10 Ways to Make Him Miss You

Are you worried your love is getting stagnant? Do you find yourself going days without a text or is your man cancelling your plans to hang out with the guys? Do you feel like the spark has fizzled out in your relationship, or do you miss your ex and want him back? Whatever the situation may be, here are 10 ways to make him miss you.
10 Ways to Make Him Miss You

Men are fickle creatures. They need constant attention, lots of nurturing, and of course, they want to chase you. It’s hard to give them the right amount of balance in a relationship. Because of that, sometimes it’s best to let go and make him miss you.

While I’ve never been one for playing games in a relationship, there are times when you absolutely have to give a guy what he wants: The chase. So here they are, ladies, 10 tested and true ways to make him miss you.

When You’re Together

Ways to Make Him Miss You

If you are in a relationship with a guy and you can feel the sparks starting to fizzle out, then you might want to go ahead and up your game. Giving him what he wants is too easy. Make him work for it, make him miss you and wonder what you’re doing. Here’s how.

Tell Him All About Your Wonderful Day

One of the best ways to make a guy miss you is to have fun without him. I know, it sounds ridiculous, but your guy wants to be the only thing that makes you happy. If you’re having fun without him (a girls’ night out, some really cool skydiving lessons, etc.), then he’s going to want to be part of the fun. Men like to be the ones to make you smile, and if you’re smiling without him he’ll notice and he’ll pay more attention.

Don’t Be Immediately Responsive

If your man sends you a text, unless it’s an emergency, do not immediately respond. If he’s asking you how your day is going, then allow him a little time to wonder what’s going on (hence, the chase). Reply in a few hours, let him know you’re having fun (without him…see #1) and then let him miss you.

Make The Sex Unforgettable

At some point or another just about every one of my exes has said “I’ve missed the way you touch me.” Granted, it’s a rare occasion I go back to them and go through all the heartache and headache again, but do you know why they miss me? I make the sex unforgettable.

If you have a special bedroom talent (be it blow jobs or amazing acrobatics), you can easily use that talent to your advantage. Sex is personal, it’s memorable, and it’s one of the staple aspects of any relationship, so make use of your sensual side and blow his mind.

If your guy seems like he’s losing interest in you, play the same game and be aloof and nonchalant towards him as well. A simple, “Oh, that’s great, hon” and then go back to what you were doing will make him wonder what’s really up. When they don’t know what you’re thinking, they become curious.

Leave little notes 

Men like to know that they are on our minds. That being said, leaving him a little note will do just that.

A short, sweet, simple note will be all that it takes to get him to think of you. It doesn’t need to be a long letter or a sonnet. He needs to know that you’re thinking of him. Men are simple that way.

When you are at his place, write a little note saying something along the lines of “I love your smile” or “Have a great day, baby!” and it will stay on his mind for the rest of the day.

Make sure that you put it in a place where he will see it immediately, like his dresser, his fridge, or even in his car. He will love you for it and he will eventually miss you.

When You’re Apart

Make Him Miss You

On the other hand, if you and your guy are no longer a couple and you want him to miss you, then you have to play a different kind of game. Make sure that you’ll see him in public (perhaps his favorite hangout spot) and follow these five steps.

Look Awesome If You Know You’ll See Him

The first rule to making a man miss you is to look amazing without him. No guy wants to know that you’ve moved on, it’s just a crush to his ego. If you show up someplace you know he’ll also be, then you must look your absolute best both physically and mentally.

Show Up With Someone Else

Also, if you know you’re going to see him in a public place, be sure to show up with a hot date. Having a little eye candy on your arm will make your ex squirm. First, he’ll imagine you and your date having sex, and then he’ll remember what it was like to have sex with you. He’ll miss you.

Be Friendly

Be friendly and polite to him, act like he’s an old friend and not an old lover. That really makes them crazy. Smile at him and his new girl (if he’s with a date), introduce yourself to her and act like you and he are old friends, but don’t stay and don’t make it awkward. Just be friendly and act casual.

Be Happy Without Him

If you’re miserable without him, then this won’t work. He won’t miss someone who still hungers for him (that’s not how the chase works). You have to be completely happy and cheerful without him for him to notice you. Nobody misses a miserable ex.

No Contact

if he’s giving you the cold shoulder (or being less affectionate than before), play the “no contact” card and be too busy to talk to him for a few days. Let him contact you first. Sometimes men need the chance to miss you. Give him that chance.

Wear His Favorite Scent/Your Signature Scent

Finally, if you really want a man to miss you, wear your signature scent. Your signature scent will linger with him long after the two of you have ended. Trust me, I can’t walk past a man wearing Desire cologne without immediately thinking of one of my old flames.

If you know you’re going to see him, then give him your scent to remember you by. If you don’t have a signature scent, then wear his favorite perfume. Every man has a favorite perfume they like on a woman.

Getting a man to miss you can be tiring, so make sure you have the patience for it. Also, remember, men love to chase you, so give him something to work for. And if that’s not enough to get a guy to miss you, we recommend you read James Bauer’s Respect Principle, his best-selling relationship guide basically hypnotizes men to fall and stay in love with you with 1, dead-simple tip.

How do YOU get a man to miss you?

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Just another hard working mom who loves her kid, loves to write, can’t cook, and has a thing for tentacles! When I’m not hanging out with my Spawn, I’m happily sharing my dating experiences and offering advice and trying to control the chaos that comes with being human.


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  • I was with my bf for 4 months. A long distance relationship. He told me Xmas weekend that he had fallen in love with me. We have a huge communication barrier though. So recently it was getting to me and I went home upset.he knew that I was upset he said he’s sorry he is not capable of making me happy and he still is in love with me and is bummed but he doesn’t think we may be a match. I believe he is genuinely upset. Maybe the distance was taking its toll. I didn’t want it to end but now it has and I spoke to him on phone and wanted him to change his mind. I still have some things at his house. It now has been 2 days since I spoke with him. I intend to not contact hopes that he will miss me. I mean, if you are in love as he claimed 3 weeks ago I would think not talking to me for more then 3 days will get to him. I also told him I would come get my things tomorrow but I have now chosen to skip that and make him wonder what I’m doing. I will go get my things in a week or 2. I’m sad cuz I love him too. Any suggestions/opinions would be appreciated!!