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When To Tell People About The New Guy In Your Life

It can be tough to know when to spill the beans about your new relationship, but it doesn’t have to be so complicated. This is the best time to reveal him!

So you finally met the love of your life… or at least a great new guy who seems like he could play that role. You’ve got it all: physical attraction, fun conversation, some things in common, and mutual respect.

You can’t believe that you’ve lived so long without this person and you are absolutely dying to tell everyone that you know (and even people that you don’t know) about him.

And yes, that probably means that you’re one second away from posting a ton of couple selfies on social media. Hey, you can’t help it.

But when is the right time? You’re understandably worried about telling people too soon and then having things not work out. You also feel strange not being honest about this new development in your romantic life.

Read on to find out when to tell people about the new guy in your life.

1) If you’ve had the talk

man and woman talking while sitting on bench

Oh, “the talk.” This is one of the most important conversations that you will ever have in your relationship… and of course, it’s also one of the most terrifying. There could be a horror movie made about it, that’s how much anxiety it gives you.

It doesn’t matter how well you think things are going or how into you this guy seems. You know that with one conversation, your dreams of a real romance could fly out the window and you could find yourself single again. After all, it’s definitely happened to you before.

If you’ve had the talk with the new guy in your life and you are official, then that’s awesome. You will know that this is the right time to tell people about the new guy in your life because you’re official now. Why wouldn’t you tell them? When you’re asking yourself that question, well, that’s when you speak up.

2) If you haven’t had the talk, analyze his behavior

Okay, so in some cases, you can tell people about the new guy in your life when you haven’t officially become each other’s boyfriend and girlfriend yet. It’s possible that things are going really well, you just haven’t gotten around to having a serious conversation yet.

If you haven’t had the talk, then go ahead and analyze his behavior. You will realize soon enough that he’s either not boyfriend material after all… or that you’re definitely one step away from making things official.

If he’s already acting like your boyfriend – keeping in touch all the time, making sure you two are seeing each other on a super regular basis and learning as much as he can about you – then go ahead. You can tell people about him for sure. You don’t have anything to lose at this point since it definitely seems like you’re on the right track to being in a real relationship.

3) If you feel sure about him

Beauty seductive woman flirting with her lover

Regardless of whether or not you have made things official with the new guy in your life, you definitely don’t want to say anything to your friends or family until you feel sure about him.

As long as you can tell that this isn’t a fling or something that is very unstable, then that means that you’re certain that this is going in a positive direction. You have to listen to your gut in this kind of situation because only you know what feels totally right and what feels completely wrong.

You’ve dated guys before that you weren’t certain about, so as long as you’re sure now, then go ahead, make those phone calls (or send those text messages).

4) If there are no red flags or warning signals

If you’re wondering when to tell people about the new guy in your life, you definitely have to make sure that there is nothing sketchy or strange going on.

Maybe you really like him and are trying to ignore the fact that there are a few things that are setting off warning bells in your head. It can be really tough to realize that a new guy is not right for you after all.

But it doesn’t matter how cute he is or how much you want him to be your boyfriend. If you’ve got some major lifestyle differences or he just doesn’t want to commit, there’s nothing that you can do to change that.

It’s probably not the best idea to tell your BFF that you are dating an amazing guy if there are a few red flags that you just can’t ignore.

5) If this isn’t a rebound

Young beautiful funny couple in love having fun outdoor on the street in summer

Wondering if your new relationship is built to last? If you have any inkling that it might be a rebound, then you definitely don’t want to tell your friends, parents, and siblings about it.

Think about it. While you might not care what they think and while you might want to do whatever you want anyway, do you really want the people that you care about to lecture you on how you’re moving on way too fast? Probably not.

On the other hand, it’s totally fine to tell people about the new guy in your life as soon as you’re sure that things are going well if you’ve been single for a while. Your friends and family will be thrilled to hear that you’re in a new relationship and that you’re so happy about it.

6) If you feel completely ready

You’re the only person who really knows when something is right in your life, and that goes for relationships, work, and anything else. If you feel completely ready to spill about the new guy that is bringing you so much happiness, then what’s stopping you? It’s definitely time to speak up if that’s what feels good for you.

7) If not telling them is getting awkward

Are you ready to bring your new boyfriend to your friends’ birthday parties? To your family holidays? To your work events? To any events at all? When not telling your friends and family feels super awkward, that’s when you definitely need to speak up.

You want to be able to bring him places without having to awkwardly introduce him because you haven’t told anyone about him before.

8) If you’re not an overly dramatic person

girlfriends sitting on a balcony and drinking coffee

When you’re wondering when to tell people about the new guy in your life, sometimes you have to sit back and think about the kind of person that you are.

If you are super dramatic and always acting like the new guy that you just started seeing is your one and only, your best friends might roll their eyes when you say that’s happened again. They might not believe that your new relationship is good for you and they might even change the subject. That’s not exactly the way that you want this to go.

Not a very dramatic person? Then go ahead and tell everyone that you are thrilled to announce your new relationship. They will know that you’re for real because you don’t think that every guy you come into contact with is your soulmate.

9) If he is truly part of your life now

There’s a difference between starting to date someone… and inviting someone into your life. When you reach the point where you’re sharing your life with another person, that’s a great milestone.

When your life starts to change because of this new guy and he is definitely part of your world, there’s no reason to keep quiet. Your friends need to know about the massive change that has just taken place, and you can bet that your parents and other relatives will be wanting to know what’s going on as well. It’s only fair, it’s only right, and it only makes sense that you let them know what’s up.

Figuring out when to tell the people in your world about a guy that you are excited about is always tricky. On the one hand, you want to be honest as soon as you can because you don’t want to hold anything back from the people that you love.

On the other hand, you want to be certain that you have a relationship to even speak of. But if you follow these tips, you will always know what to do, and soon you’ll be celebrating your new love story with your friends and family.

When do you tell people about a new guy? Do you wait a long time or tell them right away? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below!

About the author

Aya Tsintziras

Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor. She loves coffee, barre classes, 90s television and pop culture. She is a food blogger at A Healthy Story and shares gluten-free, dairy-free recipes and personal stories.

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