Being in a relationship during the holidays opens up many opportunities to go out and do those couple activities you’ve always wanted to do. This is how “cuffing season” was born. You get into the first relationship you can find, just in time for the holiday season.
The holidays tend to be more exciting when you have someone to do all these activities with, and it can even make a relationship seem like it’s out of a fairytale. When all of the holiday romance passes with time, it can be hard to keep that magic alive.
Here is what you need to do if you want to keep your relationship alive after cuffing season.
1. Remember that “Netflix and chill” does not count as a date
By now we should all know that when someone wants to Netflix and chill, it doesn’t mean that he or she is looking for something more than just a hookup.
Before you even get to start “cuffing” someone, you need to make sure the person even wants to be cuffed. You can’t force something that isn’t there. You’re doomed from the start if you guys are already on different pages.
There’s nothing wrong with just having someone to “Netflix and chill” with. Don’t let anyone make you think that you’re doing things wrong if just hooking up casually is what you want. You don’t have to want to be with someone the traditional way over the holidays. It can be overrated at times anyway.
2. Start an open communication immediately
Before you try to cuff someone, please make sure the person wants to be cuffed. Like I said earlier, there is nothing worse than trying to be with someone who doesn’t want anything, to begin with. Before you start anything, make sure you are both on the same page.
You need to start talking in the very beginning before anything happens, even just hooking up. You can’t force a relationship to just happen, and that counts for both sides.
If all you want is to have fun, then make sure you let him know that. You never know, maybe that’s all he was looking for, too. You never know what can happen when you start talking.
Now, if you see that you do want a relationship, then there’s more work that needs to go into it. Having an open communication is the most important part of any relationship. If you want something to work out, then you need to tell the other person exactly what you want and what you don’t want.
The most successful relationships are the ones where you feel comfortable being open and honest at all times. There is nothing worse than being with someone who is shady and whom you cannot talk to.
If you want to be with someone, talk to him or her and see what you both want, and see if it matches.
3. Don’t stay if you see red flags from the beginning
If a guy you are interested in treats you badly from the beginning, things are not going to get better. I can tell you that right now. When you first start talking to someone or seeing someone, he should still be on his best behavior, like you most likely are.
You try hard to impress the person you’re talking to because you want that person to like you. If the person you’re talking to doesn’t make any effort in the beginning, then it isn’t a good indication for the relationship ahead.
If you don’t like something about the person you’re talking to right away, then your dislike towards it is only going to get worse as time goes on. You’re looking for a relationship with this person, not someone to be with just to say that you’re with someone.
4. Make sure you both want it to go somewhere
Don’t try to be with someone just to be with him. It’s not worth it. Don’t try to be with someone just to make other people happy, even if it’s your family. Around the holidays, everyone gets asked about their relationship status.
It’s normal. Is it fun for anyone? No. But it’s better to say you’re happy and single rather than miserable in a relationship that you don’t even want to be in.
There is nothing wrong with being with someone just for the holiday season. As long as it is both what you want to do, then it’s fine. Just make sure no one is getting led on during it. No one deserves to go into something thinking it’s going to be more than it turns out to be. It’s just not fair to do to someone.
5. You need to compromise
There is not a couple on this planet who agrees on everything. It’s unrealistic to think that a couple is going to be perfect 100% of the time. If that’s what you think, then you are not ready for a relationship, and it also proves that a relationship is not what you really wanted in the first place.
Next to having an open communication, compromising is the most important aspect of a relationship. We all compromise in relationships, it’s what needs to happen.
Both of you can’t always have what you want, so you will need to figure out to make sure the both of you are at least content with what is going on. If you can’t do that or don’t want to do that, then your relationship will not last past cuffing season. I can guarantee you that, of all things.
Relationships take work. There is no getting around that. Relationships that happen during cuffing season are generally easier because of the fun, light-hearted nature of the holidays, but it doesn’t mean that you don’t need to put any work into them.
During the holidays, the only things you really need to worry about is what you’re going to do together. It’s meant to be fun. But just because the holidays are over, doesn’t mean the fun has to end. You will always be able to find the fun in anything if you’re doing it with the person you want to spend your time with.
If you really want a relationship, then you’ll do what you need to, so it can be successful. It’s not impossible, and you may find that it’s the best thing you could’ve done.
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