In order to attract the attention of a man so that he notices you and only you, you have to be mercenary. Competition is tough, but luckily men can be manipulated and attraction can be manufactured! Here’s a comprehensive guide on how to get him to notice you.
You’re probably going to think that I sound like a bit of a bitch in this article, but haven’t you ever heard of that book Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov? Bitchiness is just another word for confidence, if you do it right.
The fact is that there are more women than men in this world, and half the men are gay. Your chances of finding a man to love you are slim, especially with today’s competition. It’s a meat market out there and men are on the menu.
Did you know that when you walk onto a scene you have just under three seconds to grab the attention of the man you are after before some other gorgeous woman is likely to pop up, and then suddenly you will have more to think about than just catching his eye, you then have to defeat your new rival and the half a dozen others that are just around the corner!
How do I do it? I hear you screaming internally. The good news is that you don’t have to have longer legs and a bigger cup-size to knock your rivals out of the contest.
Walking onto a scene possessing a wonderful sense of self esteem is not just about feeling good about yourself or giving yourself pep-talks. It is about knocking your opponents off-balance!
Sound bitchy? Good, it’s meant to. Do you want her to attract the man of your dreams with her vibrancy? No, much better to catch her off guard with your own vibrancy and bask in the attention of the whole room by yourself, I say. Why compete when you don’t have to?
Let me tell you my little secret… When you put on your make-up and choose your outfit, don’t do it with him in mind… aim to attract your rivals! Women can’t help but check out the competition. It’s a fact that attractive women find it more difficult to make new female friends because we naturally find attractiveness in other women intimidating.
We are competitive creatures, and who would blame us? We check out other women’s butts, breasts and bellies. We check out their clothes, nails and hair. We get secret pleasure when we spot a flaw on a drop-dead-gorgeous woman, because it reassures us that nobody is perfect.
Once you know you look great though, you will know that any woman checking you out won’t be secretly reveling in your flaws because you don’t have any! Or at least none that bother you, and if your flaws don’t bother you they are less noticeable to others.
Once you start thinking like that, you will be able to look any woman in the eye with exactly the same flirtatious confidence you will use to look at the man you want to attract. It’s a kind of open, friendly, warm, dazzling, sparkling, smiley confidence that draws people in – whether they like it or not.
You see, the trick is for everyone’s eyes to be fixed on you – admiration, envy, genuine interest – it really doesn’t matter why they are all drawn in as long as they are! Don’t give any attractive woman the chance to take centre stage. Forget the guy… focus your attentions on the women, draw them in.
If they are paying all their attention to you, they are not doing their thing with your potential guy are they! And if all the women are looking at you, you can bet that he is too!
Here are a few simple tricks to get all eyes on you…
When you enter a room you are guaranteed at least one opportunity to attract attention. It is natural pack behaviour to turn around and study a new arrival, it’s part of our survival instinct and you can use it to your advantage.
The best way to steal all the attention from a room is to make a great entrance. You can stop people in their conversations with a good entrance – believe me! Be the person that people want to see, and don’t forget to give them what they want back, a little bit of your own attention!
It’s a bit like when you’re in high school and there is a popular girl who everyone loves, and you feel great when she gives you a fraction of acknowledgment – you get that inner glow. This is the effect you want to have on people. You want to make everyone feel good inside.
People feel good when they are acknowledged, and when you go out of your way to genuinely pay attention to them. If you do this you will get their admiration and respect. That is all positive energy that is buzzing around you! Don’t knock it.
Here is a list of the most important things to remember when making a effective entrance…
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