Bad tattoos. We’ve all seen them. Misspelled tattoos or tattoos done in a hurry, on the spot, without thought on the person’s part they are all tattoos we wish to avoid if possible. Just like we’d like to avoid cringe worthy matching couple tattoos; the trendier, the more dangerous.
Getting matching couple tattoos is a great way to show and celebrate your love for another person, but that doesn’t mean that every tattoo is going to turn out the way you want it. Getting any tattoo, as my mother would say, is a risk, because you don’t know if you’ll even like it ten years.
To be hones, getting a couple’s tattoo is an even bigger risk because you don’t even know if you’ll still be together in six months let alone years. But that’s just a part of the beauty of it. But before getting a matching couple tattoos here are some things you should think about.
Are you sure?
Are you sure that you’re getting these tattoos because you both genuinely want to or do one of you feel pressured into it? To find this out, it’s important to check in with yourself, find out what you really want, meditate on it.
You don’t want to let yourself be pressured into getting something you that you don’t necessarily want. I’ve seen it happen before—people using tattoos as a way to prove their devotion to their partner when things are not going so good relationship wise but this tactic always backfires.
Getting a tattoo will not fix the problems in a relationship. Of course, in any relationship you want to make a show of your devotion to your lucky boyfriend or girlfriend, but maybe start smaller. If you’re at all unsure of getting those tattoos wait awhile and talk to your significant other about how you are feeling.
If the two of you are making the commitment to get a tattoo you shouldn’t feel at all pressured or uncomfortable to get something you don’t want. That thought is just a word to the wise, if you have both decided, then go for it. Just focus on being genuine and articulating what you want.
Is he (or she) the one?
In a year’s time, you don’t want to be stuck with a tattoo of your ex-boyfriend’s name on forearm where the entire world (and every other potential mate) can look at it. Is this the person you want to spend the rest of your foreseeable life with? Is this the person you want to be your forever-tattoo-buddy?
If the answer is yes, then go for it. But if you feel a little hesitation, make sure you think it through, tattoos are more permanent than a ring, sure you can get tattoos removed but it is no small feat. It will hurt a lot.
Getting tattoo is a big step and as it turns out it isn’t for everyone. So, if you have any reservations, if you feel pressured to get a tattoo, don’t jump the gun. Wait a couple months. See how you feel.
That being said, as much as you try to control everything in your life, you will have to come to the realization that as hard as you may try to ensure you won’t regret something in the long run life rarely works out the way we want it to. So sometimes it’s worth it to just take the chance and jump. Or in this case, get the tattoo you want.
The perfect tattoo
Finding the perfect matching couple tattoos is something only you and your significant other can do. It’s something you should do together; like picking out rings or a home, you both have to love it because you’re going to be stuck with it for awhile. Picking out the perfect tattoo gives you both ample opportunity to be as creative and as inspired as you want. It is something that is personal and requires time.
The best matching couple tattoos are ones that mean a lot to each of the individuals. Such as a picture, character or quote from favorite movies or music or books. Lyrics to their song—or a visual depiction of what their song means to them. The best matching couple tattoos are out of the ordinary ones that the couple thinks up themselves.
Such as getting a character they resonate with tattooed on their SO. Finding the perfect tattoo may be a time-consuming process but it is worth it to take the extra time and to be sure. Staying away from trends is a good rule to stick too.
Though some of the trendier couple-tattoo ideas can be cute if you’ve never seen an episode of Game of Thrones or read the books—don’t get a Game of Thrones inspired matching couple tattoos. Just don’t do it.
It’s the same idea behind any other ink you may want to get—if you haven’t read the book or watched the movie it comes from, don’t get it. That being said, there are those times that a quote of particular piece resonates with you, and you want to have it tattooed, if that’s the case go ahead but also read the book.
Stay away from overly involved tattoos that depend on your boyfriend or girlfriend’s arm is always a good rule. Lately the most popular matching couple tattoos have been heart halves on each person that become a whole heart when two people hug.
Sure, it is cute in concept, but the reality never holds up to the fantasy. Tattoos that don’t look good on their own and are overly trendy, should be avoided. Pick a tattoo that has special meaning for both of you, be creative, be inspired, and be original.
Can it stand on its own?
Get a tattoo that can stand on its own and look good doing it. Some couples have gone for a lock and key combo, while it is a little clichéd, both tattoos look great on their own and aren’t dependant on someone else coming in to make sense of it. But together the tattoo is even better than the standalone tattoos.
Even if your ideal tattoo can stand on its own, other people may not fully understand it. But that doesn’t matter. What matters is that your tattoo tells your and significant other’s story. Although the idea behind a couple’s tattoo may make it seem like the tattoos need to depend on each other—they don’t.
Like you and your boyfriend or girlfriend, your tattoo, doesn’t have to solely depend on the other person to complete it. You can get emblems of a moon and a sun or favorite characters—both sets of tattoos look good together and alone.
Having your tattoo stand on its own is also a good way of ensuring that if the worst should happen, you tattoo won’t just be a painful reminder to you, it will be of something you love. You don’t want to be stuck with your ex’s name tattooed on your skin.