means no.
Super sexy: Swinging fantasies
Now that you have a basic understanding of the lifestyle and the idea of swinging has piqued the interest of the inner freak inside of you, let us now talk about all the hot, mind blowing fantasies you can have while swinging.
Do not get it twisted; being a swinger does not mean you need to trade or share partners. There are so many other sexy things couples can do in this lifestyle to improve their sex life and never have to cross that line.
Here are some of them:
#1: Same sex fantasies
Play out some same sex fantasies with another couple who happens to be bisexual. Try some girl on girl action and put on a show in front of the partners.
Or maybe guy on guy action; hey whatever floats your boat. The point is to play with the same sex in front of the partners to get them turned on.
#2: Soft swaps
This is where couples play with each other orally but no intercourse takes place. For example, you find another swinger couple and you give their partner oral and vice versa but it ends there.
Typically after the oral you get back with your partner and have sex in the same room as the other couple. I bet you are getting turned on just thinking about being so close to another couple while they bang each other out.
#3: Full swaps
You completely switch partners in the same room and have wild sex all night long. It is pretty self explanatory, right?
#4: Cuckold
Ladies it is time to learn a new term: cuckold. Many men will not admit this, but they have a fantasy of watching you have sex with another man.
Being a cuckold is a little more involved though; it involves making your man feel less superior to the ‘bull’ in bed. However this does not have to be the case.
Depending on your relationship you or your partner may want to watch the other one get rocked in bed by someone else.
#5: Gangbang, BDSM, and other freaky stuff
By now you realize that being a swinger can bring out many fantasies including being in a gangbang, trying BDSM, or pretty much anything else you can think of.
What makes it fun and exciting is doing it with other people or in front of them. Some couples looking to improve their sex lives want to jump in completely and try these things. If that is you, then rock on!
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