It’s true what they say: not everything that comes into our lives is meant to stay in our lives. As hard as it is to face this reality when it comes to a relationship, we have to do what is best for us in the long run.
These are five clear indicators, based on personal experience, that the end is near.
1. Lack of communication
You know how it is when you first start talking to someone and the sparks are flying. There is no guessing game as to who will start talking first; it all just flows naturally with the excitement of getting to know someone new—the morning texts, the constant flow of conversation about each other’s day and the final good night until the next day.
As a relationship grows, this starts to fade a little as you spend more time together, but it should not be eliminated altogether.
We’ve all felt the pressure of whether or not to call, text or bring up something we want to discuss. We also know the feeling of waiting on a reply from our significant other, and not receiving one because they just don’t want to talk.
In a healthy relationship, you should never feel like you have to hold back from your partner. You should never think that you shouldn’t text them or bring up a topic because you feel like you would be irritating them based on past experience with them.
If you are always the one initiating conversation, this is clear indication that they are withdrawing from you. You deserve someone you can communicate with about anything.
2. Limited intimacy
We all know that the physical intimacy at the beginning of a relationship is absolutely thrilling. The anticipation of going from first to home base is intense and works to establish an essential connection early in the relationship.
It’s important to have a strong physical attraction and good sex to make a relationship last.
As we spend more time together or move in with our significant other, intimacy can sometimes fall to the wayside as we get caught up in the business of daily life. However, there is a difference between being busy and not having the desire to be close with one another.
If the connection is still strong, the time is made to be intimate even if you’re just giving back rubs or compliments after a challenging day at the office.
If the desire for one another has faded, it is time to think about why and what you can do to reignite it. Not everyone shows emotional and physical intimacy in the same way, but you should know your partner well enough to be able to give them what they need without forcing it.
If this doesn’t work, you need to find someone who can fulfill your needs and wants.
3. Option vs. priority
Knowing that you mean the world to someone is an euphoric feeling. They complement you, help you without being asked, plan dates and trips and always make sure you are happy and satisfied.
This should come from both sides, not just one.
There is little worse than feeling like you’re not a priority in your partner’s life. This feeling prompts us to do even more for our significant other in an attempt to please them and to prove our worthiness to them and the relationship.
While we think we’re helping the relationship, the reality is that we give them the impression that they can do less for us and receive more. In the end, our efforts make us feel even more frustrated and drained.
If you feel like you are giving and doing more and not receiving, it is time to take a hard look at your relationship and your partner. Make them come to you by simply being and not doing.
If they do not respond after some time, it is time to find someone who will put you on the pedestal that you deserve and not take you for granted.
4. More alone than together
I cannot stress enough how important it is to keep dating and courting each other in a relationship, even after months or years of being a couple. The need to please your partner by taking them on dates or planning adventures diminishes only if you let it.
Work, family, friends, children, etc. take over our lives as adults, but you should want to plan activities with your significant other because you enjoy spending time with them.
If the relationship has been rocky for some time, one or both parties may not feel the desire to spend any quality time together. This creates a distance, causing you to find happiness in other areas whether it be by doing things alone, with your friends or finding another partner.
Unless you make an effort to spend more time together, the relationship will not last.
5. A different you with them
At the beginning of a new relationship, you try harder to look good, be positive and outgoing and have a carefree attitude even if you don’t normally possess these qualities. This is all in an effort to impress your new love interest.
However, over time, these inconsistencies fall away and your partner sees the real you—or he should, at least.
I was recently in a relationship where I was told not to wear my ugly, baggy pajamas. I did what I was told, and went out and purchased tighter, more flattering ones that are not nearly as comfortable.
I started feeling like I was letting myself go a bit and tried harder to stay attractive like I did in the beginning, but then I thought Hey, if I want to be comfy after a busy day, I will be comfy!
If you feel like you are constantly trying to change yourself to be a “better” person so your partner will like you and stay with you, your relationship is unhealthy. Life is too short to be anyone but yourself.
This is one of the more difficult aspects of dating and getting to know someone—your partner should be attracted to you just the way you are, and if not, it is time to move on.
The law of attraction states that you get back what you put out to the universe, so if you are giving your best, you deserve to receive the best in return.
We are in the driver’s seat of our own lives; no one needs to stay stuck in a relationship where they feel like they have fallen out of love or lack love in their lives. So, are you ready to move on?
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