Generally speaking, you should feel free to date anybody. As long as it’s consensual. Still, there is a dating don’t list telling you whom you should and should not date.
Nobody is saying that you should live by these rules. It’s, in fact, quite the opposite. Rules are made to be broken. However, it’s interesting to hear a dating advice every so often because it might save you a few teary trips to the restroom.
When drafting out this list, the main selection criterion, when choosing among the hundreds of guys I wouldn’t recommend for you, was the likelihood of him being the one to leave you brokenhearted. There are no definite rules of the dating game, but having a relationship with one of these guys is certainly more challenging.
1. Your Boss
Many women will feel tempted, but this is one big “no-no”. One of the main disadvantages of this relationship is the fact that it will probably end at some point in time and your former lover will remain only your boss.
No one wants their ex to be in charge of their career. Furthermore, your coworkers will remember you as the one who tried to get ahead “the wrong way,” even if it wasn’t true.
2. Your Boss’s Husband
How does one even begin to explain the disadvantages of being in a relationship with this person? No, no, no, no, no…and a gazillion more times… NO! You do not want to know what the wrath of a pissed off woman feels like. Especially if that woman is your boss.
3. A Coworker
Even if your employer does not have an explicit no fraternization policy, dating a coworker is not the brightest of ideas. If not for the fact that things at work will probably not go that smoothly after the breakup, and that your feelings will probably get in the way of your professionalism and it will all affect your career decisions, keep in mind that you’ll be spending most of your day just a few steps away from you boyfriend.
Being together is nice, but not being able to leave each other’s sight at least for a few hours is not as romantic as it might sound the first two months down the road.
4. The IT Guy at Work
I know it’s the IT guy, but he’s still your coworker. The same rules apply. In addition, he has access to your personal files. It’s true that for as long as you two are dating your internet connection problems will be solved without delay, but as soon as it’s over you might want to consider learning some IT skills because that computer of yours is not going to fix itself. Think about it! Is it really worth it?
5. Your Friend’s Ex
There’s this female code that states that your friend’s exes are off-limits. Technically, you could date this guy but, you have to admit it, it is a little weird. She might be over him, but an ex is always a sensitive issue. It is possible that you’ll do just fine, but the odds are that you will probably lose a friend.
If you still decide to start a relationship with your friend’s ex in spite of all the hardship, there’s only one piece of advice I can give you – I hope he’s well worth it.
6. Your Ex’s Friend
Nothing tastes as sweet as revenge and what better rebound guy can you think of if not your ex’s (best) friend? There’s something familiar there and you are obviously not ready to move on. Yes, those are the advantages to dating this guy. Yet, is it right to start a relationship led by anger and disappointment? The answer is…you guessed it…no.
A functional relationship is based on honesty and mutual trust, and I understand that you are mad as hell because he dumped you, but go blow off the steam some place else. Don’t rush from one bad relationship into another.
7. A Bartender
If you are a bartender yourself or you used to be one, you probably already know it – we flirt for money. That’s how we make a living. We’ll flirt and laugh until you’re broke. So, if you want to date a bartender choose the one that doesn’t work at your favorite hang-out place.
I should have called it a night, but here’s another one on the house for you’ve been such a careful reader – if you tend to get jealous, stay away from bartenders. Cheers!
8. A Musician
I have always wondered why they say “Never Date a Musician.” I’ve heard a number of very convincing arguments, the top 4 being constant lack of money, drug abuse, alcohol abuse and infidelity. Some say that stage musicians to women are what strippers are to men. They are here to entertain us, everyone wants one, and nobody gets one. A successful musician can take his pick in the crowd though.
Saying that you shouldn’t date a musician is probably a little too much. So, I say, go ahead, date a musician. Just make sure he’s got talent. Those poor fellas who couldn’t carry a tune in a bucket, but still keep deceiving themselves that they’ll make it big someday while watching their dreams drown in the nearest bottle of scotch are definitely not the best dating material out there.
9. Mr. Perfect
Beware of the prince charming. If he seems too good to be true, he’s probably untrue. Don’t let his sleek manners trick you into believing that he is absolutely flawless because you already know nobody is. A relationship with this guy could turn into anything but a fairytale.
10. Your Own Ex
Getting back with your ex can be a really bad idea. It can lead to the creation of a vicious circle of which you will never be able to get out. Do you know those so-called on and off relationships? You probably do. The last thing you want is to be in one.
Breakups are tough. You feel lonely, abandoned, and insecure. It’s not easy to start dating again, especially after a long relationship, but this does not mean that the best thing to do is to run back into the arms of your ex.
It is hard to resist that familiar feeling and the fact that he can sometimes make it all seem so easy. You should go back to him but only for the right reasons. Don’t let every minor setback in your dating life drive you right back into his arms. Unfortunately, the reason you broke it off in the first place is never going to go away.