Cheating on someone when you’re in a relationship is one of the worst and most hurtful things you can do to another person. Yet, some people take back the person who cheated on them.
It’s a toxic cycle, but if you need more convincing, this is why you should never get back into a relationship with someone who has cheated on you.
1. It gives them leeway to cheat again.
If someone cheats on you and you take that person back, it gives them leeway to cheat again. Even if you make that person swear up and down that they will never cheat again, they still know that even if they do, you might take them back again. After all, if they cheated once and you took them back, why wouldn’t you take them back a second time?
Do not let someone take advantage of you like that. As the saying goes, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on you.” If you do decide to take back a cheater, do not be shocked if they cheat again.
2. You will never trust them the same way.
One of the main foundations to a relationship is trust. If someone cheats on you, and you take them back, don’t you think you are going to worry constantly that they may cheat again? It will always be a thought in the back of your head.
Even if you tell yourself that you still trust that person as much as you did before, it’s highly unlikely that you really do. It takes a long time to regain that trust and, for many people, it can’t be regained. You’re always going to be on alert for what the person is up to and if they are cheating again. Things will never be the same.
3. They don’t truly love you.
I know some of you may disagree with this and say that someone can cheat on you but still love you. One of the main foundations of love is respect. If someone cheats on you, that is one of the most extreme forms of disrespect to you. You can’t have love someone without respecting them.
Similarly, if someone truly loves you, they will not want to be with someone else—even a little bit. The thought of being with someone else is something that they would never let themselves do or even want to do. You are their one and only choice.
4. You know that they have been intimate with someone else.
The thought of the person you love being with someone else, whether they simply kissed another person or had sex with them, can be truly sickening.
Realize that if you take back a cheater, that image may always be in your head. It’s the taunting image of the person you love touching and being intimate with someone else. This can be extremely hard, especially if you know the person with whom they cheated or if they still spend time with that person.
5. Realize that you deserve more.
If you feel as though you are only worthy of love from someone who has cheated on you, you need to learn to love and respect yourself more.
You deserve so much more than an unfaithful partner who isn’t fully committed to your relationship. You deserve to be loved by someone who would never disrespect you that way, someone you can trust and someone who won’t stray.
I promise that the person you are meant to be with will never hurt you in that way. You may have to wait a bit longer for that person to enter your life, but it will be worth the wait when they finally do.
You are worthy of the wholehearted and devoted love. Do not settle for anyone who won’t give you that kind of love because they’re offering less that you truly deserve.
Do you have any other reasons as to why you should never take back a cheater, or even have personal experiences? Share this with your girlfriends or comment down below!