How to Use Sex Props in the Bedroom

What Are Sex Props?

There are plenty of alternative ‘things’ you can use in the bedroom to enjoy sex with your partner aside from your bed, you know? In fact there are plenty of items you can bring into the bedroom from other rooms in the house too, which can act as sex props to spice up your sex life. These items don’t have to be specifically designed for sex, but perhaps they should have been!

A sex prop is something you can use during sex with your partner to make sex feel more exciting, more pleasurable or more comfortable. The trick to choosing good sex props is to be creative, and to think about what kind of effect you are looking for. All it takes is a bit of imagination.

Why Use Sex Props?


There are plenty of sex toys specifically designed to enhance your sexual pleasure, but they can be jolly expensive, and often a little predictable. The fun and excitement in sex occurs when the unexpected happens, and when you discover something you like that you had no idea about before.

Great sex is about discovery and connection, and the best way to discover new types of pleasure and connect with your partner is to have fun and experiment. Besides, the crazier you are, the more lucky your boyfriend is going to feel that he managed to find a girl as sexually open-minded as you. It’s every guy’s dream!

How To Choose Sex Props…

Remember that you are looking for inventive new ways to enhance your sexual experience. So, first you have to think about what it is about your sexual experience that you both want to enhance. For instance, are you looking to increase a sense of anticipation so that you can both explore your personal fantasies? Or do you want to make the environment you are having sex in more comfortable so that you can explore new sex positions?

If you want to create anticipation you might want to think about what you can use to restrict movement, play with the senses, or create exciting new sensations on the surfaces of your bodies. On the other hand, if you want to focus on new sex positions you will probably be looking for props that will make you more comfortable in those positions. They can help you to support your body rather than titillate it.

4 Ways a Sex Prop Can Enhance Your Sex Life

A sex prop can…

  1. Restrict the way your body moves, or what you can see or touch. (Scarves, material, tape, blindfolds…)
  2. Create unfamiliar sensations on the skin. (Hairbrush, material, ice cubes, battery-operated massagers, candle wax…)
  3. Assist your body by supporting certain parts of it during sex. (Furniture, cushions, pillows, yoga equipment…)
  1. Add a psychological element of ‘fantasy’. (Clothes/costume/apron, whip-like objects or objects used for discipline, like a wooden spoon? Arrangement of furniture to imitate a setting…)

How to Use Sex Props Spontaneously

What if you are already in the throes of passion and you haven’t prepared any kind of sexual game? Then, suddenly you get an overwhelming desire to play? The trick to using sex props spontaneously is to think practically and be quick. You don’t want to interrupt the flow by going off to rummage through a drawer in another room!

If you are in bed with your partner and you have a sudden urge to get creative think about how you could use the things you have close by to add an extra dimension to your sexual experience.

Here are some ideas…

lamp the bedroom

What do you keep on your bedside table?

A lamp, an alarm clock, a few books, maybe a bottle of water?Could you take your knickers off and place them over the lamp to create a differently lit atmosphere to what you are both used to?
Or use your alarm clock to play a sex game and increase the anticipation of foreplay with your partner? You can do it by setting it to go off every two minutes to indicate how much time you both have to explore a part of each other’s body?
Could you use the cold bottle of water to stimulate each other’s bodies? Perhaps dribbling a little cold water on his chest and then licking it off with your warm tongue?
What if you made sure in future that the book on your bedside table is erotic fiction? This way you can turn each other on by reading out loud?

Use the items of clothing in some other way

Could you take off what you are wearing and use the items of clothing in some other way? For example, could your knickers be used to tie his hands above his head?
Could his T-shirt be placed over you head while he goes down on you? This way you can’t see a thing but instead you are surrounded by his scent?
Do you wear jewelry – beads for instance? That could be taken off and used to stimulate his skin, or your clitoris?
Could you take a hairband out of your hair and slip over both of your wrists? Now you are bound together like an officer and prisoner?

What about the bed itself?

Beds don’t have to be used in the traditional way either, you know? Try bending over the edge of the bed with the pillows on the floor, or lying on it sideways, with your head dangling off the edge and all your blood rushing to your brain.
Stand up and do it against the wall, or kneel at the head of the bed facing the headboard and hold onto it while he enters you from behind!

There are so many endless opportunities to use the objects around you to enhance your sexual pleasure. It is just a matter of looking for them and not be afraid to try something out that doesn’t necessarily have the effect you intend.

What Sex Props Are You Going To Use Next Time You Go To Bed?

Just for fun, the next time you sleep with your partner, get creative and introduce a new sex prop into your bedroom… Then tell us what you used and how much fun you had. The more weird and wild the better! Show off and tell YouQueen readers what a sexy girlfriend you are. Tell us how you partner reacted when you started thinking outside of the box.

Add Sex Toys

Whatever kind of sex toy you and your partner use make sure you’re both comfortable and of course, don’t forget to have lots of fun and enjoy the moment.

What’s hot sex without your trusty lube? If you’re not already using lube, head to the nearest sex store near you and stock up.

A vibrating egg, otherwise known as the bullet, is one of the most gratifying and versatile sex toys there is. What’s even greater is that you can use it solo or with your partner. With the vibrating egg, you’re guaranteed an orgasm every time, yes you heard right “EVERY TIME”

Handcuffs are a mainstream sex toy and there’s nothing dodgy about them – use them either during foreplay when you’re getting things hot or during sex itself. Read more about  the 5 best sex toys you can use with your man.

Sexy Scenarios Guys Fantasize About

Why be you every night of the week, when you could be a seductive secret agent, a superhero with a kick-ass outfit, or a chambermaid with a very alluring French accent? By pushing you to utilize your imagination, role-play ideas improve your sex life, and guys absolutely adore it!

Enjoy these 12 sexy role play ideas and scenarios that every guy fantasizes about, and spice up your sex-life tonight

About the author

Scarlett Robinson

I am inspired by the ways people interact. Human behaviour and emotions are wonderfully complex, and I want to dig deeper and understand more. This is why I explore intimate relationships in my writing. (I’m also ever so slightly kinky.)

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