Personal Development

How To Stay Calm When Life Takes The Unexpected Turn

Never accept sudden circumstances that rattle you. Turn the tables on uncertainty, and overcome the worst by being your absolute best. Go on: the future is waiting.

Unexpected moments happen to everyone. There are positive unexpected moments and negative ones. All moments, however, are occurrences that we didn't plan for. These moments throw us off course, and it is so frustrating.

Serenity and acceptance are the best reactions to unexpected moments, but is that how we react on impulse? Our reaction is more like resistance, temper tantrums and shouting matches. It's vital to reach serenity and acceptance; these ideas will take you to that soothing place within you.


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Creating a new plan requires flexibility. Adapting to new situations is critical in unexpected moments. The physical, emotional, spiritual and mental reactions depend on adaptation.

Since nothing can change it, interpret sudden situations as something you expected all along. In fact, invite the unexpected into your life. As a door closes, anticipate a door or a window to open.


Life gives us curveballs. Positive or negative, these moments provide a choice we weren't prepared to make. Turn sudden situations into a welcome change. Moreover, give yourself time to decide. Hasty decision-making is detrimental.

The winning decision will lead you down a different path. The path is uncertain, and we cannot change course. Nevertheless, a positive outlook reduces the negative power the sudden situation has brought you.

A quick-thinking decision takes practice. Continued practice turns the unexpected experience into an automatic response.

Forward motion

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Going down a path you didn't envision is scary. You expect to go in one direction, and a sudden occurrence forces you to change it. After adaptation and impromptu decision-making, keep going forward.

Create a few plans around the sudden occurrence. Create additional ones in case another curveball shows up. Remain poised on reaching the goal, and don't let detours stop you.

However, your goals don't change because life does. This new direction arrived for a reason, so embrace it. The sad part is when people view the new direction as a failure.

Just because life doesn't go the way you planned doesn't mean you failed. You are going to succeed, but your plan isn't the best idea. Life is steering you toward the goal, and the misinterpretation is why many go backward instead of forward.

Backward motion

To move forward, sometimes it's best to go backward. Going backward is a humbling experience. It allows you to look to the past and think differently, resulting in a recharged, reflective and refueled individual.

Excellence in one industry won't transfer to a different industry without training and experience in the new field.

Examples of going backward are returning to school, taking a lower-paying job and switching careers. Never view this as embarrassing or beneath you.

Go for it and forget the naysayers. Play your cards right, and this strategy will propel you further than possible.


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No one reaches appreciation status before meeting the other qualifications. The appreciation phase arrives long after the final decision. You think back, wondering why this happened.

Everything makes sense as you think thoroughly. Sadness, frustration and anger subside for comfort, acceptance and understanding. The appreciation feeling then comes because you made it.

The hard road was a preparation for the eventual goal and you succeeded. Consider this the moment of clarity.

The gray areas

It's normal not to embrace every situation. Your emotions are uncontrollable and your intelligence becomes clouded. You feel powerless against it.

A loved one's death is a prime example. Grieve. Let the emotions out. Heal from the inside. In tough situations, relying on close loved ones for assistance is wise. Make the tough choices together. Get through this and you will see the other side.

As far as appreciation, you won't appreciate the occurrence now because the pain hurts too much. As time passes, wounds heal. The thing remaining is memories. Allow it to fill the emptiness inside you.


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Can you enjoy unexpected moments? It is possible. Until this point, we assume that unexpected moments are bad or something we dread. Positive unexpected moments exist.

This feeling can come anytime during the journey. The feeling can make you laugh or smile, and it is easier to accept than the bad ones.

From graduation to job-hunting, the unknown is embraced and welcomed because we expect it. Surprises are welcomed because the unknown is exciting and the outcome will be fantastic.

Things don't occur the way you envisioned, but you reached your goals. That's because we see the future with rose-colored glasses. Getting to the destination is a lot tougher than we imagined, and these struggles are the least painful way to succeed.

It's unbelievable to fathom that, but struggles prepare you for the real fight ahead. Allow cooler heads to prevail and work through unexpected changes. These temporary setbacks will eventually guide you to victory.

Share your unexpected moments and how you overcame them in the comments below. Don't forget to share it across social media.

About the author

Tonya Jones Reynolds

A professional writer with years of experience, I like adding my personal spin on various topics. I worked in various marketplaces like Textbroker and Blogmutt.

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