8 Reasons Why You Should Always Speak Your Mind

Are you the person that just sits in the background and doesn’t really say much? If someone says something that upsets you or that you disagree with, do you usually just let it go without so much as a word? If so, you may be doing yourself more harm than good. So, speak your mind!

People today seem extra cautious about the words that come out of their mouth. Everyone tries to be politically correct so as not to offend anyone else’s sensibility.

While it’s good to not openly attack or belittle someone else for their thoughts or beliefs, it is extremely beneficial to you if you share some of your own.

This is why:

1. People aren’t mind readers

If you don’t say what is on your mind, how is anyone else to know what you’re thinking? It may seem obvious to you where you stand on a particular subject but that isn’t always the case. People can interpret things very differently, so those around you may be reading you all wrong.

This is primarily true in close relationships. It’s easy to think that your partner or family should be able to read you like a book. We believe that they should know by our mannerisms what we’re thinking or how we’re feeling. However, all too often they’re not quite as astute as we give them credit for.

They can’t read your mind any more than you can read theirs. So, why make them try to figure out what your thoughts are (at the risk of being wrong) when you can just tell them and lay all your cards on the table, leaving no room for misinterpretation? You’ll likely save yourself a lot of grief and frustration in the long run.

2. It may relieve some stress

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When you have words that are left unsaid, it can create a great deal of anxiety for you. You go over them and over them time and time again, reliving the situation continuously and playing out different outcomes in your mind.

And, each time you think about it, you get more stressed because you wish you would have handled things differently. You turn it into this monstrous situation that eats at you from the inside out, all because you didn’t say what you should’ve said while you had the opportunity.

3. You won’t get taken advantage of

There are people in this world who will try to take advantage of you simply because they’re banking on the fact that you’re too nice to tell them no. They will ask you to overextend yourself with no clear conscious as to what consequences you may face if you say yes.

Or, they’re willing to play their odds that you won’t say a word against them if they do you wrong; and, unfortunately, most of the time they’re going to be right. No one likes to admit when they’ve been duped or taken advantage of.

You feel like an idiot for letting someone else get the upper hand so the last thing you want to do is declare your ignorance to the rest of the world. So, instead, you don’t say a word about what happened and continue about your business.

Neither of these scenarios helps you and they don’t help anyone else either. If someone isn’t exposed for the scams that they create, they can’t easily be stopped. And, if you say yes when you should have said no, the only one that suffers is you.

4. Others will respect you

People may not always like what you have to say, but don’t you just have to respect someone that tells you like it is – even if it’s something you don’t want to hear? At least you always know where you stand with them and don’t have to worry that they’re saying one thing and thinking another.

Of course, this requires saying what is on your mind in a respectful and tactful manner. You can (and should) share your thoughts, feelings and concerns in a way that isn’t demeaning or degrading to others. When you’re known for your honesty even when it’s difficult to provide it, others will likely appreciate your willingness to do what is right versus doing what is easy.

5. You may inspire others to do the same

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If you are willing to share your innermost thoughts and feelings, it may inspire those around you to do the same. They will see you as an icon or a mentor and try to follow your footsteps by being more vocal when the situation calls for it.

How many times have you seen someone say something and thought, “Wow. I wish I could have said that. That was great!”? Well, if you become the person who speaks up when you need to, then certainly there are others who will think that very same thing when they look at you. In essence, you could help them create the change that they want for themselves in this area.

6. It will eliminate those “I wish I would have said…” moments

It can feel really bad when you look back on something in your past and think, “I wish I would have said (insert words here).” You replay the event or situation over and over and kick yourself for keeping your mouth shut when you had every right (if not an outright obligation) to say exactly what was on your mind in that very moment.

Like in John Mayer’s song titled Say What You Need To Say, “You better know that in the end, it’s better to say too much than never to say what you need to say again. Even if your hands are shaking and your faith is broken; even as the eyes are closing, do it with a heart wide open. Say what you need to say.”

Don’t put yourself in this position and create a scenario in which you regret down the road. No matter how difficult it may be, it’s worth it to say whatever is on your mind. You owe it to yourself and others around you.

7. You won’t let failure limit you

Use failure to motivate you. This is a challenging idea to grasp, but you may use failure as motivation to keep going in the right way. Make it a word that inspires you to venture in directions you’ve never been. Make use of it to accomplish the objectives you’ve had in mind.

You don’t want past experiences limit you, you are stronger then you think.

Be brave.

8. Because it’s the right thing to do

It may not be easy to share what you think, but it is always right. Again, as long as you do it in a way that is respectful and courteous, you can speak what is on your mind. No one has to agree with you or like it, but your opinion is your opinion – good, bad or indifferent.

You’re not doing any favors by sitting quietly and watching the world engage around you. Be willing to stick up for the things that you believe in. Be open enough to share your thoughts and encourage others to do the same. That’s the great thing about this society we live in; none of us are the same. So let others learn from you and you can learn from them.

Now, don’t take this as a license to run around blurting whatever comes to mind regardless of who it will offend. That’s not what this is about. It’s about saying things with integrity and character. It’s about being willing to disagree and possibly even changing the world by not being conforming.

Make it a point to be true to yourself and others by engaging yourself in life verbally. You will feel less confined and more open to those around you. Who knows? Maybe you’ll say something so profound that it will be your quotes we see all over social media?

About the author

Christina DeBusk

Changing careers mid-life from law enforcement to writing, Christina spends her days helping others enrich their businesses and personal lives one word at a time.


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  • I would like to agree with all of this but, every, single time, I do, have the chance to ‘speak my mind’, all it ever does, id get me into trouble, when, all I AM doing, IS, speaking my mind. Just a tip – if you, or you know anyone, who plan to move to Vegas, DON’T. This is by far, the worst city, KNOWN, for people making your life miserable, because they take what you DO say, all WRONG.

    • I just think that you should take some care on your thoughts guy. meditation help for me. Try reading this book “from poverty to power” by James Allen

  • if you always speak your mind it means you are only caring about your own opinion being the one that must be the most importantly heard.
    self restraint is important to keep harmony to exist
    because what you think might not always be the right thing and then leads to an argument, it is important to care about the other person opinion, and talk accordingly to that.
    because honesty isn’t really a real thing, it is simply your personal opinion towards something.
    only give your personal opinion when the time and place is right, if the person has the same opinion as you, etc.

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  • Good. I’ve always said what I think. It’s got me into deep water. But if your friend can’t pull you out you’re better off in the water.

  • I’m glad I found this article. I’m in an industry that is one of the last left that does not promote gender equality. Less than 4% of leaders in my industry are women. It’s shameful and so frustrating. People, even fellow women, gloss over the blatant sexism. For example, I was at a presentation the other day and I asked if that company is taking steps to ensure gender equality. They said they did but had no written commitment. Looking at the numbers, it was so obvious that they supported mostly white males. Anyway, I mentioned in an email about a different matter how disappointed I was in their lack of policy for gender equality. I was polite but blunt. In true ‘me’ style I soon regretted sending it. I was worried they’d blacklist me. But, then I reminded myself it’s not me who’s in the dark.ages, it’s
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  • Yes there is two trains of thought

    1 show your don’t care and they will give up on you
    2 or be responsive and speak your mind and put a end to it
    However both have negative side affects…

  • There is not one fix shop…
    In some situations you have to speak the truth and tell them straight sometimes it best to never let them know you know,
    Sometimes kindness is the answer sometimes you have to suck it up ..
    it all depends….

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