50+ Ways to Make Him Miss You

Men are fickle creatures. They need constant attention, lots of nurturing, and of course, they want to chase you. It’s hard to give them the right amount of balance in a relationship. Because of that, sometimes it’s best to let go and make him miss you.

While I’ve never been one for playing games in a relationship, there are times when you absolutely have to give a guy what he wants: The chase. So here they are, ladies, 10 tested and true ways to make him miss you.

When You’re Together

If you are in a relationship with a guy and you can feel the sparks starting to fizzle out, then you might want to go ahead and up your game. Giving him what he wants is too easy. Make him work for it, make him miss you and wonder what you’re doing. Here’s how.

1. Tell Him All About Your Wonderful Day

One of the best ways to make a guy miss you is to have fun without him. I know, it sounds ridiculous, but your guy wants to be the only thing that makes you happy. If you’re having fun without him (a girls’ night out, some really cool skydiving lessons, etc.), then he’s going to want to be part of the fun. Men like to be the ones to make you smile, and if you’re smiling without him he’ll notice and he’ll pay more attention.

2. Don’t Be Immediately Responsive

If your man sends you a text, unless it’s an emergency, do not immediately respond. If he’s asking you how your day is going, then allow him a little time to wonder what’s going on (hence, the chase). Reply in a few hours, let him know you’re having fun (without him…see #1) and then let him miss you.

3. Make The Sex Unforgettable

At some point or another just about every one of my exes has said “I’ve missed the way you touch me.” Granted, it’s a rare occasion I go back to them and go through all the heartache and headache again, but do you know why they miss me? I make the sex unforgettable.

If you have a special bedroom talent (be it blow jobs or amazing acrobatics), you can easily use that talent to your advantage. Sex is personal, it’s memorable, and it’s one of the staple aspects of any relationship, so make use of your sensual side and blow his mind.

If your guy seems like he’s losing interest in you, play the same game and be aloof and nonchalant towards him as well. A simple, “Oh, that’s great, hon” and then go back to what you were doing will make him wonder what’s really up. When they don’t know what you’re thinking, they become curious.

4. Leave little notes 

Men like to know that they are on our minds. That being said, leaving him a little note will do just that.

A short, sweet, simple note will be all that it takes to get him to think of you. It doesn’t need to be a long letter or a sonnet. He needs to know that you’re thinking of him. Men are simple that way.

When you are at his place, write a little note saying something along the lines of “I love your smile” or “Have a great day, baby!” and it will stay on his mind for the rest of the day.

Make sure that you put it in a place where he will see it immediately, like his dresser, his fridge, or even in his car. He will love you for it and he will eventually miss you.

When You’re Apart

On the other hand, if you and your guy are no longer a couple and you want him to miss you, then you have to play a different kind of game. Make sure that you’ll see him in public (perhaps his favorite hangout spot) and follow these five steps.

5. Look Awesome If You Know You’ll See Him

The first rule to making a man miss you is to look amazing without him. No guy wants to know that you’ve moved on, it’s just a crush to his ego. If you show up someplace you know he’ll also be, then you must look your absolute best both physically and mentally.

6. Show Up With Someone Else

Also, if you know you’re going to see him in a public place, be sure to show up with a hot date. Having a little eye candy on your arm will make your ex squirm. First, he’ll imagine you and your date having sex, and then he’ll remember what it was like to have sex with you. He’ll miss you.

7. Be Friendly

Be friendly and polite to him, act like he’s an old friend and not an old lover. That really makes them crazy. Smile at him and his new girl (if he’s with a date), introduce yourself to her and act like you and he are old friends, but don’t stay and don’t make it awkward. Just be friendly and act casual.

8. Be Happy Without Him

If you’re miserable without him, then this won’t work. He won’t miss someone who still hungers for him (that’s not how the chase works). You have to be completely happy and cheerful without him for him to notice you. Nobody misses a miserable ex.

9. No Contact

if he’s giving you the cold shoulder (or being less affectionate than before), play the “no contact” card and be too busy to talk to him for a few days. Let him contact you first. Sometimes men need the chance to miss you. Give him that chance.

10. Wear His Favorite Scent/Your Signature Scent

Finally, if you really want a man to miss you, wear your signature scent. Your signature scent will linger with him long after the two of you have ended. Trust me, I can’t walk past a man wearing Desire cologne without immediately thinking of one of my old flames.

If you know you’re going to see him, then give him your scent to remember you by. If you don’t have a signature scent, then wear his favorite perfume. Every man has a favorite perfume they like on a woman.

11. Be Unpredictable (in a Good Way)

Routine can make relationships feel stale. Surprise him with a spontaneous date night or an unexpected sweet gesture. Then, switch things up and leave him wondering when the next surprise will come. He’ll miss the excitement you bring to his life.

12. Be a Little Mysterious

Don’t spill everything about your day right away. Keep a few details to yourself. When he asks questions, tease him by saying, “You’ll have to wait and see.” This leaves him curious and eager to learn more about you. Mystery is always attractive!

13. Look Incredible When You See Him

Nothing makes a guy miss you more than a visual reminder of how gorgeous you are. Put in that extra effort before you meet him—dress up, wear his favorite perfume, and let your confidence shine. He’ll replay those moments in his mind long after you’re gone.

14. Stay Busy and Independent

If your whole world revolves around him, there’s no reason for him to miss you. Cultivate hobbies, friendships, and interests outside of the relationship. A busy, fulfilled woman is irresistible, and he’ll crave to be part of your exciting life.

15. Let Him Take the Lead Sometimes

Give him space to make plans or reach out first. When you stop doing all the chasing, he’ll naturally wonder why and start to miss your attention. Let him step up and show his interest.

16. Send Him Subtle Reminders

Drop a quick text or leave a small memento, like a photo or note, that reminds him of a special memory you shared. It’s a simple way to keep you on his mind without coming across as needy.

17. Create Inside Jokes

Shared laughter creates deep emotional bonds. When you have inside jokes, he’ll remember them even when you’re apart. A random memory can make him smile and miss having you around.

18. Make Every Interaction Meaningful

Instead of long, mundane conversations, focus on quality over quantity. Make your texts, calls, and dates memorable by being fully present and genuine. When he feels the depth of your connection, he’ll miss that emotional intimacy.

19. Be Positive and Fun

Nobody misses a Debbie Downer. Show him your playful, upbeat side. Be the kind of person he associates with happiness and lightness, and he’ll naturally want to have you around more.

20. Flirt Without Being Obvious

When you’re together, subtly flirt without going over the top. A playful touch on his arm or a lingering glance will leave him craving more of your attention when you’re not around.

21. Make Your Presence Special

Don’t be available 24/7. It’s okay to say no to plans sometimes. When he realizes your time is valuable and not guaranteed, he’ll appreciate it more and miss you when you’re not there.

22. Compliment Him Thoughtfully

Everyone loves feeling appreciated, but generic compliments won’t cut it. Focus on something unique, like how you love the way he lights up when he talks about his passions. He’ll replay your words over and over.

23. Use Social Media Strategically

Post a stunning picture or share a fun outing with friends—but don’t overdo it. A little peek into your vibrant life will remind him of what he’s missing without making it seem intentional.

24. Be the Best Listener

When he’s with you, really listen to what he says and respond thoughtfully. When he feels truly heard and understood, he’ll realize how rare that connection is and miss it when you’re apart.

25. Share New Experiences Together

The more unique memories you create, the more he’ll think about you when you’re not around. Try a new activity, visit a quirky restaurant, or plan a mini adventure together. New experiences build strong emotional bonds.

26. Don’t Always Respond Right Away

You don’t need to play games, but you also don’t have to reply to his texts the second you see them. Take your time and show that you’re not glued to your phone. This creates a little intrigue and keeps him wanting more.

27. Encourage His Goals

Support his dreams and cheer him on when he shares his ambitions. Being his biggest fan will make him associate you with positivity and encouragement, and he’ll miss having you in his corner.

28. Surprise Him with Thoughtful Gestures

Leave a sweet note in his jacket pocket or send him a song that reminds you of him. These little surprises create a lingering sense of connection that he’ll miss when you’re not around.

29. Be Playful with Touch

When you’re together, touch him casually but meaningfully—like brushing his hand, fixing his hair, or giving him a light nudge during a joke. Physical touch leaves a lasting impression.

30. Leave Something Behind

Accidentally (or intentionally!) leave behind a small item, like a scarf or a book. Every time he sees it, he’ll be reminded of you and feel your absence more.

31. Keep Conversations Balanced

Don’t dominate the conversation by talking about yourself the whole time. Show genuine interest in his life. When he feels valued, he’ll miss your company even more.

32. Show Off Your Intellectual Side

Be the woman who challenges him intellectually. Share intriguing thoughts, ask thought-provoking questions, or recommend a book or movie. He’ll miss having someone who stimulates his mind.

33. Share Your Vulnerable Side

Letting him see your softer, more vulnerable side builds trust and intimacy. When you’re not around, he’ll miss the depth of your connection and the way you make him feel.

34. Be Passionate About Something

Whether it’s your career, hobbies, or a cause you care about, passion is incredibly attractive. He’ll miss your energy and drive when you’re not there to inspire him.

35. End on a High Note

Whenever you part ways, leave him with a warm smile, a sweet kiss, or a memorable laugh. People remember the way you make them feel, and ending on a positive note will leave him longing for more.

Ways to Make Him Miss You After a Breakup

Breakups are tough, but sometimes, space and absence can help reignite the feelings of longing and regret. If you’re hoping to make him miss you after a breakup, you need to create a sense of distance that makes him realize what he’s lost. Here are some ways to do just that:

1. Give Him Space (But Don’t Disappear Completely)

After a breakup, it’s tempting to stay in constant contact, but that only prolongs the pain. Give him the emotional space he needs to reflect. However, don’t disappear completely. A little silence gives him the chance to miss you, while occasional, casual interactions (like responding to a text or liking his social media posts) remind him you’re still there.

2. Don’t Chase Him

Avoid begging, pleading, or over-explaining the reasons behind the breakup. This can make you appear desperate, which is the opposite of what you want. Show him you’re strong and can live without him. He’ll respect you more for maintaining your dignity and independence.

3. Focus on Self-Improvement

The best way to make him miss you is to improve yourself in ways that make him think, “Wow, I lost someone amazing.” Whether it’s working on your career, getting fit, or learning a new skill, showing growth will remind him of all the reasons he was attracted to you in the first place.

4. Revisit the Good Times

If he reaches out or you cross paths, bring up fond memories of the good times you shared. Remind him of the fun, spontaneous moments. When he reflects on what he’s missing, it will be hard for him not to feel the weight of the loss.

5. Be a Little Mysterious

After a breakup, don’t be an open book. Keep some of your life private and let him wonder about you. Mystery creates curiosity, and curiosity often leads to longing. When he wonders what you’re up to, he’ll start missing you.

6. Don’t Rush to Be Friends

A common mistake after breakups is jumping straight into a “friendship” when you’re both still emotionally raw. Instead of forcing contact, let him see you moving on with your life in a healthy way. Let him miss you as the person you were in the relationship—not just as a “friend.”

7. Let Him See You Moving On

When he sees you doing well without him, it can spark feelings of jealousy and regret. Whether it’s a photo with friends or something that highlights your newfound independence, seeing you happy and thriving without him can make him realize what he’s lost.

How to Make Him Miss You When He Pulls Away

Sometimes, a guy pulls away emotionally even if things were going well. It can leave you feeling uncertain and anxious, wondering whether he’s lost interest. However, it’s possible to make him miss you and regain that emotional connection. Here’s how:

1. Don’t Chase or Pressure Him

If he’s pulling away, pushing him for answers will only drive him further away. Give him space to process whatever he’s feeling. Resist the urge to bombard him with texts or calls. Let him have the time and space he needs to miss you and realize what’s important.

2. Show Confidence in Your Own Life

When a guy pulls away, it’s important not to make it all about him. Focus on your own passions, hobbies, and friends. Show him that your world doesn’t revolve around him, and that you can have a fulfilling life whether or not he’s a part of it. This will make him realize that he has to put in the effort to stay a part of your world.

3. Let Him Come to You

If he’s emotionally pulling away, he may need to figure things out for himself. Don’t chase after him. Let him come to you when he’s ready. When he realizes you’re not desperately waiting for him, he’ll start missing the dynamic you shared and the space he took for granted.

4. Keep Things Light and Playful

When you do interact, keep the vibe light and fun. Avoid heavy discussions or emotional pleas. Instead, engage with him in a playful, carefree way that reminds him of the fun side of the relationship. He’ll miss the easy-going chemistry you shared.

5. Focus on Your Own Growth

Similar to the breakup advice, focusing on self-improvement is a powerful way to make him miss you. When he sees you getting better, stronger, and more successful without him, he’ll regret pulling away and start missing the version of you that was always by his side.

6. Be Patient—Don’t Rush Him

If he’s pulling away, it’s tempting to try and fix things right away, but rushing him could push him further. Let things unfold naturally. Be patient with the process and let him come around at his own pace. Forcing the issue could cause him to withdraw even more.

7. Avoid Playing Games

While space is important, don’t fall into the trap of playing mind games. If you pretend to be indifferent or act cold when you’re not, it might backfire. Be genuine in your interactions. Show that you care, but in a way that doesn’t put pressure on him to act a certain way.

8. Give Him a Reminder of Your Best Qualities

If he’s pulling away, he might be distracted by other things in his life. You need to remind him of why he was drawn to you in the first place. Whether it’s your kindness, intelligence, sense of humor, or how you supported him, show him that you’re a person worth missing.

9. Stop Over-Texting

Sometimes, excessive texting can overwhelm a guy, especially if he’s already pulling away. Give him the space he needs to miss you by not constantly checking in. Let him feel the absence of your texts and wonder why you’re not as available as before.

10. Be Strong, Not Needy

When he pulls away, it can trigger feelings of insecurity. But resisting the urge to be needy or clingy is key. Show him that you’re emotionally strong and capable of being independent. This not only makes you more attractive, but it also makes him realize what he might lose if he doesn’t step up.

These tips are designed to help you navigate the tricky situations where a guy either pulls away or you’ve just gone through a breakup. Remember, the key is to create space and let him miss the amazing connection you shared. Whether you’re trying to reconnect or simply allowing him to reflect on the value you bring to his life, these strategies will help you leave a lasting impression.

By incorporating these additional tips into your strategy, you’ll leave him thinking about you constantly and missing the incredible presence you bring into his life. Remember, it’s not about manipulation—it’s about cultivating a connection that makes him cherish and value you even when you’re not together.

Getting a man to miss you can be tiring, so make sure you have the patience for it. Also, remember, men love to chase you, so give him something to work for. And if that’s not enough to get a guy to miss you, we recommend you read James Bauer’s Respect Principle, his best-selling relationship guide basically hypnotizes men to fall and stay in love with you with 1, dead-simple tip.

How do YOU get a man to miss you?

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