The Topshop window display on Oxford Street is sporting Ghoulish Beauties to promote their Halloween inspired merchandise – these crazy mannequins are proof that it’s HOT to be a little bit freaky right now. But it doesn’t have to be Halloween to show your boyfriend your true colours in the bedroom.
Are you worried that he will think you’re a freak if you reveal your kinky side? Here’s why it’s hot to be a freak in the bedroom…
Men like a girl who knows what she likes
It doesn’t matter whether you’re into some mild spanking or love to go all the way and dress up in your PVC and leather for some hardcore S&M.
What really turns the guy on is not always what you are into, but just the fact that you have the confidence to share your secret desires and fantasies with him. He will find it new and exciting!
But what if you’ve been together for ages and never revealed your secret side?
Even better! Relationships get predictable, especially in the bedroom when you know each other inside out. You don’t have to do any guesswork any more, and things can get boring.
If you’ve got a sexy secret, you should be dying to spill the beans, because it is about to rank up your sex life like you’d never imagine! Suddenly your boyfriend is going to see you through new eyes, and that will excite him and turn him on.
Will he feel intimidated by my new kinky side?
The chances are he is going to be more curious than anything else. He is seeing a new side to you and his male instinct to explore and discover new territory will kick in immediately. You might be worried about what he will think of you, but you shouldn’t be, because that will only hold back your own enjoyment.
It is your enjoyment that he will be getting off on. He will be fascinated to see how these new games affect you, and he will want to get involved.
What if he doesn’t understand and thinks I’m a freak?
If your boyfriend rejects your new sexual personality it is only because he fears something he knows nothing about. Rejection is a defense mechanism, but it says more about him than it does about you, so don’t let it put you off. Ease him in slowly, and help him to understand the things that really turn you on.
Once he begins to see how he can be involved and give you pleasure, he won’t feel intimidated by it.
Perhaps you don’t know what you’re into but want to explore?
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with expanding your sexual experiences by exploring new sexual territories with your partner. If anything he will feel very grateful that he has a girlfriend who is so open-minded. It’s great if you can go on a sexual journey and learn together because the experience will bring you and your partner even closer.
Take a trip to a sex shop together and buy a few new toys to play with. See where it takes you. And don’t hold back in suggesting the things that appeal to you because you think he will see you in a different light. That’s the whole point! Unfamiliar terrain in sexual relationships is a turn on!
How to get your boyfriend to tie you up
Many guys are wary of getting too rough with a girl during sex because they associate it with violence, and that makes them feel uncomfortable. They don’t want to hurt you. The problem is that so many girls have rape fantasies! It’s not that we want to be assaulted; we are just turned on by the feeling of being completely ravished!
So how do you get him to lose control with you in bed? It’s very simple; get verbal about what you want.
No guy is a mind reader and this is probably the last thing on his mind. So if you want him to be more rough, get a bit more feisty while you are kissing him, tell him you want it harder, tell him you want him to pull your hair, hand him a scarf and put your hands above your head. He will get the picture and be turned on by your forward approach at the same time.
How to get your boyfriend to spank you
First of all, you have to wear knickers that draw attention to your ass. Take the initiative when you are kissing, to turn away from him so that you have more opportunity to bend over something.
Then when he is kissing your back, tell him you’ve been a naughty girl and that you need punishing. It may surprise him at first, but just keep talking. Tell him what bad things you’ve done, caress your own ass cheeks if you have to; he is bound to get the picture. If he takes the bait and gives you a little tap on the bum, act surprised at how pleasurable it felt.
Encourage him to do it again by describing the feeling and how it sent an electric current straight to your clit; or keep on telling him about how much you deserve to be punished. TIP: If he seems afraid to spank you too hard because he doesn’t want to hurt you, tell him it feels good and ask him to punish you more!
Remember… if you’re turned on, he’s going to be turned on, too!
Unleashing your freaky side can be a scary thing to do, because you just don’t know how your partner is going to react. The bottom line though, is that if you’re turned on, he’s going to be turned on too! So stop hiding all your kinky toys and outfits, and start sharing them.
It’s time to show your man who you really are! He’s going to love you for it.
I ‘m in love with a rape fantasy…and he is…we are improving our sex life every single day. Your advices are amazing and I enjoy reading them. Bless you!