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22 Tips on How to Be a Perfect Girlfriend for Your Guy

How to Be a Perfect Girlfriend
Being perfect isn't easy, but it's totally achievable if you know what your guy really wants. Guys have a different perception of what they consider a "perfect girlfriend” to be, but still there's stuff most of us agree to be good qualities in a girlfriend. Women are not the only one's looking for their soul mate, "the One" is a guy's goal too. Apply the 22 tips below so your guy will never ever think of cheating or breaking up, because you'll be the perfect girlfriend for him.

The list of “Qualities of a Perfect Girlfriend” below is not in any particular order of importance; see which of them are most applicable to your guy's desires and preferences. There is always something your guy wants, but he is too shy to ask or tell you. Many of these things he wants are listed below, so learning how to be a perfect girlfriend – that he'll want to flaunt and watch like a hawk – has never been easier.

(Disclaimer: If you're not interested in being perfect for him – then why did you even click on this article? If you're offended by reality (men are pigs), go date a guy that's BUM and he won't have high expectations of you in return. The reason you should strive for “perfection” (it doesn't exist, really, but still) is so that you'll naturally attract a top-quality guy, and then keeping him will require much less effort.)

Think of this “little” guide as your relationship's insurance policy (and it's FREE). It's offensive, but it works.

1. Look Better (Than His Future Girlfriend).

A perfect girlfriend always gives her best to look beautiful for her man. Men are visual creatures. We like a woman that looks good, that's obvious. So take care of your looks. You don't have to look like a supermodel – not at all, just look the best you can, use body lotion, have soft, silky smooth skin that he wants to kiss around the clock.

Keep things fresh, and stay as beautiful as you were when you just met – even better, work on yourself to become even more beautiful (physically). You can hate him for wanting this, but that's a reality. It's not like you're attracted to elephants… wait, you are? :/

On the other hand, don't look good for him, but for yourself. You'll naturally be more confident and attractive when you feel good in your own skin. If you're overweight, here's the “magic pill” of weight loss: stop eating sugar (it's almost everywhere, especially “healthy” stuff, and super-especially – juices). Yeah, it's that simple. Just stop eating sugar, not fat – sugar. That's our real enemy.

Another way to look better (if you're not born with an unfair advantage of supermodel looks and enough money for plastic surgery), is to build a bigger, rounder booty. Big butts are a trend. Don't believe me? What planet do you live on, girl? This girl doesn't need to have a brain, any guy would dump you for her at the drop of a hat. Sad, but true.

2. Smell Like a Flower… Or something like that.

There's nothing like smelling amazing for your guy. A scent of a woman can make a man fall deeply in love; your smell gets engraved deeply in his mind. He memorizes it. No matter how forgetful he is. Your smell stays. He can recall it and remember you immediately. So make sure you've got a signature perfume.

Have a unique smell, a perfume he loves. Use shampoo that he loves so your natural scent makes him melt of love. Coconut, vanilla. It's so much easier to love your girlfriend if she's beautiful and gives her best to stay beautiful for you. Don't get lazy. We get each other for granted, get lazy, fat, dumb. So keep moving. Moving is living.

3. Learn the Art of Productive Nagging.

Look. As far as men are concerned, you're not “normal” 75% of a month. You're crazy a week before you get your period, you're crazy during your period, and you're crazy a week after your period – so we consider that you're emotionally (relatively) “stable” only 1 week during a month. When you feel like screaming at him, count to ten. And learn the Art of Nagging.

When you nag and complain, all men hear is “yada, yada, yada…” – it's counterproductive. And you'll only make him resentful and dream about his single days when he didn't have to report to explain his throwing-socks-all-around-the-place self to anyone (except maybe his mom).

Here's how you can nag productively:

1. don't raise your voice, talk to him as if he was a child… or in a seductive voice… you know the way you charmed your parents into buying you something when you were a kid. That tone is golden. 2. say “honey…” (or some other cute name…) at the beginning of a request and “please” at the end. 3. phrase your complaint as a question, not a statement. Let's say, he's always late – and inconsiderate…

“Honey… I don't want to nag or complain and stuff like that… (disarm him), but… you know, it would be really nice if you'd be on time (positive term, instead of “stop being late”) more often… it's OK this time (again), but would you come on time next time, please?” Add a kiss to that. Talk to him like an child that's relatively stupid. This works like a charm. Especially if he expects you to complain – he'll be shocked that you didn't scream at him, and feel a lot worse, than if you've gotten into an argument. Be discreet, indirect. If you attack him directly, he'll feel offended and he'll try to rationalize his behavior and you'll just get into a fight.

Nag and complain strategically – so it never seems like an attack, but a bit more deceptive and classy. He'll do as you say. I promise. Try this next time. On second thought… you shouldn't be making a big deal about small stuff anyway, woman! ;)

4. Love Him (Like, For Real).

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A perfect girlfriend loves her guy more than anything. She really loves him and will do anything to keep him happy and satisfied. If necessary, she'll even get into a fight for him. Loving him is the first step to being a great girlfriend, he needs to know and feel that you really love him, that there's a deeper connection – that he isn't just a rebound or just some guy you're with because you're afraid of being alone. That's not fair to your perfect match. He'll come along, don't worry.

If your feelings aren't true and it's just a “maybe” – just break up. It'll be better for both of you.

And if you do really love him… Cuddle, hug, kiss, smooch, make love and say “I love you” whenever you have chance.

5. Love Yourself (Even When There's Nothing to Love About You).

Being insecure and asking “am I fat?” 20 times a day is annoying. Stop being insecure – it's not attractive.

Your guy will have a hard time to love you if you can't love yourself first. Do everything to feel great in your own skin. When you love yourself, you are more confident and you radiate a positive energy that draws people to you. Every day when you look at yourself in the mirror say “I love you, you're beautiful, you'll have an awesome day today.” It's a 5 second ritual that could change your life.

Do good things and make other people happy – this will give you more “life credit” and it will make you feel better about yourself. Make other people happy and you'll be a happier person. It's that simple. A girlfriend that radiates a positive energy, smiles every day and enjoys life is definitely a better girlfriend than some cranky b*!ch that sucks the life out of your brain. Like a zombie. There's only one thing you should be sucking out of him (pun intended).

6. Don't Give Him (Too Many) Reasons to Be Jealous.

Obviously, a perfect girlfriend isn't just faithful, but also never makes her guy even feel jealous at all. You don't flirt around with other guys if you love your boyfriend.

Let him know that he is The Guy for you and that you need nothing other than him. He needs to feel this. You develop trust in him by showing that you are only interested in him, he also won't have a reason to be jealous all the time if you're getting a lot attention. The best way to do this is to have a “don't ask, don't tell policy” – never touch his phone, never read his emails, don't share bank accounts. When a guy feels he has space, that's when he doesn't do anything (like cheating), but when he feels “caged” that's when he does crap. And the best way to have him trust you is by not mistrusting him either.

7. Like His Friends (Or Pretend You Do).

There's nothing worse than a girlfriend that doesn't like your friends – and openly complains about them.

Sure, his best friend Joe may be an imbecile – but he is still his best friend. You can give him a friendly suggestion if you think some of his friends aren't good for him, but don't be aggressive about it. Let him make his own decisions. You are his girlfriend, not his mother, and if you continue complaining about his friends, you might just become an annoying ex.

Again, don't go at it directly, instead, be strategic. Take your time. Make it seem like it was his idea (to meet new people) or hang out with people you like. Then again, don't destroy his “power base” and friends… if the only person left in his life after a few years with you – is you – he'll subconsciously start resenting you.

A perfect girlfriend likes his imperfect friends just out of respect. As I mentioned, the worst you can do to a guy is to take him away from all of his friends and connections, this makes a guy weaker psychologically, and socially less powerful, so it can shatter his confidence – then you might not be as attracted to him as you were when you just met. The best thing you can do is to encourage him to grow his network, meet new people, etc. Once he grows, he'll outgrow his imbecile friends – over time, and they'll just stop getting drunk all the time, nobody will figure out those were your “moves” all along.

Remember, it's a game of chess, not Mortal Kombat.

8. Be a Sex Goddess. Scratch that. Be His Personal Sex Goddess.

girl kisses lying boyfriend

A girlfriend isn't “perfect” if she doesn't perform great in bed. Period.

You can't just be good in bed – you must be better than all of his ex girlfriends combined. Hundreds of books have been written for women about sex; unfortunately, most of them are complete nonsense. I would only suggest one resource for sex tips, and most men would agree with me, this guide is the only thing I'd recommend (don't read it if you are under 21 and get offended easily). Read YQ's exclusive review of this guide here.

Great sex brings you closer, and keeps you together for years, and years, even if other spheres of your relationship aren't perfect. If you ever see some “she doesn't even look nice” chick with a stud, it is what you're thinking (her BJ skills).

Find out what makes your guy go wild, and then fulfill all of his fantasies. Yes – all of his fantasies, because that's what a perfect girlfriend does. She does what other girlfriend's don't do. That's why she's not single, divorced, or married to a loser. Sex is her secret weapon.

9. Can You Even Boil An Egg? Don't lie.

dinner at home

The path to a man's heart isn't that complicated.

You need to be amazing in bed, and cook him delicious meals. Steak and BJ Day should be every day. Over-priced marriage therapists would be digging up trashcans.

I know that “contemporary, working women” don't have time, energy or the willpower to cook anymore. Nobody expects you to live in the kitchen, but visit it every now and then. It works. I know that a delicious meal is just a phone call away, but even if you make him a simple sandwich that doesn't even taste that good – it's the effort that counts, not the taste.

As it says in the Bible, Luke 12:33-34 “A real woman never let her man leave the house hungry or horny.” Okay, maybe that wasn't in the bible. My bad. But they should put it in there. You know, when a guy's digesting a big beefsteak and he just got an amazing BJ, he'd never go to war. You can save the world after all!

No, seriously, with so many YouTube video's out there, you should at least learn make the basics. If not for him, for yourself, otherwise you'll just eat processed junk all the time and or waste money on overpriced restaurants (you don't want to see their kitchen!). So, if you want to be the perfect girlfriend, get back to the kitchen, and stop wearing pants and flats. High heels and skirts, and then back to the kitchen, woman!

10. Surprise!

woman holding flower

Give him a gift every now and then. Make him feel loved and special. Do what other women will not, or do rarely, then do it more often.

A small token of appreciation is always welcome. Give him a massage. Pamper him. He'll always return back for more (if not, dump him, he's not worth your time). But seriously, most guys are not romantic. You've watched too many (bad) movies. It's a dream.

His way of being romantic is slapping your big booty whenever you pass by. Unfortunately, you'll have to get used to it. But, instead of nagging, take over the initiative. If you want more romance, organize romantic events yourself, light a bunch of candles, get some champagne. You know, keep it fresh. Travel somewhere together. Whatever. Buy experiences, not just things. And whenever you do something nice, he'll feel the need to reciprocate.

11. Appreciate Him And You'll Get It All Back (and Then some).

He needs to know and feel that you appreciate his efforts. When he is nice to you, when he makes you feel loved and special, let him know that you value him and that he's important to you. It will make him feel better about himself and your relationship.

Guys just want to make you happy. Seriously. The happier you are the more effort he'll put into keeping you that way. When you're sad, he'll feel like a failure. So, instead of telling him what makes you sad, always remind him what makes you happy – you'll see, he'll work round the clock to give you more of it.

12. Tank Up His Ego (Men Are More Insecure Than You Can Imagine).

couple holding hands

Feed his ego from time to time. Men can also have insecurity issues (even tough we act all tough, most of us are scared shitless!)

Don't let him get an ego-boost by chasing other women around, instead – give him his “ego shot” yourself. You know, he needs to feel macho and manly and all that stuff. Worthy.

A man needs to feel attractive and desired, too – you're not the only one. So keep those compliments coming. This is how men operate: tell him he looks so nice every day and suddenly he'll start caring about his looks. Tell him he's amazing in bed and he'll start performing better. Crazy, right?

The more you feed his selfish little ego, he more addicted he'll get to your love and compliments.

13. Let Him Be (Or Think) He's in Charge. And Beat His Chest. Gorilla-style.

A man wants to be “the man” in the relationship.

Let him fill that role whenever possible. If he doesn't take the lead by himself, still, sometimes it's okay to do things his way, or have him have the last word. You don't have to be right every time, let him win an argument – or even better – don't argue at all. Let him take the lead and you might actually enjoy it. Or not.

Either way, even if you're better at changing the light bulb than he is, let him do it. Let him open the door for you, take the tab, move the couch, hold the umbrella. The more you make him “work” for you the more he'll rationalize to himself his love for you. The deeper he digs, the harder it is for him to “climb out” of your relationship.

14. It's a Partnership. Not every man (or woman) for himself.

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You are partners (in crime), not enemies.

Always keep that in mind.

A perfect girlfriend is “perfect” because she helps her guy achieve more, grow further, and fulfill his full potential. Maybe even his destiny. You have the power to motivate him and help him grow as a person. And vice versa. Just remember, you're in this together.

Life can be hard. When times are tough, we all need someone to lift us up emotionally, give us energy and that extra push to keep us going. A perfect girlfriend is never selfish; she is supportive and she is there for her guy in good and bad times alike.

Just don't be one of those “movie-chicks”… not sure why they always portray the wife as some crazy woman that FREAKS the F-out when the guy loses his job? Don't be her.

15. Get a life.

woman in the forest

Life is unpredictable and can work in the strangest of ways. You cannot calculate everything. Today, you love your boyfriend, maybe your future husband, but tomorrow? Who knows? You don't know if you'll still love him 5 years from now.

Things change. You change, he changes – you might grow to love each other more and more, but also less.

That's why you should have a life outside of your relationship. You need to be busy with your life, progressing, growing as a person, growing in your career, networking and meeting new people, maintaining friendships and creating new one's. Because you don't want to get depended on anyone, not too much at least. Not emotionally, not financially. It's a psychological burden for both of you, in a way.

You need to have something you are passionate about. All of this will make both you, and your relationship stronger; thus, you'll be a better girlfriend, too. You'll also have more to talk about.

Having a life outside of your relationship is crucial if you want your relationship to survive, otherwise both you, and your guy will be too dependent on each other for your happiness. This dependency can be scary, and even evolve into neediness, fear or slight hatred. Having something going for you ensures that you make each other stronger, not weaker. This tightens the bond between you.

16. Be Better Than All of His Ex Girlfriends (Combined).

woman with oversized earrings

If you didn't already know, here's how men function relationship-wise. We compare everything to past personal experiences. Unconsciously, your man is judging you.

You need to be a better, and a more “perfect” girlfriend, than all of his ex girlfriends combined. You don't have to be the hottest, sweetest, smartest woman in the world – just better than what he has experienced before. And make him feel he couldn't do better. So that he's blessed to have such an Angel like you in his life.

And no, it's not all about looks. You and your boyfriend may have a different perception of “good looking.” While some girl may be beautiful to you, she can be not-so-hot for your boyfriend, and vice versa.

The reason he's with you, is probably because you already are better than his ex-girlfriends. In order to keep him, you'll have to continue being better than any potential chick (the enemy) that may come along.

The problem with the “be better than his ex's” theory is that… if his ex girlfriend could do stuff in bed which you can't – you'll have to step your game up. If she did something he loved and you don't – he will miss it, and may look elsewhere for satisfaction. No joke.

That's the cold, hard truth. Work on it if your goal is to be perfect for him, and erase any other woman from his sexual memory, forever.

But don't discuss his ex-girlfriends, or your ex-boyfriends. Ever. Don't bother with him with the past. It's you and him now. That's what matters.

17. Give Him (Enough) Space, Don't Be a Psycho-Chick.

stylish man laughing with sunglasses and headphones

A perfect girlfriend gives a guy space. You can't be over-demanding. Some women try to keep a guy by calling him 24/7 and being overly clingy – this won't work for long. Sooner or later, he'll get fed up and he'll want to break free by breaking up.

Instead of putting pressure on him, checking on him, where is he, why is he there, who is he with, when will he be home, why he did this and not that etc. why he didn't pick up???? Instead of doing that, chillax, and let him be free (within) your relationship.

The easiest way to keep a guy is by being able to let him go. The less you try to control his every move the more control you'll have over him, because when you trust him 100%, he will trust you back and give his best to maintain that trust.

Give him time for himself, his friends, work, whatever he needs – then when you are together, make sure he has an amazing time, so that then he is the one that wants to spend more time with you, and so that he's the one calling you all day, or waiting for your phone call etc. Turn the tables, have him chase you. That's the perfect girlfriend to 99% of guys.

18. Develop a Pleasing Personality.

The women men love most, are the one's that naturally have a pleasing (not demanding, negative, nagging all day) personality. A woman with a “pleasing personality” puts your pleasure first.

She does what you like, she pleases you in any way she can, even if it takes some effort from her side. She is devoted, she loves you and she'll do anything for you. You know – like washing his feet ;)

Just kidding. But seriously, a girlfriend that gives more than she takes in a relationship, she has a pleasing personality, and men adore women like this. If you are a feminist and you “bow to no man” – that's all great and cool, equality… bla bla bla… whatever – but you'll have a hard time to find real love.

A relationship should benefit everyone, neither just the guy nor just you. Stop putting stupid “rules” in your mind and stop restricting yourself on how you “would never do that” and whatnot.

I'm not saying you should wash his feet and let him abuse you, but give the guy some slack. If you're not ready to make him feel like a King inside and outside of the bedroom, some other woman will; she'll be considered “perfect” – you won't. There's a reason why American guys fall HEAD OVER HEELS in love with women that grew up in a culture where women “serve” men… where women are a bit more patriarchal and family-oriented. These women enjoy pleasing their man and making him happy (perfect!), they're not Daddy's Spoiled Little Princess that expects to get everything with zero effort (she ends up with nothing, in the end).

Bottom line: A “perfect” girlfriend has a pleasing personality. Are you perfect, or the perfect tense?

19. Don't Take Him for Granted.

Nothing is for granted, especially not your boyfriend (because he has a penis).

The worst thing you can do in your relationship is to get lazy. You stop paying attention to him, you stop appreciating all the little things you used to love about him, you stop having crazy sex all over the house, you stop taking care of yourself and your looks,  you start eating a ton of junk food, watching TV series and you get mega-fat. He gets a porn addiction. Stops “jumping you” all the time, you don't get the attention you need, you cheat, he cheats, he finds out, you find out. Whatever. You break up, change your relationship status on Facebook. The end. Repeat.

Then you wonder why you got dumped? No wonder. Look at you!

Don't be one of those chicks that take things for granted. Seduce your boyfriend, every day, all over again. If he's top-notch, he's a prey. Like a zebra waiting to get eaten alive! And all those younger, no-morals, g-strings, plastic-chicks are jumping at him.

It's a dangerous world we live in.

Don't take him for granted, and it'll be a way more secure place.

20. Work Out (Religiously).

woman exercising with ball

The better you look, the better you'll feel in your own skin, and the more attractive you'll be to your boyfriend.

A perfect girlfriend gives her best to get in shape, and then stay in shape. Look great for him and you'll be the perfect girlfriend in his mind. Here are some reasons why you should work out every day. Seriously, working out doubles your performance in, with half the effort.

21. Be a Woman.

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Gone are the days when women were women, and men were men.

Now women are becoming manlier every day, and guys are behaving like total losers with no self-confidence or determination. “A good man is hard to find” – so you say, but, according to many men, a good, sexy, feminine woman may be even harder to find, these days.

Women take care of themselves less and less, they get wasted, throw up on the street, drink more beer than guys, some rarely shave and have a freaking beard (scary).

That's cool and all, but not my cup of tea. A perfect girlfriend is first and foremost feminine. She knows how to carry herself, and behaves like a real lady (in public, not in the bedroom).

Again, I'm not telling you to go back to the kitchen and live by the housewives’ guide from the 50s, but still, the majority of men love a sweet, sexy woman that takes good care and knows how to carry herself. Burping, farting, wearing flats and pants. It's not hot.

22. Lift!

Oh. Yeah. I already told you to work out. Well, just in case you didn't get how important this is, here's a reminder: Lift, lift, LIFT! And you'll be the sexiest ever, not just physically, but mentally as well. Don't worry, working out won't get you buff. Keep squatting and get in the best shape of your life and your relationship will, as a result, be in the best shape of its life.

There you go. Give this to any guy, and he'll agree on at least 18 out of 22 tips – they are what make a girlfriend fabulous. Apply what you can to your relationship and you'll see immediate results. Try these tips and see for yourself.

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Jason

Jason runs a construction company, but he enjoys sharing his experiences with the opposite sex by writing about relationships in his spare time. He spends his weekends kite surfing and running on the beach.

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  • HAHAHA Ok, I really hate to admit this but this is great and 100% true and on point. LOTS of women forget about these things in the name of “quality” and “feminism” and our RELATIONSHIPS suffer for it. I’ll keep all this in mind as I prepare myself for the next great guy to enter my life. Thanks, J.

  • How much time do you think guys invest in being perfect for their girlfriend?

    make me a sandwich >.>

    • Hahaha! This is so true, I was thinking the same damn thing. I’ve told my boyfriend to make me a sandwich before, and he did. He’s asked me the same before. I think we’re both just lazy as hell, we don’t care who makes the sandwich! Hahaha!

    • I actually wonder that a lot. All I see is always about doing everything for him all the time, but what about the girlfriend? Why can’t he do things for her too? If she wants him to join her in a nice relaxing bath, why not? Especially when she makes him food, gives him sex (and more), looks good for him, gives him space, lets him have his hobbies, etc etc. Why can’t he join her in a bath or give her massages when she needs one or let her pick the date night movie? As stated here, a relationship benefits both people, not just one, but it seems all I ever see is “do everything for him”.

      • Huh !
        we , in our culture, do not have living relationships. I am with my bf since 2008 and now its 2014 ! We have met almost 7 to 8 tymes in all these years . We meet at his friends place and we do get physical. I am quite pretty but nothing helps. Nothing at all. He has changed. He has lost interest . Right now his friend has come from abroad and he is with him but not willing to talk to me . I have begged him but he has just changed . Feel helpless. Initially he was mad at me and used to text me all day long.

      • Because men are stupid, darling. You have to be one step ahead of them. Srsly, I think just like you, I feel like I’m being taken advantage of and he doesn’t see everything I do for him, but men, in reality, are just dumb. They’re like puppies, you have to train them. For example, if your man is stressed after work and won’t come home to you and wants to go play basketball with his friends, and you’ve nagged and nagged and nagged and nothing works out the way YOU want it to, then take the wheel. MEET him at the basketball court, take your kids, your sister, a friend, etc. Have a good time TOGETHER. It will work out.
        When you do nice things for people, they return the favor, especially when they love you. If you’re nice to him and respect him, he will love you even more, and when it’s your turn to get taken care of, the weight of all the nice things you’ve done for him will weight on his shoulders and he will do the same for you. But he’s dumb, he can’t take the first step because MEN ARE MEN, and women are smarter. We can multitask. We have to think outside the box in our relationship, men think they are the leader in their relationship but in reality it’s the woman. So take advantage of your femininity, you can put it to good use in a lot of places, not just your relationship.

      • Pretty Carolina, not all men are stupid. By saying that they ‘all are’ just makes you a very ignorant person. Most men just don’t know how to start a relationship because WOMEN can’t express their feelings normally. There are many men that do not care about their partner I agree, but there are also many men that really look forward to having a relationship and only wish all the best for their partner. In my opinion you, Carolina, are just a wannabe feminist who doesn’t actually see things in other people and you are way too cocky, step down a level, ok? You are not the smartest woman on earth and don’t teach people what you don’t know yourself. You are the stupid one. Get your mental health straight and don’t unify men because of one example, I’m sure you are a very selfish person (I can tell by what you wrote). Women are not smarter than men and men are not smarter than women. Period. It all depends on the person, we all know which one you are ;)

    • If the guy is a quality guy, he will also be leading with the top things HE can be doing to be a great man for his woman. It’s a two way street.

      When coaching in relationships, sometimes I get asked “But what about HIM/HER??? Why are you putting it all on me?” Easy. You’re the one that came to me. When she comes to me, I can give her ideas. When he comes to me, I can give him ideas.

      If I only tell you what the other one should do, that might make you feel better, but what does it help? Even if you know you’re probably on your way out, I always suggest “Do your best under the circumstances, be the best you can, prepare your exit, and then you can know you can leave having done your side well.”

  • i really like this guy but dont no if he likes me back we are having a school dance should i women up and ask him or wait for him to ask me

  • I love this list <3 Very honest & informative. Tells me I'm doing most things right ;) haha Now to work on the rest…

  • I’ve been reading this every night before bed for a week now, always waking up happy and light-hearted. I know I have to do it all to save my relationship with my husband. I’ve been complaining way too much on him and this is truly deeply helping me. Thank’s. And Jacks Blowjob lessons are great too, haha!

  • Holy S%#! This is 1000% on point!!!! Coming from a guy, that should say ALOT. Some women may read this and bunch up their faces and suck their teeth and they’re probably the same ones who will remain single…

    • or maybe it is because they aren’t afraid to be a little unique. Or maybe it is because they like things a little more spicy. Or maybe it’s because they’re smart and they don’t spend all their self esteem trying to be like every other girl on this planet and follow societal idiocy. And maybe it is because their boyfriends are well educated and wealthy and look for something a “little more than cookie-cutter” in a relationship.

      • FINALLY I’VE BEEN LOOKING FOR A COMMENT LIKE THIS. Seriously how desperate do you have to be to suck up to a guy like that. Jeez I really thought women had more of a life than serving men. Sure you could do SOME of the stuff in this article but tone it down a bit. Scratch that, A LOT. Really some women need to get a life other than following their boyfriend’s every command or whatever crap.

  • Okay hold on this complete bullshit, I gave it to my boyfriend and he said before I even registered my disgust at this article he said at least 75% of this is bullshit. If a guy loves you he is going to love you no matter how you treat him, yes some of these things are important in relationships but they are not a prerequisite for him to fall in love with you.

    • I really don’t think a relationship will sustain itself if you treat your boyfriend like utter sh*t, so no, people can love you, but when you start mistreating them, it hurts. And they leave.

  • i hate to admit that i do most of the things wrong,but i love him though,i wish to spend all my life with i want to be perfect for him,i try and he nicest thing is that he tries too but for a little argument i sumtyms think he will dump me.i have learnt and i love him now its time i show him.

  • I do all of these things for my boyfriend, but not because he “expects” them or from fear of him leaving me. I have a feeling that girls who read these articles because they’re afraid their boyfriend is gonna dump them need new -better- boyfriends; after they’ve done some soul-searching as to why they’re attracted to such shallow, incomplete guys. If you’re gonna be going by this list to try to hold a man down, he better be a dang perfect dude.

  • Wow, really helped! Although me and my boyfriend can’t be exclusive, it still really helped! :) I love my boyfriend lots and lots.

  • Thanks so much for this u helped me become the perfect girlfriend I always keep these things in mind thx again

  • hw i wish u girls will just stick to dis and stop venturing into attitude that shatters relationship

  • I agree with the whole – look after yourself and treat yourself with respect and if your man loves you he should do the same. Same goes with him, look after him and respect him too. All of these points are just pin-pointing the key things it takes to not only be the best for yourself – but be the best for your man too! Good article :)

  • I agree on a lot of these . There’s some I disagree on, but could you write one about guys now?how a guy should act to be the perfect boyfriend?

  • If you do all these things for HIM. He still could end the relationship for 100 reasons. Leaving YOU in total confusion. You do the above things for only ONE person. YOU. That’s it that’s all. Anything beyond that and you’re basically trying to please a whole population of men who you fear will leave you. The above is a recipe for disaster and lowered self esteem.
    If you meet the man you love, all the above will shine because you have loved yourself. He knows he’s not perfect and he know’s you’re not perfect. But the two of you together are perfect because you take care of your lives apart from the relationship. PERIOD
    I’ll also fill you in, being in many relationships. What one man doesn’t like another man will adore. That should calm down some of your perspectives while also understanding that you can’t always give what others want by becoming what they want. It’s a serious mistake.
    Take for instance a former disaster of a relationship I had vs my newest relationship. Being kind, respectful and wonderful for this new man comes so natural is surprising myself. As for the former lover whom I couldn’t look straight in the face and say “you’re awesome” just couldn’t do it. But my new guy. He rocks, it’s all cool. It’s just simple. I love the freedom of simple.
    So keep it simple. Work at loving yourself. All else will follow, and it may follow you again and again as you come closer to the ideal match for you.
    We are not all cut out dolls to pander to the ideal of all men. It’s impossible! Just catch yourself when you can say something amazingly honest to someone. That’s a sure fire sign that you’re going down the right road, also known as you’re own road. On that road you’ll meet many people and you’ll find many who you love and who love you back. Go with that and love yourself.

    • You are right. I appreciate your thoughts. Their is no hard and fast rule for anything. If a person really wants to be with you he will definately find 100’s of reasons to be with you, but if someone wants to leave you then npthing can stop him from doing this. He will find 100’s of reasons for that. You love and stay because you want to love and stay. Thats the harsh and true reality. Just be respectful andcaring to each other, that is enough to save any relationship.

  • I see a lot of negative comments on this article! I can’t help but to feel that most of those comments come from women that have been called out by what’s written for their crappy behavior….I mean…the article’s a bit long….so…if you read the whole thing then something must have grabbed your attention…or guilt. You get what you give, girls. If you want him to put in the effort the it’s a matter of reciprocity….bottom line. Oh and to the girl whose boyfriend said the article was crap, let me just say this: your boyfriend is not stupid…he knows you…he knew how to react after reading the title! He’s not about to fight with you over things he knows you won’t fix and ruin what little chance he has of getting laid that night…if anything…waving this article in his face probably made him more resentful…I guarantee he’s doing one of two things right now…either he’s grinding his d*ck in a wood chipper because he’s too much of a p*ssy to leave you, or he’s f*cking your neighbor to make living with you more tolerable…..there’s of course always the possibility that he’s also at the post office getting a change of address form right now too…so I guess it’s one of three things….maybe he’s a multi-tasker…f*cking the neighbor in the post office parking lot after he got the change of address forms…

    • Woahhhh that is really intense to say to some stranger online because she said her bf didn’t like the article… you sure don’t sound like a perfect gf..some of these make sense and are really just guidelines to being a decent person.. But the rest are bs, who wants a gf who is lifting and getting ready and trying to be someone she’s not for me, thinking it’ll make her “perfect”? That whole idea is so dumb and way too much effort for a relationship that shouldn’t be so stressful. Idk what age this is meant for or how old you are but college couples would not be into this. We respect eachother and the rest comes easy. This seems like a terrible guide for unfortunately insecure girls. I don’t know why I let someone show me this article

      • Omg thank you! I’m honestly surprised a guy KNOW this, not saying guys are stupid but guys will not look past the bad stuff they’re saying. Again thanks. Your gf(if u have one) is lucky af

  • Girls, we should be feminine, work out, eat healthy etc. to make ourselves feel good and for our well being, and if it attracts and pleases men too than so be it. But, the reason that we do the tasks listed above should not be solely for the pleasure of men, we should live life without the burden of pleasing men. We should live life for us.

    • Exactly! I feel like women have been put through a lot that they try so hard to not be overlooked as “feminine women who are useless”. And while most women enjoy looking pretty, working out, being healthy, etc, some girls see it as if they’re expected to do this and instinctively, want to do the opposite to show their independent thinking. I just think it’s sad that they can’t open their mind to the possibility that some women actually like smelling like flowers! That some women actually like being feminine and dressing up and eating healthy,working out, etc. I’m the top in my class, you know? It hurts when someone sees me and instantly thinks I’m a dumb bimbo until the moment they hear me speak. I used to be very resentful and defensive, but I won’t let anyone bring out the worst in me anymore. I am who I am and I won’t change because some girls think I’m trying to suck up to a man who doesn’t love me, or controls me. The truth is I LIKE being good in bed, I like being sweet to my boyfriend and I like being romantic. This is something you “feminist” women haven’t understood yet, SOME GIRLS LIKE BEING GIRLY!

  • I think this article should be a reminder to we ladies who get caught up in our own heads and take our life frustrationss out on our significant others. Obviously his isn’t 100% accurate for every single guy, but I think most people guy or girl would prefer someone willing to put in an effort to entree themselves for their other. It isn’t a cookie cutter template. These are tips. I’m a tattooed feminist but I still know my man loves when I dress up. I work out so I feel good, but also to give him an opportunity to compliment (or join me). Don’t hate the article. Take some of the tips and apply them. No one is perfect but everyone should try to be more considerate of others in their daily relationships of any kind. This article gives you points to consider. Everyone knows no relationship problems are a quick fix. we are people learning to get over ourselves wheter male or female. loved it. Thanks sir!

  • I feel really bad for any female reading this and believing any word you wrote. A woman shouldn’t have to change who she is for her man, he started liking her for a reason.. So she should change those things and potentially ruin the relationship?

    • And who said anybody was changing? All of these things are just common sense, if you go to couples therapy they’re going to tell you the exact same thing. A relationship requires two people not you, if you want to be single then why even bother in reading this? No one is going to love you if you treat them like complete utter shit, if you’re a pig that doesn’t take showers, if you’re a bitch to him. This is just putting your part. You act like you’re going to be doing all these things and your boyfriends going to be sitting on his ass just watching you. It’s obvious that he’s going to work on himself too. That’s why you’re together, because you love each other and make each other GROW and be BETTER each day. And another thing, I don’t believe this article, I AM the way this article reads. Naturally, I’m feminine, I work out, I treat him nice, I cook for him, I give him his space, we have amazing sex, (that we obviously both enjoy!), and most importantly, we’re HAPPY together, so please, don’t waste your energy feeling bad for me, I suggest you work on your attitude and stop attacking other women. You’re such a hater.

  • I think a relation is depent upon these tips if someone loves you then he will love you at any situation but there are some facts here that girls need to improve.

  • Not that I disagree with all the tips given in the article, but geez that’s a lot of work for a woman to keep a man happy. I guess the question is, what does the woman get in return for becoming an indentured servant? A fat, bald, wrinkled up man in his 30s who could easily pass for 60 years old? Really? You have to be super hot, nice, employed and making way more money than me if I’m going to consider doing half the stuff on this list. Yep, I said it… It’s called sexual economics… If you don’t know what it is, then look it up.

    • My point exactly. If a man won’t make an effort, why should the woman basically, like you said, be his servant? Relationships are about both people making an effort for each other. Why am I going to look good if he won’t? Why am I going to go see an action movie with him if he won’t go see a romantic comedy with me? You should both want to be perfect for each other. And no one should ever have to completely change who they are for someone else. If I’m a tomboy who likes sports and getting muddy, you aren’t going to make me become miss america. I’ll dress up for special occasions, but wearing so much make up I turn into an oompa loompa with lipstick and mascara just isn’t going to happen.

  • I agree with the previous posters… I spent years in my last relationship trying to be perfect for the guy, cooking and cleaning for him, pleasing him in bed doing whatever he wanted and basically catering to his every whim. He ditched me by text at 3am one day, saying he was with someone else and I should probably get a chlamydia test. Once a gave up trying to please people and started just being myself, I met an amazing man who loves me despite my many imperfections, and we’re getting married next month. Take this on board by all means, but with a pinch of salt. The best guy for you will still love you for yourself, even if you don’t have a perfectly airbrushed body and face covered in makeup.

  • well! i’d agreed indeed. but i’m very discouraged about cooking…uff! if i can avoid that !! i love my guy so much… & wanna make him to feel like a king… but i can’t exposed it to him..& i’m little bit lazy about responsibilities

  • I work out, because it makes me feel good. I don’t do it for him. I don’t wear makeup, I don’t try, and he still thinks I’m beautiful. When you’re in love with someone, they’re always beautiful. So I’m not sure I agree with that comment. There are valid points in here, you should always make your man feel like a man, you should always do little things to show you’re trying your best to make him happy. At the same time, this kind of looks like a rule book to becoming a domesticated house wife. We are working class women these days, we have our own issues and lives to worry about we can’t just 100% cater his needs and be in a pleasing mood. Also in a good relationship, your insecurity shouldn’t be there, you should rid each other of those pesky thoughts with reassurance.

  • I like to dress up and look good for him. But I feel like this list is pretty chauvinistic and meant for an older generation of thought. I work out and do yoga for myself. I don’t cook, he loves to. I’m pretty messy and disorganized, he’s super clean. He gets more turned on by pleasing me sexually but our chemistry is pretty much off the charts, I’m pretty naughty myself. I motivate and inspire him to be better and help him become the best he can be by supporting his interests and finding tools for him to grow in those areas. We have fun together (: Maybe it’s a list for your perfect girlfriend but definitely not for all guys. I wouldn’t date a guy who had this list.

    • Do you guys feel any wrong with these advice?
      – Have a life outside of your relationship. You need to be busy with your life, progressing, growing as a person, growing in your career, networking and meeting new people, maintaining friendships and creating new one’s.
      – smiles every day and enjoys life
      – Stop nagging all day long
      – Say “I love you” whenever you have chance.
      – Stop being insecure – it’s not attractive. Your guy will have a hard time to love you if you can’t love yourself first.
      – Be faithful don’t flirt around with other guys
      – Be good in bed
      – Let him know that you value him and that he’s important to you
      – gives a guy space
      – Don’t Take Him for Granted, Don’t Get Lazy
      – Work Out Regularly
      These are part of what the article says. I think it’s not kind of “old generation’s thought” or “bullshit” or “crap”. I know nobody is perfect, but does that mean you have no need to learn and to improve yourself? I did (and will do) try to be a perfect girlfriend because I think this is NOT about how to change my personality, my “one of a kind” to PLEASE my boyfriend, this is how to respect and care and love ourselves. It’s like if I want my boyfriend to give up smoking, I have to be the one who does not smoke. So what if I get nothing from my boyfriend? I could say he doesn’t deserve my efforts and it’s time to stop…

  • I’ve done all that is listed in here and still my bf doesnt appreciate me, let alone be embarrassed of me in public.. soo i guess this is complete bullshit!

  • You before I begin to gripe, let me just say that 1) I have been in a happy relationship for roughly a year, and 2) I am not a feminist.
    That said, I find this list very typical and idealistic. It’s to be expected, I suppose, considering the use of ‘perfect’ in the title. That is probably what bothers me most about this list. Perfection in a relationship is not a realistic expectation on either part. I certainly don’t expect my partner to be perfect; he is no different. We have shortcomings and that must be considered when determining your expectations. Second, I loathe the emphasis you place on appearance and sex. It is off-putting and objectifying, to be quite honest. Yes, attraction and intimacy are important; they should not be top priorities. You love someone for all of them- mostly for their soul, their personality. Inner beauty always shines through, even if outer beauty is decaying (even if that sounds banal).

    Yes, I know I will get accused of being a feminist or told my points are invalid or something of the like. I don’t really give a damn, though. So, go on. Assail me with words. Your opinion is as valid/invalid as mine, is it not?

    (Also, to the women actually considering following this list… I would- for the most part- advise against it. Be your self. Be considerate, but stay true to yourself. You shouldn’t expect him to be perfect or vice versa– it’s not realistic. Sex/attractiveness is not everything)

  • is no one gonna talk about how this article makes it sound like sex is the most important thing in a relationship? it was mentioned in every single part of this thing. and also, they’re making it seem like being perfect is the most important thing. i mean, if you accept him even if he’s not perfect, why can’t he accept you? i mean, my boyfriend is perfect in my eyes, but there are times when he can act a little different. and if i can accept him when he acts up; he can accept me when i act up. right? i came here looking for self impovement, and i found something really harsh that basically says “you’re not pleasing your man if you’re not the way i like my women” (this was obviously written from a man’s perspective and i appreciate your help but maybe you should consider being less mean next time)

  • I’ve been doing most of the things on this list for the last year or so. I buy him things (he doesn’t have money because he refuses to work claiming he’s disabled but he’s still capable enough to be his mom’s handyman so I don’t believe it), do everything I can for him, I cook almost all his food (we eat out maybe one meal a week and I cook the rest), I cook his favorite foods as often as I can, I look better than I did when we got together (and weigh less), I work out, I’m very affectionate and give him lots of attention, I do everything he asks of me and more….

    He does absolutely nothing in our relationship or for me. Because I do everything for him and us.

    This leads to a one sided relationship where one person is comfortable and lazy and the other does so much that she is exhausted and has none of her needs met.

  • Wow
    I love how loving him is #4 and having a personality is #18 (except its not about having a personality its actually about just not nagging him) if you honestly believe this list and you are a man one of two things are true. 1., you are indeed single or 2., you are in a relationship with a girl who is just a bimbo that waits on you hand and foot so congratulations. I’m not a feminist, but this article is disgustingly misogynistic. It is also sad that young women or girls will look at this and think it will actually land them a “perfect” man. Also, there is no such thing as perfect HELLO

  • Gosh! Its soo true :) I love him and always want him to be happy .
    But when I check out all this tips, its really helped :)
    But seriously I dun ask for repay everything i do, I just want him to be Happy :)
    Thx guy :)

  • Omg… I love everything said! I’m a great young lady…. Truly..but this just opened my eyes…. Thx

  • Hi.. I’m 34 years old. I wanna be like that… Or probably I’m like that, but it’s one problem I don’t have a boyfriend, I’m a nurse and I’ve a son, I getting old. Maybe I still waiting for a perfect men ;)
    But I can’t found him yet, how can I do?

  • While most of these points are spot on, #18, having a “pleasing” personality, irks me. Some days I’m just PMSy as hell, and I don’t want to have to change my personality just to appease him. He knows this about me, though, and he loves me just the same. You should never have to feel like you have to be happy-go-lucky ALL the time. Find someone who sees both the pleasing and not so pleasing sides of you and loves you anyway. Men have personality flaws that aren’t pleasing all of the time, either, but we love ’em anyway :)

    • Should have gone specsavers ;)
      (these tips can apply for men too yaknow, use your brain cells please)

  • Let me tell you a story. My man took on a half dozen punk thieves last night outside a bar because they stole from him. He is a hero, a REAL man; I am a feminist (which only means I don’t hate myself; feminism means “women’s equality”, not “bad women” like weak penis-bearing humans would like to think) sex goddess, cook for him, take care of him, he tells me constantly how hot I am and how AMAZING the sex is. Not boasting ijs. Anyway, how many other men do you think helped him out as he got his ass kicked? How many others were willing to stand up for what was right, to go against the odds, to fight for honor? If you wanna be all “women, make him a sandwich and give him a blow job and for chirssakes don’t ever nag” then you need to be one of the VERY FEW who is a REAL MAN left in this world. And please, don’t blame women for men not keeping men in check. If men were strong in the first place they wouldn’t have been beating women down for centuries and we would never have probably needed to vote, but if ya’ll can’t take care of us well someone has to. Think about that for a minute. lol

  • Am I the only one to think that some of these tips are good yet then the other tips are pretty much impossible to follow. At least for me my man (“fiancé”) says that I “break his balls”%100 of the time. I’m hBeginning to have a real issue with this and sadly I have no one to talk to about it. I sadly read these articles instead. My gfs hate him and no longer talk to me. Although they weren’t much of a positive influence anyways. So… (Omg I’m rambling already) what would YOU advise for the “typical” Italian man who’s BEEN waited on hand and foot by not just his past exes but currently also his mother??? I’m Canadian and German. And I don’t even thimk my heritage has anything to do with the issue. I am or once saw myself as a very self independent working professional woman. I’ve had a few very bad hang ups within this last year (right after I met my fiancé) and he was right by my side the entire way!!! Now I feel as though I’m indebted to him for life! He’s been supportive of me physically and financially BUT LACKS HUGE in the emotional dept. And I try try try to explain myself without pushing judgement on him and I use “I feel” statements a lot. I also try hard not to use those “you always” or “you never” comments either. BUT WHAT DO I DO WHEN HE REALLY DOESNT TAKE MY FEELINGS INTO CONSIDERATION. is it bad of me to abstain from sex because he’s pissed me off so badly?? Am I really making this worse than it should be??? How can I have him see things from my point of view without becoming a cave woman??? I won’t be dragged around by NO MAN!!! Is there such a thing as even and fair COMPROMISE????? Seriously.

  • I guess I’m the other 10% then. I was raised Egalitarian and son of these things dont reflect me. I dont need a woman to “Stroke My Ego” because I’m already fully confident in myself. I dont want nor do I need a woman cooking for me. (I’m a better cook than any woman I meet would be) and being “Feminine” is so outdated. “Feminine” girls are annoying. There WAY to high maintenance and high strung, there wimps and can’t work for shit and when danger or an issue comes there only solution is too hide behind me or cry (If by herself) I want to date a strong woman not a 12 year old little girl who wants to play with glitter and than cries when someone hits them….nuh uh..

  • This is nice and all, but it sounds like it needs a few pointers. First, since when is being feminist bad? I mean, I’m all for making a good meal and cleaning up, but it’s nice if the guy helps with the so called “womans work” too. And second, and afterward I’ll shut trap, woman like to feel appreciated as well. Not the clingy, connected at the hip appreciated, but you get the point (I hope). Sometimes it’s good for the guy to a few of these tricks. It kinda works both ways really, in my opinion. Hate all you want.

  • this is really good advice. I just got into my first proper relationship and I have no clue what I’m doing so thank you :)

  • I am having trouble in my relationship mainly because I cannot to 21…. it’s so hard to be feminine…. We’ve been talking for a year to keep our relationship healthy over this topic…. I think it’s kind of related to 1,2,5,13 also… He doesn’t want me to be pretend to be feminine since he thinks I am just doing it for him. He like me wearing make-up, skirt, and having long hair. I started doing it because of him, but it sometimes makes me sad because it’s not my style that I used to have, even when I met him… when he asked me out…. it’s so hard to accept that he doesn’t like my style because I thought he was ok with it….. I thought that’s why he wanted to be in a relationship…. How can girls be feminine so naturally without being told? I don’t really understand. I like boyish girls. Why men don’t like them?? I am so sad … : (

  • These are all valid in finding a guy, but if you want someone to love you for who you are, you have to be who you are first.

  • I love the part where you describe for Work-Out… I agree with it, as my boyfriend is so particular about my fitness & Health :P
    There must be tips for things every guy should do to be the perfect boyfriend.

  • Oh, thank you Jason. I will definitely try this with Tyga. Blac Chyna ain’t gonna stop our love for each other. Yep! I’ll be better than all of his ex’s combined!!! Actually I already am! Love you, Tyga…!!

  • This article has great points, but this is only what one type of men want, and seemingly written about immature men. Once you’re in a relationship, (if it’s worth anything to him or if he just agreed half-heartedly) guys don’t care about the hype, the feminine stuff, being “fit, pretty, and perfect.” Guys don’t care about makeup. They don’t care about your weight. You don’t have to try crazy things in bed that make you uncomfortable. Sure, these are good ideas, but the format of the article is written to say “you NEED to do this and NEED to do that” on which i dont agree. This is whats wrong with young girls. They’re being told they HAVE to be a badass and all sorts of things they arent to keep a guy.
    Maybe this pertains to new relationships, but when you’re going on 3+ years with your man, you will cut the crap and get down to the basics of what a great, long lasting relationship actually consists of.

  • The only thing, and I mean the only thing, I nag my boyfriend about is his drinking and weight. He likes it. It keeps him on track. I have to nag him about it or he’ll let himself go. One thing that makes women go crazy with excitement is a man who takes care of his physic. Beer bellies are disgusting.

  • This is crap. NOTHING is wrong with wanted to be treated equally. Every woman that follows these stupid rules are stupid

  • This is amazing. This list is exactly what I as a gal look for in a boyfriend. Here I was feeling guilty for constantly judging my bf and comparing him to past exes and other guys I’m attracted to. This article thankfully let me go of that guilt and embrace leaving him when he no longer continues to be better than other guys.

  • I have become a complete monster from insecurity. Thank you so much I now believe i can change and become a good person again.

  • I feel like stabbing my eyes out after reading this. “Equality blah blah whatever”. You are what’s wrong with the world.

  • It depends on what type of guy you have, and what things he likes. Lol I just wanted to comment something!

  • Hi! Your article was…interesting. Just wanted to point out one thing however. Being a feminist or blah blah blah (as you so eloquently put it), isn’t about not wanting to bow down to men. In fact, a good man is also a feminist! Feminism is believing in gender equality, and rejecting discrimination against women! Being a feminist does not predisposition you to having a more difficult time finding love as you say. On the contrary, it is the foundation for a deeper and more enriched connection. Feminists can also be feminine…. As well as interesting, intelligent, sexy and ambitious. Think about it! Or whatever.

  • This is all so true… But I already do most of this by nature, it’s just how I am. Very feminine and sweet, I love to love and be loved in return. My boyfriend is a very sweet man so we’ve never really had any issues on this.
    I think some girls are misunderstanding some of this, I mean you don’t have to have low self esteem bc you want to be the “perfect girlfriend”. There’s no such thing as perfect, but there is such a thing as being the best you can be. And I think what you girls don’t understand is that it is expected that the man put his part as well, not just the girl, this is an article called “21 TIPS ON HOW TO BE A PERFECT GIRLFRIEND FOR YOUR GUY”, it’s NOT an article on “HOW TO BE THE PERFECT BOYFRIEND”, okay, ladies? Tone it down a bit, girls that want to be this way for their man don’t deserve to be called self conscious, pathetic, stupid, or degrading, etc. If you don’t want to do this and your relationship is going good, that’s so great for you and I am truly truly happy! There’s nothing I want more than to see my fellow sisters happy with their significant other. I believe real happiness comes from relationships, family and friends. And for you to discriminate another woman by calling her all these rude things is truly ugly, it shows you’re an ugly person on the inside. So please, ladies, have more respect.

  • You knw what, i tink this is it……you sounded wow i tink am gonna try some of this tips it might help out

  • I’m really going to try this and see if it really helps even though three guys like me at school and its driving me crazy…

  • Jason ve seen many stuff i mean articles and books but ve never got something good and helpful like this.please dont care about those people who re against your ideas becouse they got here becouse they had typed on how to become a good girlfriend if they re not happy with ur answer its clear they want to remain with this name “bad girl friends”.my point is keep on helping us to build our relationship with our man coz the world we live in everything is a fight.and i promise to read this every day before my “good morning swthrt” message in the morning.again Thank you

  • I love this. This is me. Pleasing. My friebds think I am stuck in the 50s but this is just who I am. And my alpha male boyfriend loves it. We have been together for 7 months. No arguments. Happy. He wants to find over every night. He takes great care of me and vice versa.

  • This is by far the absolute best advice/article Ive read on how to be a better mate. Excellent and true.. I loved it because I have a boyfriend who I adore and all of the things listed here comes natural from me to him.

  • This is rubish…you don’t have to ‘work out’ ‘look the part’ or be ‘a women’ to get your self a boyfriend…if someone likes you they will like you for you…don’t change your self!
    You are perfect!!

  • “Stop eating sugar” is probably the worst piece of advice you could give. Why? Because sugar contains glucose that surprise surprise your body needs. You actually need it to create energy, so cutting sugar out completely will seriously damage your health

  • “Gone are the days when women were women, and men were men.
    Now women are becoming manlier every day, and guys are behaving like total losers with no self-confidence or determination.”
    When you say this I really hope you don’t mean that women have no self-confidence or determination.

  • Gotta love this guy for telling it like it is about these women these days. This feminist crap and women becoming manlier is honestly not okay.

    Anyhow.

    I love all of the tips and I feel like this article could really help me in my own relationship. I won’t lie, AI have been guilty of being lazy. My boyfriend hates it. After reading this, I see how that is a complete turn off. Seeing how we just got into an argument about my laziness just this morning, I’m getting on this sh** asap!

  • Ur an asshole. Plain and simple. Men r not in charge and/or dominant over woman. If I want to hold the goddamned umbrella, or open my own car door, then that’s my right. And if my boyfriend really loves me, he will love me even when I have a few extra pounds. So u and ur terrible advice can go to hell

  • This is seriously terrible advice. Give a BJ to guys and be amazing in bed to win a guys attention?
    I don’t want to sound like a stuck up but that is truly disgusting. Women should be encouraged to be pure and chaste not only the body but with the heart. Girls should originally be treated with respect and dignity. I am proud to have stayed single and kept my chastity because of my faith and my love for Christ.
    Waiting for the right guy is always going to be hard and rare because in the end that guy has to be someone special. I would go to church, study the Bible, and get married at church. Talk to women of faith and take religion seriously. When you respect yourself and truly value yourself, then you treat other as well. The guy does not have to be that perfect person, the job starts with you. If you want to meet the perfect guy, the job still starts with you. I hope you give more solemn and carefully thought out advise to young women.

  • im 13 and I have this MAJOR crush on guy ive had it for 7 months or so. iv talked to him on instagram but we never talk in person and I glance at him and he looks at me all the time. he tells a joke GLANCE A ME and I don’t know what to do! help?

  • This article was far worse than what I thought it would be. There are sections in there that make legitimate sense, such as loving yourself or valuing your happiness, but then you completely contradict yourself by saying a woman should not share all of her feelings, including the sad ones. How is that supposed to make her happy? How is being forced into discomfort for the sole sake of maintaining appearance a happy relationship? In short, it’s not. Just more sexist drivel from a clueless guy. If this is how, “most guys” are, then I’ll happily die a single woman.

  • HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!! Okay, I read the warning in the beginning that this would be offensive and parts of it were, a lot of it I could understand, and most of it I could look past. But then he implied that it is unattractive or unfeminine for women to wear flats and pants. Flats… and pants…. So like, regular shit that most women wear everyday…. Are you sure you don’t want to go back to the standards of the 50’s? Are we supposed to wear heels and skirts all the time then?? I don’t know if the writer knows how ridiculous this really sounds. There other things I really disagreed with, but the absurdity of this comment was calling my name. “Melinda, Melinda, please! Point me out and make fun of how silly I am! I was written with such laughable ignorance! Don’t be surprised if you find out the writer is a diehard Trump supporter!” I’m going to be giggling to myself all day thinking back to this comment. That’s all I’ll say about that, I doubt that the author pays attention to these comments, and if he did, I doubt that he would listen to them or consider the possibility that he was wrong in stating anything that he did. If I thought he might understand, I would try to be nicer and explain to him why he is wrong, but I know enough people like him to know that its most likely a waste of energy to try that… Did you read that last bit girls? Please don’t waste your energy, save it for more likely causes. You could become exhausted with people trying to argue with the ones who think like this. Melinda out.

  • I’m a guy who is relatively conservative, but this is horrible advice..
    Basically to be a perfect girlfriend, do everything and be everything to him… BTW, expect nothing….classic
    If this is what is found a blog website for women, then feminists are fighting the wrong battle

  • you know what why do you need to change to be with a boy ladies? this is the most outrageous article I have ever read in my 20 years of living. For example why do you need to look prettier than his ex girlfriend? Hello he broke up with HIS EX for a reason!!!!! Don’t try to look like somebody you’re not, just look like you. He chose you for a reason. smell like a flower it says, why do you need to smell like a flower? I mean seriously you don’t always need to put on perfume to impress the guy unless you enjoy putting on perfume the go on ahead knock yourself out. a few others are like workout religiously, seriously why do you kneed to do that? he clearly likes you for who you are. why change just because of an article? another bugging one is be better than his ex girlfriend. again why are compare yourself to his ex, he is with you not her you. all i have to say the worst article ever don’t take the advice that is all i’m saying. then again i am only 20 so why listen to someone like me. you can ether take my advice or leave it its really up to you. good luck ladies.

  • The comment section cracks me up . I saw absolutely nothing wrong with your article at all. I really like reading a man’s point of view. Thank you Jason!

  • I don’t think your article is sexist at all. I think it’s great and informative from my point of view that is.. this has been a great read. Thank you.

  • I started working this magic halfway through the article and it’s already paying off. Thank youu uuuuuu. I needed these reminders. Sometimes we forget how they operate. I appreciate it ?❤

  • This is rediculous. No one should have to change themselves in order for someone to love them or “be the perfect girlfriend” if someone truly loves you they will love you exactly how you are. And if a girls happy exactly how she is despite her “flaws” then she shouldn’t have to lose a couple pounds or be perfect in bed and learn how to cook just to be perfect for her boyfriend. Find someone who loves you for all you are. No one is perfect and it’s impossible to be a perfect girlfriend. You shouldn’t be making an aritical like this telling people they have to do all this stuff in order to be loved. That’s not at all how it works. We should all be encouraging girls to love themselves and know that every part of them is beautiful and to find a guy who sees all that beauty in them. Give your unconditional love to someone and stick by their side through everything and if it’s the right guy all the other stuff won’t matter.

  • This article is complete shit… “look good for your guy?” PLEASE. If he doesn’t love me when I don’t feel like putting on makeup or doing my hair, then he doesn’t deserve me.
    I genuinely hope young women out there aren’t taking this shit seriously.
    What a bullshit article.

  • I hate to defend this article, because some of it is completely ludicrous, and somewhat misogynistic. However, the article is aimed towards women on how to be a perfect girlfriend. So of course it’s going to say to change most things/everything about yourself because perfection is an unattainable standard. Also it’s aimed towards women therefore when hoping to change, one can only change themselves and not those around them. If it was aimed at men, it would hae a lot of changes that men would have to make.

    I’m sure all women meet some of this criteria, and hidden in it is some good advice. Personally I am always grateful for what my boyfriend does and he does more to make me happy, he also mentions of it being harder to get out of the relationship because the more he invests the more he’ll love you. This is a very psychological phenomena called “cognitive dissonance.”

    You should take care of yourself, not only for your boyfriend but for you. You should know how to cook. it’s a basic life skill. You should have a passion. You should have a life outside of your boyfriend. These are all good things, and they do make you more attractive to your boyfriend.

    As for the “Be a woman” I’ll wear dresses and skirts every day, when men wear suits every day…. Yeah didn’t think so. I’ll stop drinking as soon as you stop looking at porn…. Yeah didn’t think so.

    As for the “Let him be in control” advice, I have no problem letting him carry my bags, or hold the umbrella. But make no mistake, that does not mean he is in charge of our relationship. We are partners in crime after all, not “employer and employee” in crime. Thanks.

  • Nice article, however I’d like to tell the young girls who are reading this to only skim this article, not study it.

    Not every guy has exactly the same standards as this writer, however it is fine to see what this man wants from a woman, then consider who you are, your personality, and only use the tips that are right for you. You can even ask what your boyfriend wants from you, if he is worth your time and loves you, he will tell you that you do not have to change, and are perfect the way you are.

    P.S: There are plenty of articles that go the other way, telling the boyfriend to change himself for his girl.

  • wow, guys want a large butt ? not according to porn hub.
    and their 4 million paid members and 60,000,000 DAILY
    visiting members… looking at their all-time top-100 most
    viewed videos, barely 7, of the top 100, all-time most viewed
    videos contain a woman with an over weight butt…

    Nearly all of the top 100 all-time, most-viewed videos chosen
    by the vast majority of men on the largest pornsite worldwide say…
    ” way over 90% of men, given the choice, want to look at a size 8
    or less female, with a tiny waist, and humanly normal sized butt.”

    The numbers don’t lie. choosing a size 14 large butt / no-waist
    girl for visually sexy viewing ‘does’ happen, sure, with about
    6 – 8% of men. more of a “fetish” number than a trend…

    the fact that the majority of american women are getting
    overweight IS NOT an indicator that men actually are
    celebrating this involuntary choice adjustment. and sure,
    a man getting laid in a few minutes will tell miss bubble
    butt that she is sexy, but when she leaves, and he turns
    on porn hub, he is fantasizing to a thin, size 4 / 6 with a
    26″ waist, thighs that muscles are visible in, and a butt
    ratio that does not look like a cartoon character. sorry,
    but true.

    the facts I listed are available for free to check out….
    porn hubs huge poll of men totaling in the hundreds
    of millions, is visible for all to see. only less than 10%
    of men would walk past a personal trainer body to
    grab a set of hams.

  • Jazmine – Better than his ex ‘might’ include being honest, faithful, and a promise keeper.
    you’re ‘don’t do anything extra for a man’ is fine, free will and all … go for it, but there
    is a wall in your future, it will change your perspective, but it will mostly inform you that
    you wasted your youth, and sought a good man too late. the divorce stats don’t lie.

  • it’s a good thing women don’t try to change men then. LOL.
    it’s a good thing that men accept their nature like women do
    and their true love will encourage them to be the natural
    male that they are, without any suggestions needed from her.
    great advice !

  • Not all of this is good info. Like, be as beautiful as you can. Are you serious? If he loves you then looks dont rally matter

  • my boy friend want me to be like him behave like, but i just cant be like him aiways aguing because of that how can i work it out?

  • What can you talk about with your bf? How to start a conversation! I have trouble keeping conversations ?

  • I agreed with at least maybe 3 things in this whole article. I feel that that while feeling/outlook of this article is sexist to women. Reading this article upset me. Reading this made me feel like women just obey and do things that only pleasure their man. I personally do not feel that this article is right.

  • I’m a man, if my girlfriend could do any of these things I’d never leave her.I noticed there’s heaps of empowerment options for women but there’s never enough for men.Women don’t try enough if at all to be good girlfriends, most women are spoilt brats, they expect love and great sex, but offer nothing in return, its a two way street.Most women don’t deserve men in my opinion, women get everything they need in our society and easily and they take it all for granted. Equalty is equality, don’t expect something for nothing, the world of men don’t owe you a damn thing.

  • I thought this article was going to be a cute article about some nice things that you can do for your man but found it was just a huge sexist waste of my time.
    All of the points on this were about women making all of the sacrifices to keep the man happy, I understand that you should meet halfway but not being able to “wear flats” or “pants” or even “burp” because it’s not hot just isn’t fair, we are humans also….with bodily functions.
    I think men would much prefer a modern woman who is sexy in her femininity by treating her man and her self well but doesn’t do everything in life for her man. If he is throwing his damn socks around you tell that boy, you are not his mother, you don’t have to say it in a seductive tone just to be heard.
    Overall in my opinion it’s articles and views like these that are bringing women down when they read them and making men feel that no matter what women should unlimsyelu strive to change or not be themselves just to impress their man.

  • I had. A relationship of four years everything was going perfect he really wants to marry BT in the second year of our relationship I was pregnant and my family knows this thing and he decided that I do Marry with other guy forcefully.and I did the marry with other guy and I separated from him forcefully bt after 1 year my engagement ruiend than again he came in my life BT now he sometimes say he wants to marry me sometime s he confuse he only call me when he wants to intimate with me when I meet him he says I really love u BT after physical relation he don’t talk or call when I came back at home plzzzzzzz suggest me what should I do iam really feeling emotional weak ….I feeling depression I really love him BT I don’t know what to do….Plzzzzzzz help me

  • Ok…. if your man dumps you cause you’re too smart and your booty isn’t big enough, he’s an asshole. That comment is extremely out of place. Whoever wrote this article is not right in mind or heart and obviously doesn’t deserve a good woman. Lol what an ass.

  • This is the most sexist thing I have ever read and I really hope young girls out there are not reading this and taking it as gospel; shattering their self esteem and self worth and leading them to believe that all men are like this. I know my boyfriend well enough that if he was going to leave me at all it would be because I treat him badly not because I ate a kebab. If he was going to leave me for any girl it would be one smarter, classier and kinder than me… like Kiera knightley or Kate Middleton. That girl twerking…. as impressive as i find it.. he would not be as impressed as me and would be totally uninterested. He certainly wouldn’t dump me based on the grounds that a girl can shake her bottom on youtube better than I can. He would rather stay with someone with humour.. who can look ridiculous twerking to make him laugh. I make an effort to look beautiful because I want to and for my boyfriend but not because I think that defines our relationship. I know I am lucky to have met someone that doesn’t think like the author of the post, someone i can grow old with and have by my side as my equal. Looks fade in time but to find someone who is your best friend.. who loves you for who you are. That’s all that matters. When a guy respects you and loves you then you will naturally want to make them happy without feeling like a servant as this post suggests. Stay true to yourself and remember being you is enough xx

  • This is totally awful advice…. Sorry dude but most of you are all disappointing and a self respecting woman would never change her entire life just to meet a mans shallow needs. Ew.

  • This is the worst and most sexist article I’ve ever read. A perfect women wont change herself and her personality to please a shallow man and his needs. A real and respectful man love and takes care of his women regardless of how she looks like or cooks..etc. whoever wrote this article is sick and doesn’t deserve a perfect girlfriend.

  • I think the whole idea of a perfect girlfriend is dumb. This article is very offensive to women and I tried not to get offended but the next point was progressively more offensive. Cooking….and looking pretty all the time. I think it’s sick that we women have to treat men like kings hoping they don’t go cheat on us. You guys aren’t just worth it. For a change you guys could try to be the perfect boyfriends.

  • Wow…this article was clearly written by a guy. Why should women have to obey your every need and want? She’s her own functioning person. It’s about respecting your partner. If your girlfriend doesn’t like your friends, so what? You both are different people with different goals and ambitions in life with different upbringings and cultures. It’s both partners’ jobs to respect each other’s boundaries. If you live with your spouse and they don’t like one of your friends, meet that friend at their house or out for something more engaging than sitting in the living room. Why force your girlfriend to be around people she doesn’t like? I wouldn’t want to do that to my partner. This is 2017, women have evolved beyond being homemakers, we’re out making money to provide too, so if we both work full-time jobs, it is only fair for the boyfriend to assist the girlfriend with chores such as cooking and cleaning versus sitting around playing video games. Men expect to be treated like Kings but don’t respect their women like Queens, then you wonder why we switch teams. Men demand respect but don’t know how to put it out. If you respect your woman chances are she will be the perfect girlfriend and do some of these things listed willingly.

    I used to like YouQueen, but your articles are becoming more and more sexist and degrading to women. Men already have the upperhand in society, it shouldn’t linger into romantic relationships as well. Emotional bounds need to be equal and if someone dates a guy that doesn’t want to be their equal and demands all of this fucking bull shit in this article, then girl, pack your bags and get you a new man.

  • TBH this article is so funny and true right now I feel my relationship is ending and hearing a guys point of view on what they seek from a women and what women should do to understand there man and keep him from making a whole 180 in there relationship. Honestly this page made me laugh and smile because A) it’s true about men and B) it’s a great way to improve your relationship. Most women are in the dark and ask “what happened?” I’m so lost what do I do? Why are we fighting?” BOOM here’s the answer so thank you! I appreciate it! And your help!

  • Completely unrealistic. I thought this may be a joke while reading ..but I got to the end and it was literally just be better. That’s all. Be a better version of you. Scratch that , you just have to be better than yourself and ever other living girl out there- or at least the on he my date after you! HA ? ok JASON go fly a kite

  • so many bitter women here screeching about how “sexist” this article is. I can say that this article is relationship GOLD for any woman that WANTS TO IMPROVE THEIR RELATIONSHIP. men don’t expect any woman to be “perfect” for us or even at their best, for that matter. which is precisely why women that actually do this would have a man who truly loves and respects their woman for actually doing it. all you wretched women out there screeching about how there are no good men out there, you are simply too up your own asses to want to have to work at making yourself a better person rather than expecting men to love you for accepting a mediocre lifestyle. unless he’s into that kind of thing.

    bet all you females triggered over this expects and demands that a man do absolutely everything for you and believe that you actually deserve it. all you deserve is a beta male lol

  • Before you describe a woman’s role in a relationship, first describe what you consider a MAN… Because all these suggestions will come naturally to a woman if she is matched with a real MAN. Man now days want a perfect girlfriend but have their balls dangling in toilet water… I agree that a lot of women have move towards being so independent that they may intimidates men, but what I’ve noticed is that a man respect a woman who knows HERSELF… not this superficial so called perfect girl… A man doesn’t marry a woman for good sex, if that were the case all escorts would be marrying their tricks. A man doesn’t need a woman for looks, unless he has reached a level of success where feelings no longer matter and its about competing with other dudes… A real man wants a real woman. One who he can see himself growing with and loving ’till the end. So sorry this article was obviously written by a loser who got dumped for another man, or one of those manicured, hair gel, nose plucking dudes. Either way your advise sounds like what a pimp would say to a new born hoe

  • I want to be the perfect girl friend to my boy friend.he is my life and my everything.we have a good relationship.it is so sweet,lovely and romantic

  • I have an idea…how about instead of focusing on how to be a perfect girlfriend, try being a better person in general? If you want to help people, help them. If you want to take care of yourself, do it. Treat people well and they’ll either give it back or they won’t but don’t let that harden your heart to the point where you’re no longer willing to strive to be the best person you can be, daily. I do think for my BF because I love him. Not because I want something in return. I treat him well because that’s what he deserves. That’s what everyone deserves. Always serve up your best self and you won’t be disappointed in what you’ve tried to do in your life. Remember, you live your life for YOU. If you’re living your life FOR someone else, be prepared to be hurt or disappointed eventually for one reason or another. Just sayin.

  • My bf can have his free time when he goes to work and school. That’s our time away from Each other. I like spending time with my bf as much as I can because I love him.
    If a guy breaks uo with you because u r always around then the way I look at it he didn’t love you…but sometimes a person does need their space ig