No marriage is perfect, and if you came across a problem in yours, the only thing you could do is to try to solve it. You may think that your husband has stopped loving you.
1. Has He Really Stopped Loving You
Before you engage yourself in solving a problem you first need to figure out if there is a problem to begin with. You may think that your husband doesn’t love you anymore when this could be as far away from the truth.
Start looking for clues and try to find out how your husband feels, but the best thing you can do is sit down and actually talk to your husband.
Tell him how you feel, tell him the reasons why you think he doesn’t love you anymore and ask him to tell you how he feels. It could all be just in your head and could be solved with some talk and spending some more time together.
But then again, you could be right, and if your husband has actually stopped loving you, you can try to do something about it. Keep reading.
2. Find a Reason
When you’ve already gathered courage and sat down to talk to your husband and he has admitted that he started feeling different about you, have courage to ask what went wrong. There could be more than just one reason, and there probably is since people usually don’t just stop loving other people for no reason.
Prepare yourself to hear things you might not like. Keep in mind that you are trying to save your marriage here, and to make your husband love you again. You will need to work hard but if you manage it in the end, all the effort will be worth it.
3. Solve The Problem
Once you’ve established a reason why your husband stopped loving you, do everything you can to solve this problem. It is not going to be easy, but if you both promise yourselves and each other to try, you might just end up saving your marriage and loving each other again, maybe even more than before.
If you can’t do it alone, seek professional help. The most important thing is not to give up until you at least try to make things better.
4. Remind Him Why He Fell in Love With You in the First Place
Your husband had to love you at some point in his life and even though he is not feeling the same love now, it is not too late to do something about it. One of the best ideas would be to remind him why he fell in love with you in the first place.
Try to regain as much things you had when you two met as possible. If you were thinner, try to lose some weight. If your hair was longer, let it grow long again. If you two spent more time together, try to spend more time together now too.
Get away for the weekend, just the two of you and spend some time reminding yourselves of how you fell in love with each other and remembering all the good things about your marriage. Once you see that your marriage was much better than worse, you will have more strength to work on in again.
5. Increase Intimacy
A lot of couples suffer from lack of intimacy. People work long hours, don’t see much of each other and even when they find some time, they are usually too tired and exhausted from everyday life. Don’t let this happen to you, and in case it has already happened start fixing it right away.
Take a couple of days off and travel somewhere with your husband. Use this time to talk and to work on your marriage. You can start working less or part time if your financial situation allows you to, in order to spend more time together. Kiss, hug and make love.
Your husband might be just missing intimacy with you, which made him so distant at first place. Don’t let your marriage be another one that has fallen apart because of lack of intimacy. Work on it, and yes – have as much sex as you can, because physical intimacy increases psychological intimacy as well.
Unfortunately, sometimes there is nothing you can do and you will have to accept that. Marriages fall apart and a good divorce is still better than a bad marriage. Just don’t give up before you even try. Don’t hide your problems, but rather talk about them and do your best to solve them. Follow these tips and you’ll succeed in making your husband love you again.