It used to be plain and simple – if you want to follow this dating rulebook that’s got everybody all tangled up in knots – you simply have to oblige to the 3 day rule! No matter how great the time you spent with someone was, you can under no circumstance let him see you’re hooked. You need to stall and wait for the call, at least a couple of days.
I’m not even gonna get started on how I find it all pretty ridiculous ’cause nowadays this rule, at least, seems to have bent in the way of the almighty text message.
It’s becoming more and more of a routine to send a text after a good date (usually if it’s one of the first dates) and say thank you.
Now even though it’s been embraced by many people and even considered as good manners by some, there are still debates running about when it would be most appropriate to send a post date text?
The aching question on every reluctant girl’s mind is – should you type it out and press send right when you get home from the date? Or, do you wait for the next morning or afternoon?
Well there’s really no correct answer, or right time to do this – it’s up to you. As someone who thinks texting after a date is great, ’cause it basically immediately puts your cards on the table, I personally feel that texting right after the date is a safer option.
Safer in the sense that it’s obviously polite, doesn’t seem carefully thought out and isn’t out of the blue as I feel it would seem if sent the next day.
The next thing to pay attention to is how you want it to sound?
I feel like sending something like Thank you for a lovely date, I had a great time, hope we can do it again, soon :) is just right. It’s not too much and you definitely won’t come off as desperate, it’s polite and shows you’re interested in going out again.
Also, if you choose to do the texting the day after or even a couple of days it might be smart to somehow mention something in reference to the date, so I’d seem a bit more casual than a classic thank-you-for-the-date message that’s obviously been delayed on purpose.
You’ll really want to make sure your message sounds the way you want it to sound. Don’t be afraid to use a smiley face or something to communicate the tone of the message. It’s very common for people to misinterpret e-mails, chats, and texts simply because any type of communication that isn’t verbal could easily be misread.
And lastly, probably the most important thing to remember when texting after a date is this – not everyone is going to reply right away and the amount of time that lapsed before you got a response is usually not an indicator of whether or not he’s into you.
I’ve often witnessed my girlfriends go absolutely ballistic when they don’t get a response within a minute or two after sending the SMS. Really? Come on. Don’t be all like OH I SHOULDN’T HAVE DONE THIS WHY GOD WHY?!? He could be busy, or his phone could be on vibrate or whatever.
Sure, the reason for answering too late or not answering at all might very well be that he’s just not that into you. But, still, isn’t the after date text a good thing? At least – now you know.
What’s your opinion? Let us know in the comment section below.
Hi! I have a question, I just went out with a guy that I started talking 3 weeks ago on a social networking app on the phone, we’ve never met so we agreed to meet for the first time and it was supposed to be a 1-2 hour meet over coffee/tea but it ended up being a dinner as well as watching a game of sports we both enjoy. What does that mean? I am attracted to him but I don’t know, i was pretty nervous when we initially started to talk. But afterwards I started to loosen up, (and I’m assuming him as well) and everything went well. He took me home and after a few minutes, I texted him to thank him for a great time. But I’m worried if my nervousness at first might have ruined my chances of having a possible second date.. Can I get some advice?