I fell in love with a Taurus man that I had met while I was a sophomore in college. We met at a Halloween party, became quick friends, and then started dating after a few months.
When we first started dating, he totally swept me off my feet. He was such a gentleman and would open car doors for me, would buy me flowers, and would take me out to nice dinners to show his interest and spend time with me.
One time I remember making a joke about how he could just take me to a cheap, local taco spot for a cold beer and some tacos, but he scoffed at the idea. Instead, he took me to a restaurant on the water at sunset and we shared tapas and wine.
The best things in life aren’t things
However, as time went on, my Taurus man would often get too wrapped up in material things in life while they did not impress me. I enjoyed spending time with him no matter what we did.
We could go swimming at the local park, go for a run together, cook, watch a movie, or pretty much do anything. It did not need to require a lot of money, but to my Taurus, that was his way of showing love.
It started to annoy me and we would fight about it. That is why I am SO glad I found Anna Kovach’s book about Taurus man secrets. Reading her book taught me that while Taurus men can be materialistic, they are also very generous.
It was very evident that my Taurus man was generous, but at times I wondered if he spent a lot of money on me because he really cared about me, or felt like it was something he had to do to keep up with an image of himself in society.
Anna Kovach’s book taught me that while a Taurus man can be quite materialistic, that doesn’t mean they don’t care or are just doing it to “show off.”
Taurus men are known for being incredibly romantic, which was evident in the way he treated me. A Taurus man is also known to be so generous that they would endure hardship to make sure his family and friends are taken care of.
Stubbornness can be a hard trait to deal with
Another issue my Taurus man and I had before reading Anna Kovach’s book about Taurus man secrets is his stubbornness. I’m a very laid-back person that can pretty much go with the flow.
When I am hanging out with my friends and we are deciding what movie to see or what restaurant to eat at, I let someone else make the decision.
My Taurus man and I would fight all the time about different things because he was not willing to bend or compromise, and I was tired of always having to. There was one time when I got enough paid time off to go on a vacation, and we thought about going on a trip together.
Put your hand in the jar
We decided to put the names of different destinations on pieces of paper and then fold them up and put them in a jar. Then, he told me to put my hand in the jar and pick a piece of paper, and whatever destination was on that paper is where we would go.
I was so excited! The idea of not knowing where we were going was thrilling. I knew already that my boyfriend wanted to go to the Bahamas, and when he has his mind made up about something, there is usually no way to make him change it.
However, he wanted to try this new little game where the odds of going to each place were equal. So, I thought maybe he was starting to compromise a little bit more.
I pulled the paper out and it said – Los Angeles! I was so excited to get to go see California. Though it was not the Bahamas, it was still a destination that was going to be warm and we were going to be near water. There are so many fun things to do in LA, I knew we would have a good time.
Of course, my Taurus man was not happy about not getting his way. It’s not even like I chose LA on purpose! I was willing to go anywhere, but we decided to play this game and that is the destination we got.
Why a Taurus Man Is So Stubborn: The Fixed Earth Truth
I am Anna Kovach, and I have spent more than two decades studying what makes a Taurus man behave the way he does. When women write to me about his stubbornness, they almost always describe it the same way the writer of this story does. He decides something quietly, he never announces the decision, and then nothing on earth moves him off it.
Here is what is actually happening in his chart. Taurus is a fixed earth sign ruled by Venus. Fixed means his energy is built to hold a position, not to shift it. Earth means he processes everything through his body before his mind ever gets involved. So when he plants himself, he is not being difficult on purpose. He is doing the one thing his sign was designed to do, which is to stay put until he feels safe enough to move.
That is why arguing with him rarely works. Pressure feels like a threat to a fixed sign, and a threatened bull digs his hooves in deeper. What does work is time and gentleness. Give him the facts, give him room, and let the idea sit with him for a few days. More often than not he comes back around on his own and presents your idea as if he thought of it. Let him. That is the price of admission with a Taurus man, and it is a small one.
In my survey of 5,623 women involved with Taurus men, 45 percent said their relationship was moving slowly and another 34 percent said it was not moving at all. That is not because he does not care. It is because he refuses to be rushed by anyone, including the woman he loves.
If you want to understand exactly what makes him plant his feet and what makes him step forward, my full guide walks you through it, step by step. You can read it at Taurus Man Secrets.
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Persistence pays off in the end
Sometimes I get really annoyed with my Taurus man over his stubbornness, even today. But after Taurus Man Secrets, I started to think about this stubbornness is another light.
Sometimes people mistake stubbornness with persistence. While my Taurus man and I were first hanging out as friends, I would talk to other guys (I wasn’t even sure if he liked me!).
While he could have easily given up and gone after someone else to date, he would linger and ask to spend time with me knowing I was talking to other people.
He was very persistent in keeping me around and talking to me, as well and winning me over in the end. Even after we started dating, he was very sure to listen to me when I talked so that when he ordered me flowers and cooked me dinner, he knew exactly what to buy or make.
Anna Kovach’s book reminded me of my Taurus man’s best qualities, which including persistence and dependability. While he might be stubborn and materialistic at times, he is always there for me. In fact, he has been there for me since the very beginning.
Taurus Man Secrets taught me the value of patience
Kovach’s book also reminded me of another great quality that my boyfriend has, and just how much I should value it. The quality she refers to is patience.
My boyfriend has always been incredibly patient with me. There were times throughout college where I was under a ton of stress and would snap at him. But he would just give me some space and then some back around. Even when he was giving me space, he would check in to make sure I was okay but was careful not to overwhelm me.
Whenever something happened in life where I needed a shoulder to cry on, my Taurus man was always there. Taurus Man Secrets taught me that even when my Taurus man was being a little lazy in his own life (laziness is another negative quality they possess, sorry ladies), he would always be there for me to make sure I was okay.
If I was having car issues, he would be there to help me get to class or to work. Or even to do something as simple as groceries. If I was sick and couldn’t get an errand done, he would run it for me.
His Possessive Streak and What His Jealousy Actually Means
The second complaint I hear most often about the Taurus man is possessiveness. He notices who you talk to. He asks a quiet question about a coworker three days after you mentioned him. He does not make a scene, but you can feel the temperature in the room change.
Venus rules Taurus, and Venus rules value. He does not experience you as a person who might leave. He experiences you as something precious he has finally been allowed to keep. That is a beautiful thing and a heavy thing at the same time, and the difference between the two depends entirely on how he handles it.
Healthy Taurus possessiveness looks like protectiveness. He wants to know you got home. He wants to be the one who fixes the thing that broke. He wants his hand on your back in a crowded room. Unhealthy Taurus possessiveness looks like control, and it shows up as monitoring, sulking, and long silences after ordinary social nights.
The way through it is not to shrink your life. It is to make him feel chosen. A Taurus man who feels chosen stops guarding. Tell him plainly that you are his, then keep your friendships and your independence exactly where they are. He will settle. He almost always does, because underneath the watchfulness he wants peace more than he wants power.
If you have ever felt his jealousy turn cold instead of warm, my article on the Taurus man running hot and cold explains what that swing really means.
Loyalty is one of their best qualities
A Taurus man is very loyal.
He won’t be attracted to someone who is a pushover. They need a partner who can hang and who won’t be pushed around. A confident woman who is content with her accomplishments and is self-sufficient is a great turn-on for a Taurus man.
This is something that Taurus Man Secrets reminded me of. While there were many times I was annoyed with his stubbornness, I also remembered that he is incredibly loyal. When we would have a fight, he did not go out with his friends, get drunk, and hook-up with people.
He might need some space after an argument, but he will always come back and try and work it out. There have been times when I got angry and told him that I just wanted to break up. But my Taurus man never lets me go without a fight. He would sit me down and discuss what the problem was so that we could fix it.
However, they can run when they’re afraid
The only time he decided to break up with me was very early on in our relationship. We had been dating for about 4 months when he asked to meet me at the coffee shop.
His texts were short and dry and that made me a bit worried, but I went anyways because I know my Taurus man. I knew that if he set aside time from his busy schedule to talk to me, something was on his mind, and it was very important.
He told me he thought he wasn’t ready for “this kind of commitment.” It honestly broke my heart. But I remember just giving him space and going out with friends for a little while.
About two weeks later he came back to me. He apologized and told me he was just dealing with a lot of personal issues and it made it difficult for him to be able to give me the attention he thought I deserved.
We agreed to take things a little slower (although I thought they were going slow already!), and since then, he’s always been committed and tried to make things work.
That does not mean we never had fights! We still had disagreements like I mentioned earlier, but he never ran away after that. Even if he needed space he would call me after a little bit of time, or do something to make it up to me. He always has my feelings in mind, and that’s why I love my Taurus man!
Why He Moves So Slowly and What His Timeline Is Really About
Slowness gets called a negative trait, and I understand why. Watching a man you adore take six months to do what another sign would do in six weeks is exhausting. But I want to reframe this one for you, because it is the trait women regret misreading the most.
A Taurus man builds. He does not fall. Falling is fast and it is reversible. Building is slow and it holds weight. When he takes months to introduce you to his mother, it is not because he is unsure of you. It is because in his mind that introduction is close to permanent, and he does not do close to permanent casually.
The mistake I see again and again is a woman reading his pace as disinterest and pulling away to protect herself. He reads the pull-away as the ground shifting, and a fixed sign responds to shifting ground by freezing. Now two people who want each other are standing still, each waiting for the other to prove something.
Do not freeze with him. Stay warm, stay consistent, and let him keep laying his bricks. His speed is not a measure of his feeling. His consistency is.
The Silent Treatment: Why He Goes Quiet Instead of Talking
The Taurus silence is the trait that breaks the most hearts, because it is the one that feels most like rejection.
Here is what I need you to understand. When a Taurus man is overwhelmed, hurt, or afraid, he does not have words yet. He has sensation. Earth signs feel first and articulate much later, and asking him to explain his feeling in the middle of the feeling is like asking someone to describe a room while the lights are still off. He is not withholding. He is waiting for language to arrive.
Three days of quiet after a small friction is ordinary for him. Two weeks of quiet after something that scared him is also ordinary. What is not ordinary is silence with no warmth on the other side of it, and that is the line you watch.
While he is quiet, do not fill the space with paragraphs. One warm, low-pressure message is worth more to him than ten anxious ones. Something small and sensory works best. Tell him you made the soup he likes. Tell him the light in the kitchen reminded you of him. You are showing him the door is open without standing in it and demanding he walk through.
The exact wording matters more with this sign than with any other, which is why I built a whole library of phrases for him. You can find them at Taurus Man Magic Phrases.
Materialism, Generosity, and the Line Between Them
The story above says something true. A Taurus man can look materialistic when what he is actually doing is speaking. Venus gave him a love language made of physical things, and he uses it because it is the only fluent one he has.
The expensive dinner is not a performance. It is a sentence. So is the fixed car, the full fridge, the coat he bought you because he noticed you were cold in October. Deprive him of the ability to give you things and you have taken away his voice.
Where it tips into something less lovely is when the object replaces the presence. If he is buying you gifts and avoiding conversations, if the generosity arrives every time an honest talk is due, that is not Venus. That is avoidance wearing a bow. Name it gently and ask for the conversation instead of the gift. A good Taurus man will grumble, sit down, and give it to you.
In the same survey, 62 percent of women said their Taurus man always pays and insists on paying. That is not vanity. That is a man saying, in the only grammar he trusts, that he intends to take care of you.
How I Tell Women to Accept His Flaws Without Accepting Bad Treatment
Acceptance is not the same as tolerance, and I want to be very clear about that, because I have watched women use my work to talk themselves into staying somewhere that was hurting them.
Accepting a Taurus man means accepting his pace, his silences, his need to be right about small things, his rituals, and his stubborn refusal to be hurried. Those are traits. They are inconvenient and they are not cruel.
What you never accept is contempt, deliberate punishment through silence, or a man who keeps you a secret from his life. Remember that 40 percent of the women in my survey had met nobody in his world. A slow Taurus man still moves. A man who has decided you are not for keeping does not.
The difference between a flaw and a red flag is direction. Flaws stay the same. Red flags get worse. Watch which one you are living with, and be honest with yourself about the answer.
Once you can read his patterns clearly, the guesswork stops. That is what my complete program was written for, and you can find it at Taurus Man Secrets. If the two of you fight the same fight on repeat, my piece on how to handle arguments with a Taurus man will help you break the loop.
Frequently Asked Questions About a Taurus Man’s Negative Traits
What are the worst traits of a Taurus man?
Stubbornness, possessiveness, slowness to commit, a tendency toward materialism, and the silent treatment when he is overwhelmed. Every one of them is the shadow side of a strength. His stubbornness is loyalty with its heels dug in. His possessiveness is devotion without a boundary. His slowness is care that refuses to be rushed.
How do you deal with a stubborn Taurus man?
You stop pushing. Present your case once, calmly, then give him room and time. Pressure makes a fixed sign brace. Space lets him come around, and he usually does within a few days. If you need a decision by a deadline, tell him the deadline early and then stay quiet about it.
Why does a Taurus man go silent instead of talking about problems?
Because he processes feeling in his body before he can put it into words. The silence is regulation, not punishment. Give him three to seven days for ordinary friction, and keep one warm low-pressure line of contact open so he knows the door has not closed.
Is a Taurus man’s jealousy a red flag?
It depends on what it does. If it makes him more attentive and protective, that is Venus valuing you. If it makes him monitor you, isolate you, or punish you for having a life, that is control and it is a red flag. Watch the behavior, not the feeling.
Will a Taurus man change his negative traits for the woman he loves?
He will soften them, not erase them. He learns to name his silence, he learns to compromise faster, and he learns to hear you before he digs in. What he will not do is become a fast, spontaneous, emotionally chatty man. Loving him means loving the shape of him.
Your Story Matters to Me
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