All of us have habits that can be annoying to others. Sometimes we don’t realize we are doing it. But even if you can’t see the damage it’s causing, it could be pushing away the one person who you love the most.
The more time your partner spends with you, the more they become attuned to these habits, and it becomes part of your personality. They are so in love with you that they try to find a way to overlook it.
However, there’s only so much a person can take before it can build up and they can’t hold it in anymore. It could result in them deciding to walk away from the relationship for good. It’s not fair to put them in that difficult situation, especially when it can be avoided by a few simple changes.
If you feel like your relationship is gradually falling apart, it’s time to take a long, hard look at yourself and make those necessary steps to maintaining a healthy relationship. Being open to change is important for you and your partner. Read on to find out if you need to take this step.
The silent treatment
Nothing will ever be solved by ignoring a problem. If something is wrong, you simply have to tell your partner. They can’t read your mind and you shouldn’t expect them to know everything. Talking is the best solution to fixing any relationship problems, so don’t wait for him to figure it out, just tell him exactly what’s wrong.
The silent treatment is childish and it won’t solve anything. Instead, it will build a wall between you two. Your partner probably doesn’t understand why you’re not talking and if you give him no indication, it’s likely that you will drive him away for good.
No one appreciates mind games. It’s very frustrating when someone who you love and trust suddenly stops talking to you and starts pushing you away. If the shoe was on the other food, you probably wouldn’t like it. Try to see things from their point of view, otherwise, the relationship isn’t going to work out.
Constant PDA
There’s a difference between letting your partner know you love them and putting on a display for the public. Hand holding and quick kisses are absolutely okay, but it should probably stop there.
This is a discussion you should definitely have with your partner at some point in the relationship. Not everyone appreciates constant PDA and would rather save it for when you two are alone. It doesn’t only make strangers feel uncomfortable, but there’s a good chance that it makes your significant other feel awkward.
Being all over them in public can seem like a performance in the presence of strangers and there’s absolutely no need for it. Your partner shouldn’t need the reassurance of that kind; you should make it clear how you feel when you are away from prying eyes.
Lack of arguing
We all know that arguing is a normal part of a relationship most of the time. But if you never argue, that’s an indication that something is wrong. It suggests that your heart isn’t really in it.
You both make mistakes and there will be times when you disagree, which will lead to a heated argument, and hopefully result in a mutual understanding. If you skip the arguing, nothing will ever be resolved and unfortunately, the relationship will never develop.
Obviously, fighting every day isn’t a good sign. But neither is zero fighting. Usually, when a couple stops loving each other, they gradually stop arguing too, as they simple don’t care anymore. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner how you feel, even if it does cause conflict. Be open to having heated discussions that get resolved.
Getting jealous
Jealousy can destroy any relationship. If you really want to make your relationship work, you have to let go of any insecurities and trust your partner 100 percent. Any small doubts can develop into something extreme and that’s what will ultimately push them away.
Even if you have permission to look through texts and social media, try to stop yourself. Ask yourself, what are you going to achieve from this? You shouldn’t need confirmation that your partner isn’t cheating, and if you do, that’s a clear indication that the relationship is heading for heartbreak.
Don’t start an argument with your partner just because he liked a picture of another girl on Facebook or Instagram. If it does bother you, tell him exactly why it bothers you, without making any accusations. Chances are, he will appreciate your honesty.
Comparing yourself
Never compare yourself to your partner’s exes. There’s a reason why they are with you and not them. Don’t doubt yourself, as this will lead to unnecessary problems in the relationship.
Comparing yourself to others leads to unrealistic expectations that you may not be able to fulfill. It will negatively impact both your mental health and stability of the relationship. You lose yourself when you try to be someone else. Learn to accept and love the person you are, and you’ll find that your relationship will become stronger and healthier.
Comparing your relationships
What’s worse than comparing yourself? Comparing past relationships with the one you have now. It’s easy to slip into this routine of comparing every partner you’ve ever had, but the past really shouldn’t interfere with your present relationship.
This can put pressure on your partner to fulfill a certain role or expectation. It’s unfair to them. Your relationship is unique and should never be compared to others because that’s what will tear it apart. Appreciate what you have for however long it lasts.
Telling lies
A relationship built on lies is heading for disaster. Not telling your partner something is the same as lying, and when they find out the truth it’s probably going to hurt.
Even small lies can destroy a relationship. Your partner needs to be able to trust you, and too many lies over time can break down that trust until there’s nothing left holding the relationship together.
It’s best to be completely honest from the start. Let them know what your intentions are and certainly don’t lie about things from the past. The past has a way of making an appearance when you least expect it.
Becoming lazy
When you stop making the same amount of effort that you made at the start of the relationship, that’s when it becomes stale. And when that happens, it can be hard finding a way to spark up the relationship.
Becoming comfortable in the relationship can sometimes lead to you getting lazy. You stop doing all of the things you did at the beginning to keep your partner and the relationship fizzles out.
It can be as simple as planning a surprise or reminding your partner that you love them. Switch it up and do something you wouldn’t normally do, it will probably make a huge difference. Breaking out of these habits will make your relationship a much happier one.
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