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How to Be a Sex Goddess and Get What You Want

When your man is happy, you are in control. Read these 5 tips on how to become a Sex Goddess and start getting what you want out of your relationship.

I am not saying that men are easy to manipulate. This is just about us girls understanding a few, very basic rules about human beings, and using these facts to our own advantage.

Everyone wins in the end, no harm done. Be warned though that some of these truths aren't necessarily desirable, that is beside the point.

If you want to understand how a man's mind works, and you don't want to spend your days and nights battling against it, then be quiet, listen carefully, and start getting what you want.

Tip #1: Inflate his ego

There are so many ways I can put this…

If you rub a magic lamp, a genie pops out and you get your three wishes. If you rub a man's penis it gets hard and you can have sex.

When you rub a guy's ego the right way, he feels great about himself and suddenly you're on the same side, which means he's more likely to agree with you, or want to do something that makes you feel just as great as he does!

How to do it?

Well this is going to sound ever so sexist, and I almost hate myself for saying it, but the more of a trophy you are to him, the more you are likely to get away with murder.

If you look good and you take a pride in yourself, then he feels great when he's with you. He feels proud of you and himself for landing such a great catch, he feels smug that all the other men are envious of him, basically, he feels like the man!

When he feels like the man, he acts like the man – take your opportunity to take advantage of his manliness!

Tip #2: Make him your Number One priority in the bedroom

Sex is so much better when you're one hundred percent hungry for it because your desire feeds his desire and vice versa.

When a guy discovers he's got a sex-hungry girl who is assertive about her desire for him and confident about her sexuality, he'll basically think he's the luckiest man on the planet. He probably won't want to do too much to compromise all the great sex and how to give a great blowjob!

Make him a happy man in the bedroom and he'll just be walking around all day with a smile on his face. A happy man is an easy-going man.

The great thing about all of this is that not only do you get an easy-going boyfriend who is willing to do anything to make you happy because you're the best sex he's ever had, but you also get to have loads of fun in the bedroom with him!


Tip #3: Be emotionally independent

Emotional neediness is a turn-off. Men may not mind the idea of being ‘man of the house', or the ‘bread-winner', but when you put an emotional responsibility on them they crumble.

Why? Who knows. Maybe the pressure of expectation is too much?

Maybe they don't like the burden of feeling responsible for your happiness, and quite rightly so.

When you take responsibility for your own happiness, however, you suddenly become desirable. Every Sex Goddess knows that she can only keep her status for as long as she doesn't depend on her lover for emotional security, or anything to be honest.

When you are self-sufficient and you don't need a man, you will probably find yourself surrounded by men.

Take care of your own needs and you can guarantee that your man will be right there, waiting to be of service.

Men want to be of service, they want to be useful and they want to provide whatever you need, they just don't want to feel too responsible, because it kills the desire.

Tip #4: Ooze inner confidence

There is nothing wrong of being sure of yourself. A woman who is firmly in touch with who she is and what she wants is a strong, healthy and stable woman – and a fine catch indeed!

She is also exciting because she stirs a man's innate sense of challenge.

When you are confident, you choose your mates, you don't let them choose you. This means that you are not a sure catch, and the chase in on!

Once a man has chased you down and conquered, he will feel all the more satisfied with his kill because he can compare himself to all the other men who tried and failed or didn't have the guts to try and fail.

Inner confidence also tells a man that you are open to new experiences, and that you may even have a few surprises up your own sleeves for him to look forward to.

It's like he has found an exciting new playmate and the games can begin.

Once you have got him engaged and the game is in full throttle, he will be having so much fun being taken along on the ride, that he won't even notice that you have hold of the reins.

Steer in whichever direction you wish…

Tip #5: Keep it fresh

Great sex is about spontaneity, creativity, and imagination. If you want to be a Sex Goddess and get what you want from your relationship, then you have to keep it fresh.

Tune in to how you are feeling and make sure that you feed off your own genuine desires. Listen to your body and your mind.

What is it saying? Do you feel vulnerable today? Maybe it's time for some sexy role play? Have you had a bad day at work?

Turn that tension into something else in the bedroom and work off your aggression sexually. Perhaps you watched a film that inspired a sexy idea in your head and you want to re-create it.

Or perhaps you are bored of your surroundings and fancy a change of scene – say a dirty weekend away?

If you listen to your own needs you can keep your sex life fresh and relevant to you, which means your sexuality will always be coming from a genuine and exciting place.

The more personal to you you make your experiences, the more you will attract your man to connect with you on a deeper level too.

About the author


Scarlett Robinson

I am inspired by the ways people interact. Human behaviour and emotions are wonderfully complex, and I want to dig deeper and understand more. This is why I explore intimate relationships in my writing. (I’m also ever so slightly kinky.)

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