There are so many people in the world who are going to be rooting against us. Our friends are supposed to be the people who build us up and make us feel loved because of who we are as human beings. If your friends don’t treat you the right way and make you feel badly about yourself, then they have no place being near you.
There is no reason to have people around you who you don’t enjoy. We all know those people who are really bad friends, but they’re kept around for some odd reason. We need to stop letting these people into our lives if they aren’t going to do anything to make it more fulfilled. Here are the types of friends who you don’t need to have in your life.
1. Friends who don’t have sympathy
It’s incredibly difficult to be around someone who is completely incapable of having sympathy for someone else, especially someone who is supposed to be important. Friends are there for you to lean on for support whenever things go wrong. You should be able to feel like you can go to a friend and know that your friend will try to be there for you the best way that that person knows how.
Not having sympathy is often a sign that a person genuinely does not care. People who generally do not show sympathy about anything are often too selfish to care about someone other than themselves. These kinds of people are not who you need to call a friend.
2. Friends who judge you
We all do things that are weird. There’s no way around that. Your friends are there to be right next to you doing the same weird thing. They don’t care if you are eating an entire (second) pizza yourself. Your friends should congratulate you on such an accomplishment.
You need to feel comfortable around your friends. If you don’t feel comfortable around them, then it’s almost impossible to say that they are truly your friends. Friends are people who you can be yourself with, without fear that they will judge you. You’re supposed to be silly and fun with them, not have to be on guard because you’re afraid of what they may say.
You don’t need to have people surrounding you who make you feel bad about yourself. Friends are supposed to build you up, not break you down.
3. Friends who talk badly about you
Anyone who says that they haven’t said anything bad about their friends is lying. With that said, there is a huge difference between venting about something that happened and completely bad-mouthing someone. If that person was really your friend, then they would not go to someone else to talk badly about you.
All of our friends have done something, or many things, that we don’t like. It’s inevitable. We are all human. We aren’t always going to like the things that people choose to do. However, if your friend is constantly gossiping about your private life or just being flat out mean about you, then you really need to rethink your friendship.
4. Friends who manipulate you
There are people in this world who know exactly what they need to do and say in order to get whatever they want. While these people may make great lawyers, it doesn’t mean that they’ll make good friends. A real friend will never manipulate you in order to get whatever they want.
People who are manipulative are the best con artists. They will make you believe that they truly care about you until they have got what they want from you. These people are not afraid to use you in order to help themselves.
5. Friends who don’t put in any effort
This is one of the most important red flags. You should never have someone in your life who does not ask how you’re doing. It’s one of the simplest ways to make a person feel cared about. If a person does not make any effort to talk to you or hang out with you, then they are showing you that they do not care.
A true friend will want to spend time with you, and they will put effort into your friendship any way that they know how. They won’t ignore you or blow you off for someone more important in their eyes. If someone wants to be in your life, then that person will make it happen. The easiest way to tell a person has given up is when they simply refuse to try. You don’t need people who will give up.
Friendship is one of the best things you can have in life. Friends show us how we can be loved, and make us know that people do like us. As humans, we need constant interaction and to feel like we belong to something.
You can pick your friends. You get to choose who you spend time with and who you don’t. You shouldn’t just keep shoddy people in your life because you don’t want to have fewer friends. Having a couple close, good friends is better than having a thousand fake friends who shouldn’t be in your life. Choose who makes you feel like your true self. Nothing else is adequate.
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