You know what? It’s a jungle out there. Seriously, who hasn’t been played, lied to, disappointed, tired and just about ready to throw in the towel? The dating scene can get u-g-l-y. Not to mention the set of those unwritten half ridiculous rules everyone’s somehow supposed to know, be ok with and oblige to. Supposedly these ‘rules’ are meant to get you through the sometimes gruesome dating game, and even make you the winner. But do they really?
You have the ‘don’t return the call for a number of days so he’d think you have a life’ rule; ‘don’t run around rambling on about how all you really want is to get married, live in the suburbs, and have half a dozen kids’ rule; ‘always be nice to the mother’ rule… The list goes on, and it gets even stupider than this.
I mean, are we so dense about this stuff that it actually needs to be set somewhere in the back of our minds as this sacred dating rule book you simply must follow to do it right?! Who’s to say what’s right or wrong anyway? Surely dating’s more complex than that, and there is no one right way to go about it.
That being said, there are some general ‘rules’, if we can call them like that, every woman should follow when stepping into the unknown pool of opportunity that is the dating world, that can actually help her.
And when I say help her I don’t mean just help her play the game, but also help her make better choices, be more wise when it comes to picking the right one, keep her pride intact and do the best she can!
Rule No. 1 – Stay True to You
Never ever fake it when it comes to dating – or anything else for that matter, but, we’re on dating here. Being yourself is the only way to ever getting to that place where you’re comfortable around the other person. Trying to pretend you’re more this or less that is just going to make you stressed out and tip toeing all over the place, which is not the way to go.
If you catch yourself faking it and trying to be this supposedly better version of yourself go to the root of the problem! Get in touch and in peace with your looks and personality, and embrace who you are before seriously scouting the market for a partner!
Rule No. 2 – Confidence is Key
Being confident is the most important things in the dating world. You want to come off as a strong, independent, put together individual, not like some anxious, shy, nervous wreck of a girl. Walking with confidence, talking and sounding confident and basically just oozing it will work wonders for your dating life.
Men love confident women, the ones that know what they want, what they don’t want, how to get it and where to start. You know, the ones that seem like they’re not to be toyed with. Conquering a woman like this is a great accomplishment for them, so, work it and watch how you effortlessly work the crowd!
Rule No. 3 – Do Not Despair
And more importantly – don’t let it show! The stench of desperation is the last thing you need to pull you back in this ‘game’ that can already be pretty rough as it is. So, you’ve been let down by men before, you’ve been on some bad dates and you just can’t seem to pick them out.
Maybe you don’t want to hear it but you know what? Big whoop! We’ve all been there, some of us have had it worse than others but why dwell on that? The only thing you can control in any relationship is you, so make sure that you is fine, brush it off, and you know… on to the next.
Rule No. 4 – A Positive Outlook on Life Draws in Positive Things
If you’re being negative about something you’re doing it’s likely that it will not turn out that great, and it’s absolutely certain you’ll have a lousy time while doing it. Well, the same goes for dating. Don’t go out expecting to hate the guy, don’t concentrate solely on what’s wrong with him, don’t make up problems where there aren’t any and just embrace whatever’s happening instead.
This way you’ll be a lot more relaxed, and laid back. If things are going good don’t be afraid to acknowledge it, if they aren’t, oh well… Being positive and looking out for the good things instead of the bad will be more than helpful when dating.
Rule No. 5 – Trust Your Instinct
You know I don’t get why we girls tend to shut off our sixth sense about these things when we do, more often than not, get the right feel about any guy pretty early on. It will look like we’re blindfolded and don’t even want to see the truth, so we ignore that little tingling feeling that says: “Slow down, something’s not quite right here”! You know what I’m talking about! If you get the feel that something might be off about him, or you two together, go with it! No matter how much you want it to be right, if it feels wrong it won’t work!