If your man appears to be putting no effort into the romance and excitement of your relationship, understandably you might be comparing yourself to everyone else and be consumed by the thought that you deserve better… who knows, perhaps you do deserve better?
Before you pack your bags and leave though, have a quick think about what YOU are putting into the romance and excitement department of your relationship. Everyone is guilty of becoming a bit complacent every now and then; sometimes all it takes is a bit of inspiration from his lady to get his imagination rolling, and you could find yourself being re-introduced to that Stud-Casanova who seduced you into the relationship to begin with!
Besides, making up sexy games is fun, let me show you how…
Sex Game Rule No. 1
When creating your own sex games the key concept to remember is to “appeal to the unknown”. Appeal to anyone’s innate sexual curiosity and you are guaranteed to have them hooked! All you need to do is suggest something… or give part of the information.
When you entice with suggestion, it presents a challenge; a challenge that provokes a need to know, or a desire to want more.
It doesn’t matter whether you are sending a sexy message to express how horny you are feeling and what you want to do this evening, or whether you are dressing to seduce your guy into bed tonight, less is more. Give him just enough to make him want to work to find out the rest of your raunchy little scheme!
For example, I once left a very suggestive note for my partner with intriguing instructions that would lead him into an elaborate sex game that I had spent a fun-packed evening planning. The allure for him was that…
1. It was completely unexpected, I hadn’t warned him or told him anything beforehand, so he was presented with an unexpected thrill and mystery that made him wake up and take notice! A guy will be in awe of the fact that you have gone to the effort to seduce him, and even put a bit of creativity while you were at it. Guys can be a bit like little boys sometimes, and a bit of an adventure in his mundane adult routine is likely to snap him straight out of his reality-coma.
2. He had no idea what to expect, all he knew was what I chose to put in the note, and that it was a sexy note! Suddenly he had a desire to find out more, and to do that he had to follow instructions; which added to the excitement because he knew he wasn’t in control, and that he had to just submit to my wicked little game if he wanted to find out more… which of course he did very willingly!
3. The mystery of it all turned him on and placed him directly into a ‘fantasy’ situation, and inspired him to see me in a thrilling new light.
Remember: Anything mysterious is attractive! Be mysterious in the way that you present the game, the way that you present yourself, and what your hidden intentions and desires are.
NEVER tell your guy that your are bored in the relationship and that you think your sex life needs spicing up. It will bruise his ego and be more likely to put his back up. Use your own initiative instead – action makes things happen.
Sex Game Rule No. 2
It’s YOUR game so YOU make ALL of the rules. Men can be impatient, greedy and dominating. Don’t let him be. If you have gone to all the effort to invent the game, then he must stick to the rules if he wants to join in.
Of course rules were made to be broken... it’s just up to you – when. So if you are playing a role-playing game of strip-tease, and the whole point is to tease, don’t let him break the spell by allowing him to touch you… until you’ve finished your bit! He’ll appreciate the discipline, and it will make the rewards taste that much sweeter.
Sex Game Rule No. 3
Aim to appeal to all of his senses, one by one to heighten the anticipation. When you confine him to experiencing sensations with only one or two senses available it will increase his concentration and enjoyment.
For example, say the game you have created involves food. Do you want him to see the food before he tastes it? Do you even want him to know that there is going to be food involved?
I once played a very successful sex game where my partner wasn’t allowed to speak a word. I told him to take off all of his clothes aside from his boxers and sit on a chair in the middle of the room with a blind fold on. Then, with the right music playing in the background I began to remove my own clothes. He had no idea what I was doing until I threw each piece of clothing into his lap…
He started to get quite excited because he knew he was in a room with a girl who was getting naked but he couldn’t see how naked, and he didn’t know what I was doing or even where I was… until I came and sat on his lap straddling him with my legs wide open, completely starkers.
He was brimming with excitement because all of his discovery now could only be experienced through touch, and he wasn’t sure if he should touch certain places because of what he might find out… would he be able to contain himself if his hands found their way to that warm moist area between my thighs? To up the excitement you can play this sort of game in a foreign environment, for example, in a hotel room or somewhere he may think there is a risk of getting caught – just make sure that you know there isn’t!
On top of not being able to see me stripping, he had to contain himself verbally because I had given him strict instructions not to talk. I then started to feed him his dessert… but with my fingers and mouth.
Remember he couldn’t see what was happening until it was actually happening, and then he had to make sense of it all without sight as a reference, and so each of his reaction was slightly delayed with each thrilling realisation of what I was doing – which was really satisfying for me!
Ideas to Inspire Your Own Sex Games
1. Put an x-rated spin on popular family board games. I once taped random sexy tasks and questions to each wooden block of my Jenga board game so that it turned into a kind of personalised and very erotic truth or dare sex game for me and my partner!
2. If you’re a bit arty, get creative and have an evening of life-drawing with each other as your subjects! You can wear naughty lingerie or go completely bare. I once invited my partner over for a drinking session with a difference… the difference was that we were to create amazing pieces of artwork of each other using only the contents of my make-up drawer. It was very raw and intimate, and the more we drank, of course, the more we got in to it!
3. Play hide and seek with the condoms… tell him he can only take you if he can find the condom! Make sure you have hidden in somewhere on your body, you can tape it to your skin or slip it into your bra… make it more of a challenge by not keeping still… make him chase you!
This sounds very fun ;3 I must do this someday