Hi, my name is Anna Kovach, I’m a professional relationship astrologer and author of Pisces Man Secrets — the step-by-step guide that has helped thousands of women better understand, attract, and keep a Pisces man in love.
If you’ve ever loved a Pisces man, you already know how emotionally captivating he can be. His gentle voice, soulful eyes, and intuitive nature make you feel like he sees right through you. He understands things without you having to say them, and when he loves, he does so with a rare kind of depth.
But along with that dreamlike tenderness comes confusion. One day he’s affectionate, compassionate, and completely present — and the next, he’s withdrawn, distant, or lost in his own world. You may find yourself asking, “Is my Pisces man selfish?”
The truth is — Pisces men aren’t selfish by intention. They’re simply overwhelmed by their emotions and the emotions of everyone around them. Their empathy is both their gift and their burden. When it becomes too much, they retreat into their fantasy world, leaving their partner feeling forgotten.
What looks like selfishness is often self-preservation. But once you understand why he disappears, how he processes love, and what he truly needs, you can build a connection so deep and spiritual that it feels almost fated.
Let’s dive into the real heart of the Pisces man — the sensitive soul behind the silence.
Understanding the Pisces Man’s Core Nature
Pisces is ruled by Neptune, the planet of dreams, illusion, and spirituality. This gives your Pisces man an almost mystical sensitivity. He feels things more deeply than most people — not just his own emotions, but the emotions of everyone around him.
Because of this, he often struggles to separate his feelings from others’. He absorbs energy like a sponge, and when the world becomes too heavy, he withdraws to recharge.
To the woman who loves him, that withdrawal can feel cold or confusing. But it’s not rejection — it’s restoration. He’s not leaving you behind; he’s trying to find balance within himself.
Pisces men live in two worlds: one of emotion and one of imagination. They escape into daydreams, music, or solitude not because they don’t care, but because they need space to feel safe again.
Understanding this duality is the key to loving a Pisces man — he doesn’t avoid love; he simply protects it in his own, quiet way.
Why Pisces Men Can Seem Selfish
Pisces men are selfless by nature — but when they feel emotionally drained or misunderstood, they can retreat so far into themselves that it feels selfish.
He might stop returning calls, seem distracted when you talk, or withdraw into silence without explanation. It’s not because he doesn’t love you — it’s because he’s overwhelmed.
When life feels too heavy, he instinctively seeks refuge in his inner world. This could mean losing himself in music, art, spirituality, or even fantasies. He doesn’t mean to shut you out; he simply doesn’t know how to balance his emotional sensitivity with real-world demands.
But that’s where the misunderstanding happens. To someone who needs stability, his disappearing act feels like rejection. To him, it’s survival.
If you can approach him with patience instead of frustration, he’ll eventually resurface more loving, more connected, and more devoted than ever.
When a Pisces Man Puts Himself First
It may surprise you, but Pisces men do have moments of self-focus — though not in a cold, arrogant way. When they feel emotionally unappreciated, they can swing to the other extreme and prioritize their own peace over connection.
In those moments, he might cancel plans, ignore messages, or immerse himself in his hobbies or spirituality. It’s his defense mechanism against feeling drained or criticized.
But once you understand that his retreat isn’t punishment, you can respond from a place of calm instead of hurt. Let him have his space — but remind him gently that love also means showing up.
Pisces men respond deeply to compassion. If you show kindness when he’s withdrawn, it touches his soul and draws him back faster than anger ever could.
He doesn’t want to hurt you. He just wants to breathe. And when he feels safe, he’ll make you the center of his emotional world again.
Are Pisces Men Emotionally Selfish?
In a way, yes — but only when they’re emotionally exhausted. Pisces men can become so absorbed in their own feelings that they lose sight of yours. They don’t do this to be cruel — they just get lost in the current of their emotions.
When this happens, you might feel invisible, like your love isn’t being returned. But if you look deeper, you’ll see that he’s struggling to process everything he feels. He loves intensely — sometimes too intensely — and when those emotions become unmanageable, he shuts down.
He’s not selfish in the way of taking more than he gives; he’s selfish in the way of retreating to protect his heart.
The best way to help him is through gentle emotional honesty. Let him know how his distance affects you, but do it without blame. When he sees your vulnerability expressed calmly, he’s moved to comfort you — and that’s when he reconnects emotionally.
When a Pisces Man Ignores Your Needs
When a Pisces man ignores your needs, it’s rarely out of malice. He genuinely believes he’s doing his best — but his “best” often looks passive.
He might think that love itself is enough, even if he’s not showing up physically or emotionally. To him, love exists in feeling, not always in action.
That’s why you need to guide him gently into understanding what you need. Be specific. Say, “I love how kind and thoughtful you are. It means a lot to me when you check in or make time for us.”
This approach doesn’t shame him — it teaches him. Pisces men are highly intuitive, but they’re not mind-readers. Once he realizes that small actions make you feel loved, he’ll start showing more consistency.
He wants to please you — he just needs direction on how to do it without losing himself.
How to Make a Pisces Man Care More
Pisces men care deeply, but they need emotional reciprocity. They respond to sincerity, empathy, and emotional safety.
If you want him to care more, stop trying to control the flow — start moving with it. Show him that you understand his emotions, even when they’re messy or inconsistent.
Let him express his dreams, fears, and insecurities without judgment. When he feels seen, he naturally opens up. The more emotionally free he feels with you, the more affection and effort he’ll give.
Also, nurture your own peace. Pisces men are attracted to calm, grounded energy because it balances their chaos. The more emotionally stable you are, the safer he feels to come closer.
In short — you don’t have to chase his love. You just have to create the emotional environment where his love can thrive.
Signs a Pisces Man Is Growing Beyond His Selfishness
When a Pisces man begins to mature emotionally, you’ll see a transformation. He starts showing up in real, tangible ways — not just emotionally, but through action.
He’ll check in more often, make plans instead of promises, and communicate more openly about what he feels. He stops disappearing when things get hard, and starts facing them with you.
He also becomes more self-aware. He recognizes when he’s withdrawing and makes an effort to explain instead of ghosting.
This is the Pisces man’s highest form of love — when he merges his emotional world with reality. His compassion becomes consistent, and his affection becomes rooted.
When he reaches this stage, his love feels like coming home — soft, safe, and endlessly forgiving.
Is the Pisces Man Truly Selfish?
No, not at his core. He’s sensitive, not selfish. His need to retreat isn’t rejection — it’s a defense against emotional overload.
When you love him with patience and understanding, he becomes incredibly selfless. He’ll go out of his way to make you happy, to protect your heart, and to nurture your soul.
A Pisces man in love gives everything — his time, his emotions, and his faith. He just needs a woman who can swim beside him in the deep, not one who tries to anchor him on land.
If you meet him where he is — between reality and dreams — you’ll experience a love that’s poetic, profound, and eternal.
Your Next Step: Understand His Heart on a Deeper Level
If you’re ready to finally understand your Pisces man — his moods, his distance, his tenderness, and his secret fears — my Pisces Man Secrets program will reveal everything you need to know.
Sending you love,
Your sister and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
P.S. I’ve helped thousands of women in over 50 countries decode the men they love, heal from heartbreak, and build meaningful, lasting relationships aligned with the stars. Let me help you uncover the truth behind your Pisces man’s heart and why his emotions run deeper than they seem.
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