I find second dates even more nerve wrecking than first dates. It just seems to me that there’s a lot more at stake this time around. Obviously, you liked each other the first time enough to want to go out again, so this is now definitely someone you’re interested in. First impressions are great and super important, but now it’s time to start really getting to know him and see whether your impressions of him turn out to be true or false.
The only way to do that is through conversation, and there are a lot of us who aren’t really the best conversationalists out there, go figure. So here are some tips on how to converse with your date the second time around, and what are some subjects you should stick to or avoid:
#1 Keep It Light
You want to steer clear of some of the more controversial subjects, like religion and politics. Strongly disagreeing on some of these topics can be a breaking point in any kind of a relationship, not just a romantic one, so you shouldn’t be talking about it just yet, unless it’s something you feel so strongly about that compromise is not an option, then it might be a good idea to make sure you’re on the same page before you get into it too deep. Of course, if you choose to go that way make sure you’re being subtle and polite.
#2 Follow up on the First Date Topics
It’s going to show that you’ve been paying attention to what he was saying and that you’re interested in what’s been going on since the last time you saw each other. If he mentioned before that he’s going to do something out of the ordinary, go somewhere or something like that ask him about it – how it went, did he have a good time, what was it like…
#3 No Whining or Complaining
Maybe things aren’t going that great on the job, maybe you’re not in the best mood, you have some personal problems or issues. It’s perfectly okay to mention it, and answer his questions about it if he asks some, but try and not turn your date into a therapy session. It’s only a second date, if you continue seeing him you’ll ease him in your life and everything in it including your problems. For now, let’s keep it as positive as possible.
#4 Funny Stories, Fun Times
If two people can laugh together it’s going to bring them closer together. Surely something interesting or funny has happened to you or someone you know recently. Share it with him, have a laugh. He should have some great stories too, and time spent laughing is not only a great time, it’s known to help people relax and be more comfortable with each other. On the other hand, I’d advise against telling jokes, it’s generally not a good idea when you’re with someone whose sense of humor might not match yours.
Again, as always, being a good listener is a necessary quality if you’re trying to be a better conversationalist. So, listen, nod and react to what he’s saying, no one likes to talk to someone who has a blank look on their face at all times, which leads us to possibly the most important tip of all…
A smile can go a long way.