It’s that time again, ladies. That time of year when I decide to go out and date more. Maybe it’s my fear of dying alone that prompts me to get out and about, or maybe I’m just getting tired of lonely nights and an empty bed. Regardless of the reason, I’m going out on more first dates lately than ever before. Which means, I can tell you exactly what you should not wear on your first date (from trial and error) so that you don’t give off the wrong impression.
#1 See Through Tops
One of the most common articles of clothing women wear, and the most important of what 10 things not to wear on your first date, is the see through top. You could have the most beautiful breasts on the planet (and let’s face it, ladies, we have power with our breasts), but you shouldn’t let him see through your shirt on the first date. First, it leaves no mystery, and second, it’s tacky. Cover your girls up, ladies, and he can see them when you think he deserves to.
#2 Too Short Skirts
No matter how hot it is outside, there’s no reason to wear a micro-mini on a first date. This almost non-existent piece of clothing shows too much leg and too little inhibitions. By wearing a too short skirt on your date, you’re once again leaving very little to the imagination. A first date skirt should be no more than two inches above the knee. Classy, and it still shows off those toned calves of yours.
#3 Anything Unseasonal
No Christmas sweaters in July. No fur coats in June (unless you live on the North Pole). I shouldn’t have to tell you how ridiculous this looks, and trust me, he’ll think so, too.
#4 Loud Shirts
Unless you and your guy are going to a Luau, tone it down. One of the top 10 things not to wear on your first date is anything that will make your guy put on his sunglasses. If your shirt is neon green with neon flowers, you shouldn’t wear it. In fact, it’s outdated, just toss it.
#5 Too Much Make-up
We get nervous. When we get nervous, we apply too much eye make-up or too much lipstick. I get it, I used to be like that, too. Men are afraid to kiss women who wear too much make-up, they fear it’ll somehow leave your skin and transport itself onto his. Here’s the rule of three: Foundation, a touch of lip color, and mascara. Pinch your cheeks to make them pink, and that’s all you need.
#6 Unnaturally High Heels
There are two reasons why you should not wear unnaturally high heels on your first date. First, it looks trashy. I hate to use that word, but if you’re in anything above four inches on a first date, then you’re putting off a bad first impression. Second, walking is a necessity. I know you’re thinking “Of course I can walk in my stilettos’, I was born with these babies on!”, but you weren’t. If your date wants to take a stroll around town after dinner and you’re in six inch pumps, you’re going to be very uncomfortable by the time you get home.
#7 Red Nail Polish
Yes, it’s sexy. I used to only wear red nail polish, and I love the color! Still, it puts off a bad message. The reason you should not wear red nail polish on your date is because it screams “Vamp”. No, not sexy vampire woman…vamp. The woman who will rip his heart out and tear it to shreds, after she leaves his wallet high and dry.
I know, it’s silly to think that of a nail polish, but leave the red for date three.
Unless you and your guy are on a Halloween date, then fishnet stockings are never, ever appropriate. I don’t even think these are appropriate for any date within the first three months. Here’s the thing, fishnet stockings are hot. They are super sexy and men go nuts over them (believe me, I know). But, they aren’t classy.
The main reason this is one of the 10 things not to wear on your first date is because fishnets scream sex, not class.
#9 Anything that Exposes too Much Flesh
If your date doesn’t have to think too hard to picture you naked, then you’re not wearing enough clothes. Lower the hemline, raise the neckline, and loosen the skirt. You have curves, and you have every right to show them off, just not by exposing yourself.
#10 Jeans and a T-Shirt
Finally, the last of the 10 things not to wear on your first date is jeans and a t-shirt. Now, I don’t mean nice jeans and a nice solid color t-shirt, that’s actually perfect date wear. What I mean is don’t wear those jeans that have holes all in them with a Guns ‘N Roses t-shirt you’ve been wearing since the 8th grade. Seriously, unless you’re going to a rock concert, this is not appropriate.
The thing to remember about first date wear is that you need to show that you’re a comfortable woman, and a classy woman. he has to actually listen to what you’re saying instead of eyeing your thighs all night. If your date can’t look you in the eyes because he’s too busy looking at your breasts, then you’re not on a date, you’re on a sex interview.
Wear casual and comfortable and leave something to his imagination. A pretty sun dress, form fitting blue jeans and a blouse, or even a flowing skirt and cute top are all appropriate. Oh, and no flip-flops! No.
What is your favorite first date wear? What do you think it's the most appropriate outfit for the first date?