Hand Job Techniques to Drive Your Guy Wild

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Hand Job Should be Fun  Do you know that good hand job techniques can make him grasp and groan?

You should approach and handle his d*ck with awe and lust; for his benefit, and essentially for your own. a total power-trip!  But there’s a lot more to it than you may think…

Hand jobs are not actually ranked very high on the list of things men want during sex. It’s good to know what you’re doing, because mutual masturbation can be fun and sexy; but not if you’re so bad at it that you’re distracting your partner and yourself!

Let’s see what we can do about your awkward attempts… Many women are only “bad” at giving hand jobs. They lack the confidence and knowledge they need to know what feels good for a man.

I say the best way to learn is to ask.

The first thing we need to do is acquaint ourselves with the male genital organ… a.k.a. his throbbing member…

Hand Job Techniques: The Ultimate Pleasure Guide

Common Misconceptions About the Penis

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Just because he pounds you like a mad thing when you’re having raw, unleashed, passionate sex, it does not mean his d*ck is a numb piece of flesh that needs hard, fast stimulation to get it going.  No, no, no.  Remember, he can only do that because your vagina is a warm, wet cave of delightful juicy lubrication!

A man’s penis is a muscle, which is just as sensitive as your own genital area, in fact possibly even more so; gentle is the way to go.  I have spoken to many guys about this and they all agree, implicitly (with a look of warning in their eyes), that when it comes to hand job techniques they prefer a gentle, sensual touch.

One guy I spoke to described a personal hand-job horror story to me, in his heavily French accent which added much humor to the poor guy’s tale; “This one girl,”  he said with a pained expression on his face, “It was like she was trying to make a fire!  Terrible.  Twisting with two hands… ridiculous, painful… and the way she looks while she was was doin’ it…” (He trails off into a troubled silence.  It takes him a few minutes to recover from the memory.)

Rule #1:  It is not sexy to have a vice-like grip.

Another guy I spoke to suggested to think about hand job techniques as a soft massage rather than a deep tissue sports massage.  Too soft is better than too hard! One of the most crucial aspects of giving a satisfying hand job is open communication with your man.

As you embark on a journey to perfect the art of giving a mind-blowing hand job, remember this essential piece of advice: Slow and Sensual is the key to unlocking ecstasy.

You can captivate your partner’s senses through a tantalizing buildup. Stroke By Stroke By Michael Webb: How To Make Sex Better groundbreaking guide reveals the secrets of prolonging pleasure by teasing and playing with desire. Experiment with different strokes, speeds, and pressures to find what sends him into a blissful frenzy.

Start by creating an atmosphere of anticipation. Whisper seductive words in his ear, tracing your fingertips lightly across their body. Tease his erogenous zones with gentle caresses, keeping them on the edge of their seat, yearning for more. Allow the anticipation to build like a crescendo, heightening their arousal and intensifying his pleasure.

Foreplay Starts Long Before You Unzip His Pants

Men can be greedy and impatient, wanting instant gratification.  It can be up to you to prolong the pleasure and anticipation, so that when you do come to handling it, his d*ck is erect and sufficiently juicy.

Foreplay can start long before you get anywhere near giving your man his hand job.  Dirty talk is one way to make a guy’s pants tight.  Secretive dirty talk in public places, with a bit of over-the-clothes contact can be fun!

Try standing close up against him when you’re at the bar or waiting for a bus, and discretely rub the top of your thigh in between his legs.  You can even pretend you don’t know you’re doing it… let a hand caress his trousers, edging upwards, maybe give his bum a bit of a squeeze.  It’s all about alerting his body and mind to what treats you have in store for him later!

Rule #2:  Don’t forget that hand job techniques are about mental stimulation, just as much as they are about physical pleasure.

Approaching It With The Right Attitude

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There’s just no point if you’re not going to enjoy the experience with him.  Giving a man a hand job isn’t just about getting him off, it’s about enjoying everything about the experience, including all the naughty sexy implications that go with it!

Guys like the fact that a woman wants to invade his trousers and touch something that belongs to him.  By applying some hot hand job  techniques, you’re doing something cheeky, something a bit naughty.

You may as well be a bit slutty about it, and add that little bit of extra excitement and fantasy to the mix.

One guy I spoke to said he specifically never asks a woman to touch him.  Number one, it spoils the fantasy of being invaded; and number two, if the girl initiates the act, it shows that she wants to do it, for her own pleasure as well as his – and that is sexy!

Rule #3:  When giving a hand job, be decisive.  Take the initiative and just go for it.  Take control and love every single minute!

One guy described his best hand job experience to me ;“She came into the front room carrying a full length mirror and wearing french knickers and high heels.  She placed the mirror behind her and knelt down in front of me…”

Er, wow!  Now that is the kind of confidence and initiative we are talking about.  The lucky guy got to see what was happening from two very erotic perspectives; birds-eye and behind, and well, you can imagine that the hand job lead to oral sex, and then probably full-on steamy sex in front of that full-length mirror.  Nice.  Hot, hot, hot!  Clever girl.

Hand Job Techniques To Drive Him Crazy

Now that you’ve got some creative ideas running through your head, I suppose we can start with hand job techniques. Let’s explore  exactly what it is that guys like you to do with their penis!

Girls, guys like  a woman who really enjoys it, a woman who can really get into it. How to give a great hand job?  Find out in our sincere article about it.

It’s so difficult for us to imagine what it feels like for them, isn’t it?  We don’t have a penis after all, so it’s all a bit alien.  Unfortunately there is no one technique that is guaranteed to get a guy off; because all men are beautifully different, but here are a few things to remember, and some tips to get you started.

Don’t be afraid of it.  Yes it’s big, and it’s pumping away in your hand, and it holds the key to bringing your man to his knees… but it is only a part of the body, with nerves that respond to a variety of caresses.  Your job is to have some fun with it, and keep in mind that it’s a sensitive organ that is attached to other pleasure spots nearby…

For instance, his inner thighs… don‘t forget to rub and stroke them too!

And his ass, which is perfect for some rough grabbing and squeezing to work up your own sexual appetite.

Don’t forget his balls!  Balls like to be fondled, tickled, gently scratched and massaged.  They are very sensitive to touch and can add a whole new level of pleasure to a hand job.

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Once his d*ck is erect you may want to focus your attention on the head; which is the most sensitive part, along with the frenulum just underneath.  If his penis is erect and already seeping you know he’s ready. You will have enough of his natural lubrication to start gently rubbing the head with your thumb and two fingers.  Some guys like you to add your own saliva for extra lubrication. It can be quite sexy to see you lick your own fingers and then apply them to his d*ck!

Start off with slow, gentle strokes, focusing on the head and shaft of the penis. Use your fingertips to explore different sensations, gently caressing and teasing. Vary your stroke speed and pressure, building anticipation and heightening pleasure. Remember to maintain eye contact with your partner, as it adds an extra layer of intimacy to the experience.

When it comes to hand job techniques, don’t forget to  stimulate the shaft of his penis with three fingers by rubbing up and down… one guy described this as ‘heavenly’, so it must be good eh?

Some women like to create a ring with their thumb and forefinger and slip it over the head of the penis to stimulate the sensitive ridge area and the frenulum just underneath.

Don’t use just one boring action.  You can vary the pace at which you rub; remember you are teasing him to the point of no return… If you do the same thing over and over again, not only are you both going to get a bit bored, but your arm darling, is going to ache!

When you think he’s been pleasurably tortured for long enough, you can then place your full hand around his penis.

Build up a steady pace of up-and-down movement, speeding up according to his excitement, until he ejaculates.  Some men like you to slow down at the end when they are ejaculating, and carry on for a little while, very slowly, until it’s all over.

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The Squeeze and Release: Amplifying Sensations

Explore the power of squeezing and releasing to enhance pleasure. With a firm grip around the base of the penis, slowly move your hand up, applying gentle pressure. As you reach the top, release the pressure gradually, allowing blood to flow back and intensifying the pleasure for your partner. This technique can lead to stronger and more pleasurable orgasms.

The Double Handed Delight: Twice the Pleasure

For a truly mind-blowing experience, consider using both hands simultaneously. With one hand on the shaft and the other on the base, synchronize your movements to create a seamless rhythm. Experiment with different techniques, such as alternating strokes or twisting motions, to find what drives your partner to the edge of ecstasy.

The Final Touch

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As for his sperm, well that is one of personal preference. You can catch it all in your hand and then wipe it away with a tissue… One guy specifically said “Just don’t put that sh*t on me!”  Or if your guy has any dirty fetishes he might enjoy seeing himself ejaculate all over your chest… or er, feet I have been told…

One thing that can definitely help you to further improve your hand job skills is reading Michael Webb’s detailed hand job guide: Stroke by Stroke. Believe it or not, it’s possible to give your man more pleasure with an awesome hand job than a blow job!

Returning the Favor

He might want you to return you a favor. I suggest show him what you enjoy and let him explore  various techniques to  give  you an intense orgasm.    When you get comfortable enough, you can even masturbate together. Just remember, sky is the limit!

Q & A – Hand job Techniques

What if my partner has a circumcised penis?

Circumcision does not affect the pleasure potential of a hand job. The same techniques can be applied, but it’s important to be mindful of sensitivity levels. Communicate with your partner to ensure you’re providing the right amount of stimulation and adjust your technique accordingly.

Are there any safety considerations to keep in mind?

Research on masturbation has indicated that, contrary to traditional beliefs, masturbation has been found to be a common sexual behavior and linked to indicators of sexual health

When engaging in any sexual activity, it’s essential to prioritize safety. Ensure that your hands are clean to prevent any potential infections. If using sex toys, make sure they are clean and in good condition.

How can I overcome any initial awkwardness or insecurity?

Like any new skill, mastering hand job techniques takes practice. It’s normal to feel a bit awkward or uncertain at first. The key is open communication with your man and a willingness to learn and explore together.

Elevate Your Pleasure, Hand in Hand

So, now you know what to do.  We have explored the world of hand job techniques and how they can enhance pleasure in your intimate moments. But why stop there?

If you’re looking to take your sexual experiences to new heights, there is another incredible resource for you: “Stroke By Stroke” by Michael Webb.    

By combining the hand job techniques you’ve learned here with the valuable information in “Stroke By Stroke,” you’ll unlock a whole new level of pleasure and intimacy in your relationship. From sensual touch and foreplay techniques to oral stimulation and positions that maximize pleasure, Michael Webb’s guide offers a comprehensive roadmap to creating mind-blowing sexual experiences.

About the author

Scarlett Robinson

I am inspired by the ways people interact. Human behaviour and emotions are wonderfully complex, and I want to dig deeper and understand more. This is why I explore intimate relationships in my writing. (I’m also ever so slightly kinky.)

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  • a man’s ejaculation on the tits is very sensual not only for him but her especially if she takes the time to caress her breast with the juices from her man …..I think this gives him a feeling of belong there

  • “Masturbating your man is a hot, sexy privilege.” What are we, in the 1940s?

    Only give a hand-job on your terms–to do something special for your special other.

    It’s a gift YOU’RE giving. Remember that, ladies.

  • This might be fun, but my man actually liked it when i sit on his chest and then give him a hand job.
    He can touch my ass or even my vagina if he wants too.
    Just remember! he can’t see your face so you’ll have to add a little moan or some dirty talk!

  • You don’t “masturbate a person” the word masturbation refers to having sex with oneself. You don’t even “masturbate a penis” you just masturbate.

  • also a penis is certainly not a muscle, lol. jesus, you have not the slightest idea what you are talking about. it’s hilarious.

  • also, you don’t need lubrication for a hand job. this only applies to guys who have undergone a certain type of circumcision. you are hilariously clueless.

  • The users ‘Michelle’ & ‘Gerlach’ are absolutely ridiculous.

    First, Michelle, or Miss Matriarch even, just because you’re insecure about your gender doesn’t mean other women have to be. Remember that, lady!

    And secondly, Gerlach, I’m sure every man would love to hear you’re corrections and technical term uses during intimate activities. Scarlett said the trick is to be sexy, which she definitely succeeded at with her phrasing and tips. I can confirm most everything she said her is right. You’re the only clueless one hear, sweetie!