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Dating Your Best Friend – Pros And Cons To Consider

Dating your best friend surely has its perks. But as with anything, it also has its drawbacks. Read on to find out whether you should date your guy BFF or not.

There’s nothing more tricky and scary than becoming the girlfriend of your one and only guy BFF.

It’s a road that can be quite rocky; no wonder most people find it hard to navigate so they just avoid it altogether.

On the flip side, traversing this rocky road can also be worth it once you find the gem at the end of the challenging trail: your true love.

So if you think your feelings for your guy BFF has leveled up, he feels the same way and you both want to give it a shot, here are crucial pros and cons to seriously consider before you give him your short and sweet “Yes!”.

Read on to find out if dating your best friend is the right thing to do.

The Pros

You can skip the awkward getting-to-know-you phase

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You already know each other’s favorite food, hobbies, major pet peeves, and the list goes on. In short, you know each other very well as you’ve spent the past years being best friends.

Having said so, once you start dating your best friend officially, you can then focus on more in-depth conversations. This can include long-term personal goals and goals you may want to accomplish as a couple.

Creating these kinds of conversations deepens the level of connection that you have with each other and makes your already solid relationship stronger than ever. Isn’t that just wonderful?

While dating your best friend, you can be yourself

Because he already knows that you’re a big fan of pizza, you don’t have to pretend that you look forward to eating in a fancy restaurant with him. You’d rather stay indoors and eat with him like there’s no tomorrow.

And because you’ve probably been best friends since third grade, chances are he knows your most embarrassing moments and he’s surely seen you at your worst.

Thus, you can just be your awkward and beautiful self without having to fear about getting judged for how you behave because he already knows and loves you all the same.

This is yet another nice perk of dating your best friend. How cool is that, right?

He’s already friends with your friends

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And vice versa. For this reason, there’s no need for group dates where either you or he gets to sit on the hot seat and gets to be asked crazy questions.

You don’t have to put on a facade just to gain their approval (and it’s the same for him, too) since they already know you and respects you for who you are.

In short, you don’t have to start at square one. This makes your relationship with each other a lot easier and smoother to navigate, another reason that you may want to say “Yes” to the idea of dating your best friend.

Lover’s quarrels can be a lot easier to deal with

Since you both know what tickles each other’s fancy and what causes each other to be turned off, you can easily avoid having petty fights.

But as we all know, fights, both the petty and the major ones, cannot be avoided while you’re in a loving relationship. Yes! This even includes when you’re dating your best friend.

But since you’re already armed with this precious knowledge, you can resolve conflicts with fewer struggles as opposed to those couples who don’t have a clue about how each other truly feels about the dilemma at hand.

The Cons

He may know more than you wanted him to

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TMI can sometimes have more disadvantages than advantages. Since he knows you very well, chances are he knows how many boyfriends you’ve had had in the past (and who were the ones you’ve slept with).

He knows your very weaknesses and deepest secrets and sometimes, there will be a part of you that wishes he doesn’t because that makes life too easy and too predictable for him.

Getting time apart can be a challenge

There will be days when you’ll need to some time away from him, a time when you crave for a kind of warmth you only get when you spend time with your friends.

However, since you have common friends, chances are he’ll be with the friends you’d actually want to spend some time with.

If so, it’s not like you can just ask him to leave so you can get that much needed time to chat with your other friends, right?

That would look totally immature and uncool. So you may end up just spending time alone with yourself and that can be really sad when you know you badly needed company. This is one downside of dating you best friend that you may want to put a lot of thought into.

Surprises can be a little harder to plan

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You’d struggle pulling off surprises for him, whether big or small because he knows and can feel it when you’re trying to hide something from him.

He knows you very well he can predict your reactions and can decipher your thoughts just by staring at you or watching your moves closely.

Having said so, surprising him on important occasions such as birthdays and anniversaries can get a little tricky and this can be a downside of dating your best friend if you love creating surprises for the people you hold dear to your heart.

Even so, if you truly want to pull one off for him, you have to get your creative juices flowing. Try to enlist the help of your squad and his, too. We’re positive they’d be up for the challenge!

You risk ruining a beautiful friendship

Breakups are inevitable, even if you’re already dating your best friend. So if ever you two didn’t work out as a couple, know that the solid and beautiful friendship you once had will be put to the test.

Depending on what caused your fallout, you may end up deciding you’re better off as friends or you may become total strangers in the end. If it’s the former, good for you.

But if it’s the latter, know that things happen for a reason and you just have to deal with it the best way you can.

If you end up losing him both as a best friend and a boyfriend, then you still got other friends, your girl squad, and of course, your family who will embrace you for who you are, okay?

Anyway, this is just if you end up breaking up but if not, your love story is one proof that you can actually date your best friend, fall in love together, and live happily ever after.

Dating your best friend: It’s worth the risk

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The most beautiful and unforgettable love stories are those with best friends falling in love with each other every single day, though thick and thin.

So if you believe in your heart that this can be you and your guy BFF, go for it. Let no one stop you from achieving the most heartwarming tale you won’t get tired of sharing with the little children and even adults who have totally given up on true love.

Just be mindful of the consequences and be careful of the decisions you’ll make as once you start an intimate relationship with a guy you only had a platonic relationship with in the past, it can be quite new and different, but all the more exciting.

We wish you the best of luck!

Have you ever dated a guy BFF? Did it work out for you? Share your stories in the comments!

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Maine Belonio

Maine Belonio is a twenty-something mom and writer who has a penchant for coffee, long distance running, Tolkien, Switchfoot, and Jesus.

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