Love is not a matter of ration and when it leaves the building, there is no rescue. In relationships where there’s no love, nobody’s happy.
#1 Tactics
Feel free to tell me I’m crazy, but set the date when you’re going to do it. Personal advice – Thursday. On a Monday, you can’t get drunk in a club after you’ve been dumped and you have an entire working week to go through with your heart just broken.
If you’re dumped on a Friday, the one who has dumped you has officially ruined your weekend. But if you leave someone on Thursday, the person has just enough time to decide how to deal with it, and then bounce back ‘till Friday. If you’re living together, try thinking of a place you or the other person could stay for a few days, before you think of an actual solution.
#2 Be Direct
There’s no nice way to say “I don’t want to be with you anymore,” but speak the truth. If you lie, the other person might think there’s still a chance or spend a lot of time to try figure out what really happened. The truth might be more painful at first, but it will take less time to move on.
You will hurt the other person’s feeling anyway and there’s no point of sweetening things. When you lie, you’re actually being selfish because you don’t want to be perceived as a jerk when actually your boyfriend would like to know why he’s left behind.
#3 Skip the Stupid Talk
Forget about the cliché sentences. “It’s not me, it’s you”, “I need space”, “I don’t deserve you”, “Let’s be friends”… It’s cheap talk, and makes the entire time you’ve spent together cheap and insignificant. This is not the “Friends” show, you are not Rachel and he’s not Ross. Don’t copy paste the speech that has been used a billion times.
#4 This Isn’t MTV
Don’t be mean and don’t use the ugly, bitchy one liners in “Yo Mama” fashion. Welcome to Dumpville, population – You? Come on. You know better than that. There’s no reason to be mean or act like a bitch. Be polite.
#5 The Props
You’ve probably heard of that theory that you should always brake up in public places so your boyfriend wouldn’t make a scene? Forget that and be respectful. If you’re dating a conflict-loving maniac, a scene you will get anyway.
You don’t want to have a scene in front of all the guests of your favourite restaurant. Prepare some wine and chocolates at home to comfort the one that’s going to stay with a broken heart.
#6 After Saying Goodbye
A lot of people do the “mercy sex.” It’s all a matter of setting. Many people say it’s in order, but that’s just plain dumb. If the moment is right, it’s right. But be aware – it can be very confusing.
If this is someone you cared about, you could buy them a small gift so they would have a souvenir of all the beautiful times you had together.
When after a while you run in to each other, don’t hide under the table. Be polite and say “Hi”. Respect the love you had.
Saying “Hello” takes a second, but saying “Goodbye” takes forever.
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