10 Ways To Know If The Guy You’re Dating Is A Keeper

They say it takes time to know if your boyfriend is a keeper or not. Know if he’s worth it within your first month together by looking out for these signs.

Because we now live in a world where hook-up culture thrives, finding the “One” has become tougher than ever. Yes, it sucks in all kinds of ways. We know you don’t want to kiss so many frogs before you find your Prince Charming, right? Still, you have to be patient.

And while most of us ladies can be patient, we know that not all of us have the luxury of time to wait to be with Mr. Right. So if you’re one of many who refuses to waste time with the wrong men, you’re on the right page.

We’ve rounded up the major signs that would tell you if the guy you’re with now is a Prince Charming worth spending your most precious time on or if he’s nothing but a frog you should not waste one more kiss on.

He respects you

Kiss Young Couple

You’d know he’s someone worth every fiber of your being if he shows you the respect you deserve as a woman and as a person. He acknowledges the choices and decisions you make.

He believes you’re capable of doing the right thing and if he ever disagrees with anything you do, he’ll give you a piece of his advice not because he thinks he’s better than you but because he cares so much about you.

He takes care of you

Not that you’re not capable of taking care of yourself but he takes care of you in a way that makes you feel like you’re the most loved woman in the world.

He also surprises you with little but sweet things and he goes out of his way so you know and feel that he’s there for you no matter what time of the day.

If he does this every single day without second thought, you know he is a keeper you should hold on to no matter what.

He makes time for you

Not only on occasions that he can but all the time. He ensures that you’re on the very top of his list of priorities and he gives you the quality time you deserve because you’re that special and important to him.

He also reminds you how he’s just one phone call away especially when you’re both busy and spending some time apart with each other. So if you’re still wondering if he’s a keeper, don’t.

He definitely is a guy who genuinely loves you and will make sure one of his most valuable asset, his time, is spent on you.

He adores everything about you

Cheerful young loving couple is dating in cafe

This includes your weird hobbies, crazy habits, and peculiar pet peeves. He also finds you beautiful with or without makeup on and loves you all the same even when you’re not as “pretty” as you think.

He is patient towards you during your mood swings and comforts you when you’re PMSing. He stays with you when you’re down and assures you again and again how much you’re loved in spite of your imperfections and regrets in life.

He also mentions how much he’ll want to keep you as his forever.

His life plans always include you

You know your boyfriend is a keeper when he makes sure that you’re in every minor and major life plan of his (for his life is simply incomplete without you).

He’s not afraid to admit about how much his future plans wouldn’t make sense without you in it and he makes sure you feel how significant your presence is to him by following through his words with sincere actions.

He listens to you

When you’re together, it’s like he can’t get enough of what you have to say and share with him. He gives you his undivided attention and hangs on to every word that will come out of your mouth.

His focus is on you and it’s apparent when you look into his eyes how much he’s so into you. You better keep him if he acts this way around you every day because for sure, he’s a keeper.

He remembers what you say

He doesn’t only listen to what you say; he takes a mental note (or write them down when you’re not looking) of the things he believes matter to you and your relationship.

He recalls even the things you mentioned in passing. He knows what your favorites are and the things that put you off the most. When he’s online and something he read and found made him think about you (e.g. an article), he sends it to you with a short but sweet note saying how much he relates to it because of you.

Simply put, your guy is a keeper who is consistently interested in everything about you that he remembers everything including the most insignificant details of your life (that’s just so sweet, right?).

He stays in touch with you

Handsome man in jean clothes is talking on the mobile phone and smiling while lying on couch

No matter how busy he is at school or at work, he finds time to call to say “I love you” (and it makes your heart burst). He also goes out of his way to make sure you know where he is and what he’s doing so you won’t have to guess or wonder every time.

He stays in contact throughout the day but not in a way that will make you feel annoyed and uncomfortable. He still knows how to strike the right balance when staying in touch with you so you won’t feel suffocated and overwhelmed by his presence.

He makes you feel special

He takes you out on dates and whisks you away in out-of-town trips when he can. In events that these are not possible, he ensures you still get to bond and reconnect with each other by planning intimate indoor dates with you at his apartment.

He doesn’t forget the art of chivalry even if he knows it’s not something you’re bothered about because he believes opening the door for you, buying you flowers every now and then, and serving you in the best ways he can are some of the sweet ways he can make you feel that you’re his only girl today and tomorrow.

He is consistent

He does all these things consistently because that’s just how he is. He loves you and he wants to keep you forever. Isn’t that just heartwarmingly beautiful?

He is a keeper so don’t let him go

Keepers nowadays are very rare so if your bae is one, then make no mistake! Never let him go. Make sure to reciprocate his love for you and appreciate every little and huge thing he does to make you feel loved.

On the flip side, if you can’t spot any of these signs on him during your few weeks together then don’t think twice of calling his attention. If you already called him out for his behavior and he doesn’t make an effort to improve, then say goodbye!

There are a lot of fish in the dating pool and you sure can find another one worth swimming for. Don’t be afraid to start over again for it’s better to begin than stay in a relationship that won’t go anywhere.

We hope this guide will be of help in your journey to finding Mr. Right. Good luck!

About the author

Maine Belonio

Maine Belonio is a twenty-something mom and writer who has a penchant for coffee, long distance running, Tolkien, Switchfoot, and Jesus.

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