If your mate is physically, emotionally or mentally abusing you, please seek professional help. This article is meant for relationships where there is no form of abuse happening.
Relationships can be very confusing. They evoke such strong emotions from us on so many levels, and many times, we are left wondering if it’s even worth having one. Almost every relationship has its ups and downs, but how do you know when it really isn’t the right relationship for you?
How do you know if it is worth it to keep trying to make it work?
Get into the right frame of mind first.
From the perspective of law of attraction, one of the first things that you should do before you make a decision is to make sure that you are in the right frame of mind.
What is the right frame of mind? The right frame of mind for making decisions is one from the highest vibrational frequency that you can muster, given the circumstances. In other words, feel good first and then decide what to do.
What this means is that you should not make any important decision when you are upset, angry, depressed or feeling guilty. Wait until you get yourself into a better emotional place and then make your decision.
There are two reasons why it is best to do this. The first reason is so that you won’t attract the same type of relationship again! You probably know friends or family members who seem to attract the same relationship over and over again, right? Maybe that has even happened to you. Ever wondered why that happens?
It’s simply because if you leave a relationship while in a state of anger, despair or depression, then the law of attraction dictates you will attract another person on the same wave-length. This is why some women keep attracting alcoholic, abusive or dishonest men over and over again.
The second reason why you should wait to get yourself into a better emotional place before you make a decision is so that you can make the right decision. Wouldn’t you rather make a decision when you feel good and empowered rather than weak and disempowered? Of course you would!
Trust your inner wisdom as to what to do, but realize that in order to communicate clearly with your inner-being, you need to be feeling good. Otherwise, don’t even try to communicate with your higher self. Just let it go; pet your cat or dog or go for a walk.
Do anything to get your mind off of your troubles, and then try later to make your connection with your higher self for guidance.
This is how to make ANY relationship work!
Everyone’s relationship is different. But here is a truth about every relationship that may be a surprise to you from the law of attraction perspective: You can make any relationship work. It’s simply your choice!
What this means is that if you were to focus ONLY on the things that you really enjoy and love about your mate, then you could change the relationship. You would then be seeing your partner through the eyes of source. You would see your mate through the eyes of unconditional love as you did when you first met. And, by the law of attraction, the more that you focus on his good points, the more good points you will find!
Similarly, you’re not here to fix anyone. If your mate needs fixing, then either stop thinking that he needs to be fixed or get out of the relationship.
Many of us think that what we really want in a relationship is someone who is just like us. Someone who is happy, loyal, always in agreement and always eager to please. This person will greet you with excitement every time you enter your house and would never do or say anything controversial.
Here’s what dogs can teach you about your relationship.
I just described a good dog, not a man! If you want a man like that, then marry your dog!
We came here for the variety of experiences, and relationships are great at honing our own belief systems. We expand when we learn something from someone who we originally did not believe.
So, the point is that the perfect relationship is usually the one where he doesn’t agree with you on everything. He may be quite different from you. The perfect relationship may be one where, through controversy, you grow the most as a person. And, the perfect relationship may be a temporary one!
When you get an ice cream cone, you don’t get mad at it for melting. You know that it is to be enjoyed quickly, and that your relationship with it will be short-lived. So, never beat yourself up for deciding that you are done with a relationship. It’s completely okay to let it go.
You have about 100,000 soulmates! It’s okay to stay in one relationship for as long as you want and then leave it when it no longer feels good to you. But, always, always, always make the decision from a place of unconditional love and when you’re feeling good.
What are your thoughts on how to know when you should leave a relationship or try harder to make it work? What has been your experience? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below.
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