Being perfect isn’t easy, but it’s totally achievable if you know what your guy really wants. Guys have a different perception of what they consider a “perfect girlfriend” to be, but still there’s stuff most of us agree to be good qualities in a girlfriend. Women are not the only one’s looking for their soul mate, “the One” is a guy’s goal too. Apply the 21 tips below so your guy will never ever think of cheating or breaking up, because you’ll be the perfect girlfriend for him.
The list of “Qualities of a Perfect Girlfriend” below is not in any particular order of importance; see which of them are most applicable to your guy’s desires and preferences. There is always something your guy wants, but he is too shy to ask or tell you. Many of these things are in the list below.
1. Look Great for Him
A perfect girlfriend always gives her best to look beautiful for her man. Men are visual creatures. We like a woman that looks good, that’s obvious. So take care of your looks. You don’t have to look like a supermodel – not at all, just look the best you can, use body lotion, have soft, silky smooth skin that he wants to kiss day and night.
Keep things fresh, and stay as beautiful as you were when you just met – even better, work on yourself to become even more beautiful physically.
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2. Smell Great for Him, Be Beautiful
There’s nothing like smelling amazing for your guy. A scent of a woman can make a man fall deeply in love; your smell gets engraved deeply in his mind. He can recall it and remember you immediately.
Have a unique smell, a perfume he loves. Use shampoo that he loves so your natural scent makes him melt of love. It’s so much easier to love your girlfriend if she’s beautiful and gives her best to stay beautiful for you. Don’t get lazy.
3. Stop Nagging and Complaining
Nagging all day long won’t help solve your differences. Sooner or later, he’ll break up with you if he gets fed up. Men need their space and freedom too. If you are constantly complaining about not-so-important stuff, you just create negative energy in your relationship and he slowly grows to hate, instead of love you.
Remember: the line between love and hate is a thin line indeed.
Communicate differently. Find a common language. Maybe your approach isn’t really motivating him to change himself. If he’s doing something you don’t like, there must be a smarter way to approach the situation. Use positive motivation like… reward him with love and affection when he does what you like, then he’ll do more of it, and he’ll do it often. Be his partner, not his enemy.
4. Love Him
A perfect girlfriend loves her guy more than anything. She really loves him and will do anything to keep him happy and satisfied. If necessary, she’ll even get into a fight for him. Loving him is the first step to being a great girlfriend, he needs to know and feel that you really love him. Cuddle, hug, kiss, smooch, make love and say “I love you” whenever you have chance.
5. Love Yourself
Being insecure and asking “am I fat?” 20 times a day is annoying. Stop being insecure – it’s not attractive. Your guy will have a hard time to love you if you can’t love yourself first. Do everything to feel great in your own skin. When you love yourself, you are more confident and you radiate a positive energy that draws people to you.
Do good things and make other people happy – this will give you more “life credit” and it will make you feel better about yourself. Make other people happy and you’ll be a happier person. Yes, it’s that simple. A girlfriend that radiates positive energy, smiles every day and enjoys life is definitely a better girlfriend than some cranky b*!ch that sucks the life out of your brain.
6. Be Devoted
Obviously, a perfect girlfriend isn’t just faithful, but also never makes her guy even feel jealous at all. You don’t flirt around with other guys if you love your boyfriend. Let him know that he is The Guy for you and that you need nothing other than him. He needs to feel this. You develop trust in him by showing that you are only interested in him.
7. Like His Friends
There’s nothing worse than a girlfriend that doesn’t like your friends – and openly complains about them.
Sure, his best friend Joe may be an imbecile – but he is still his best friend. You can give him a friendly suggestion if you think some of his friends aren’t good for him, but don’t be aggressive about it. Let him make his own decisions. You are his girlfriend, not his mother, and if you continue complaining about his friends, you might just become an annoying ex.
A perfect girlfriend likes my imperfect friends just out of respect. The worst you can do to a guy is to take him away from all of his friends and connections, this makes a guy weaker psychologically, and socially less powerful, so it can shatter his confidence – then you might not be as attracted to him as you were when you just met.
8. Be a Sex Goddess
A girlfriend isn’t “perfect” if she doesn’t perform great in bed. Period.
You can’t just be good in bed – you must be better than all of his ex girlfriends combined. Hundreds of books have been written for women about sex; unfortunately, most of them are complete nonsense. I would only suggest one resource for sex tips, and most men would agree with me, this guide is the only thing I’d recommend (don’t read it if you are under 21 and get offended easily). Read YQ’s review of the guide here.
Great sex brings you closer, and keeps you together for years, and years, even if other spheres of your relationship aren’t perfect. Find out what makes your guy go crazy, and then fulfill all of his fantasies. Yes – all of his fantasies, because that’s what a perfect girlfriend does.
9. Cook Well, Or at Least Try
The path to a man’s heart isn’t that complicated. You need to be amazing in bed, and cook him delicious meals. I know that “contemporary women” don’t have time, energy or the willpower to cook anymore. If cooking is too traditional for you, then you are probably living in a dream. Nobody expects you to live in the kitchen, but visit it every now and then. It works. I know that a delicious meal is just a phone call away, but even if you make him a simple sandwich that doesn’t even taste that good – it’s the effort that counts, not the taste.
10. Love is in the Details
Give him a gift every now and then. Make him feel loved and special. Do what other women will not, or do rarely, then do it more often. A small token of appreciation is always welcome. Give him a massage. Pamper him. He’ll always return back for more.
11. Appreciate Him
He needs to know and feel that you appreciate his efforts. When he is nice to you, when he makes you feel loved and special, let him know that you value him and that he’s important to you. It will make him feel better about himself and your relationship.
12. Stroke His Ego, Give Him a Compliment
Feed his ego from time to time. Men can also have insecurity issues. Don’t let him get an ego-boost by chasing other women around, instead – give him his “ego shot” yourself.
A man needs to feel attractive and desired too – you’re not the only one. Give him a compliment. Tell him how much you love something about him, or how hot he is to you, how much he turns you on. A compliment makes you feel nice too, so give him that pleasure – every day.
13. Make Him Feel Like a Man
A man wants to be “the man” in the relationship. Let him fill that role whenever possible. If he doesn’t take the lead by himself, still, sometimes it’s okay to do things his way, or have him have the last word. You don’t have to be right every time, let him win an argument – or even better – don’t argue at all. Let him take the lead and you might actually enjoy it.
14. Help Him Grow by Being His Partner, Not His Enemy
You are partners, not enemies. Always keep that in mind. A perfect girlfriend is “perfect” because she helps her guy achieve more, grow further, and fulfill his full potential. Maybe even his destiny. You have the power to motivate him and help him grow as a person.
Life can be hard. When times are tough, we all need someone to lift us up emotionally, give us energy and that extra push to keep us going. A perfect girlfriend is never selfish; she is supportive and she is there for her guy in good and bad times alike.
15. Have a Life and Passion
Life is often unpredictable and works in strange ways. You cannot calculate everything. Today – you love your boyfriend, maybe your future husband, but tomorrow? Who knows? You don’t know if you’ll still love him 5 years from now.
Things change. You change, he changes – you might grow to love each other more and more, but also less.
For this reason, it’s important that you have a life outside of your relationship. You need to be busy with your life, progressing, growing as a person, growing in your career, networking and meeting new people, maintaining friendships and creating new one’s.
You need to have something you are passionate about. All of this will make both you, and your relationship stronger; thus, you’ll be a better girlfriend too. Having a life outside of your relationship is crucial if you want your relationship to survive, otherwise both you, and your guy will be too dependent on each other for your happiness. This dependency can be scary, and even evolve into neediness, fear or slight hatred. Having something going for you ensures that you make each other stronger, not weaker. This tightens the bond between you.
16. Be Better Than All of His Ex’s Combined
If you didn’t already know, here’s how men function relationship wise. We compare everything to past personal experiences. Unconsciously, your man is judging you.
You need to be a better, and a more “perfect” girlfriend, than all of his ex girlfriends combined. You don’t have to be the hottest, sweetest, smartest woman in the world – just better than what he has experienced before.
And no, it’s not all about looks. You and your boyfriend may have a different perception of “good looking.” While some girl may be beautiful to you, she can be not-so-hot for your boyfriend, and vice versa.
The reason he’s with you, is probably because you already are better than his ex-girlfriends. In order to keep him, you’ll have to continue being better than any potential chick (enemy) that may come along.
The problem with the “be better than his ex’s” theory is that… if his ex girlfriend could do stuff in bed which you can’t – you’ll have to step up your game. If she did something he loved, and you don’t – he will miss it, and may look elsewhere for satisfaction.
That’s the cold, hard truth. Work on it if your goal is to be perfect for him, and erase any other woman from his memory forever.
17. Give Him Space, Don’t Be a Menace
A perfect girlfriend gives a guy space. You can’t be over-demanding. Some women try to keep a guy by calling him 24/7 and being overly clingy – this won’t work for long. Sooner or later, he’ll get fed up and he’ll want to break free by breaking up.
Instead of putting pressure on him, checking on him, where is he, why is he there, who is he with, when will he be home, why he did this and not that etc. instead of doing that – let him be free within your relationship.
Give him space. The best way to keep a guy is by being able to let him go. The less you try to “control him” the more control you’ll have over him, because when you trust him 100%, he will trust you back and give his best to maintain and earn that trust.
Give him time for himself, his friends, work, whatever he needs – then when you are together, make sure he has an amazing time, so that then he is the one that wants to spend more time with you, and so that he’s the one calling you all day, or waiting for your phone call.
Create balance in your love life. Being able to trust is an essential quality of every great girlfriend. Join that club today!
18. Have a Pleasing Personality
The women men love most, are the one’s that naturally have a pleasing (not demanding, negative, nagging all day) personality. A woman with a “pleasing personality” puts your pleasure first.
She does what you like, she pleases you in any way she can, even if it takes some effort from her side. She is devoted, she loves you and she’ll do anything for you.
That’s a girlfriend that gives more than she takes in a relationship – she has a pleasing personality, and men adore women like this. If you are a feminist and you “bow to no man” – that’s all great and cool, equality, bla bla bla, whatever – but you’ll have a hard time to find real love.
A relationship should benefit everyone, neither just the guy nor just you. Stop putting stupid “rules” in your mind and stop restricting yourself. I’m not saying you should wash his feet and let him abuse you – but give the guy some slack. If you’re not ready to make him feel like a King inside and outside of the bedroom, some other woman will; she’ll be considered “perfect” – you won’t.
19. Don’t Take Him for Granted, Don’t Get Lazy
Nothing is for granted, not even your boyfriend. So don’t treat him that way. The worst thing you can do in your relationship is to get lazy. You stop paying so much attention to him, you stop appreciating all the little things you used to love about him, you stop having crazy sex all over the house, you stop taking care of yourself and your looks, you stop being pretty for him, you start eating a ton of junk food, watching TV series and you get incredibly fat.
Then you wonder why you got dumped? No wonder. Don’t be one of those chicks that take things for granted. Seduce your boyfriend – every day – all over again.
That’s what a perfect girlfriend does. This will motivate him to work on himself as well to keep up with you. Love isn’t just given – you need to put some effort into keeping it, and helping it grow even further.
20. Work Out Regularly
The better you look, the better you’ll feel in your own skin, and the more attractive you’ll be to your boyfriend. A perfect girlfriend gives her best to get in shape – and then stay in shape. Look great for him and you’ll be the perfect girlfriend in his mind. Here are some reasons why you should work out every day.
21. Be Feminine
Gone are the days when women were women, and men were men. Now women are becoming manlier every day, and guys are behaving like total losers with no self-confidence or determination. “A good man is hard to find” – so they say, but, according to many men, a good, sexy, feminine woman may be even harder to find.
Nowadays, women take care of themselves less and less, they get wasted, throw up on the street, drink more beer than guys (disgusting), some don’t even shave. That’s cool and all, but not my cup of tea. A perfect girlfriend is feminine, she knows how to carry herself, and behaves like a real lady (in public, but not in the bedroom).
Again, I’m not telling you to go back to the kitchen and live by the housewives’ guide from the 50s , but still, the majority of men love a sweet, sexy woman that takes good care and knows how to carry herself.
Oh. Yeah. I already told you to work out. Well, just in case you didn’t get how important this is, here’s a reminder: Lift, lift, LIFT! And you’ll be the sexiest ever, not just physically, but mentally as well. Don’t worry, working out won’t get you buff. Keep squatting and get in the best shape of your life and your relationship will, as a result, be in the best shape of its life.
There you go. Give this to any guy, and he’ll agree on at least 18 out of 22 tips – they are what make a girlfriend fabulous. Apply what you can to your relationship and you’ll see an instant improvement. Try these tips and see for yourself.
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43 thoughts on 21 Tips on How to Be a Perfect Girlfriend for Your Guy
You, Jason, really know how things are going. Thank you! :)
HAHAHA Ok, I really hate to admit this but this is great and 100% true and on point. LOTS of women forget about these things in the name of “quality” and “feminism” and our RELATIONSHIPS suffer for it. I’ll keep all this in mind as I prepare myself for the next great guy to enter my life. Thanks, J.
Opps, I meant “E-quality” in that last comment lol.
Hmm i think i have to give dis a try. It is not too late
i d try this
i ment i should try this
How much time do you think guys invest in being perfect for their girlfriend?
make me a sandwich >.>
Hahaha! This is so true, I was thinking the same damn thing. I’ve told my boyfriend to make me a sandwich before, and he did. He’s asked me the same before. I think we’re both just lazy as hell, we don’t care who makes the sandwich! Hahaha!
I actually wonder that a lot. All I see is always about doing everything for him all the time, but what about the girlfriend? Why can’t he do things for her too? If she wants him to join her in a nice relaxing bath, why not? Especially when she makes him food, gives him sex (and more), looks good for him, gives him space, lets him have his hobbies, etc etc. Why can’t he join her in a bath or give her massages when she needs one or let her pick the date night movie? As stated here, a relationship benefits both people, not just one, but it seems all I ever see is “do everything for him”.
we , in our culture, do not have living relationships. I am with my bf since 2008 and now its 2014 ! We have met almost 7 to 8 tymes in all these years . We meet at his friends place and we do get physical. I am quite pretty but nothing helps. Nothing at all. He has changed. He has lost interest . Right now his friend has come from abroad and he is with him but not willing to talk to me . I have begged him but he has just changed . Feel helpless. Initially he was mad at me and used to text me all day long.
I’ll try this. it’s not easy to be perfect!
I would like to try..to keep this relationship keep going…thx…
i really like this guy but dont no if he likes me back we are having a school dance should i women up and ask him or wait for him to ask me
I love this list <3 Very honest & informative. Tells me I'm doing most things right ;) haha Now to work on the rest…
I’ve been reading this every night before bed for a week now, always waking up happy and light-hearted. I know I have to do it all to save my relationship with my husband. I’ve been complaining way too much on him and this is truly deeply helping me. Thank’s. And Jacks Blowjob lessons are great too, haha!
Holy S%#! This is 1000% on point!!!! Coming from a guy, that should say ALOT. Some women may read this and bunch up their faces and suck their teeth and they’re probably the same ones who will remain single…
or maybe it is because they aren’t afraid to be a little unique. Or maybe it is because they like things a little more spicy. Or maybe it’s because they’re smart and they don’t spend all their self esteem trying to be like every other girl on this planet and follow societal idiocy. And maybe it is because their boyfriends are well educated and wealthy and look for something a “little more than cookie-cutter” in a relationship.
Okay hold on this complete bullshit, I gave it to my boyfriend and he said before I even registered my disgust at this article he said at least 75% of this is bullshit. If a guy loves you he is going to love you no matter how you treat him, yes some of these things are important in relationships but they are not a prerequisite for him to fall in love with you.
i hate to admit that i do most of the things wrong,but i love him though,i wish to spend all my life with i want to be perfect for him,i try and he nicest thing is that he tries too but for a little argument i sumtyms think he will dump me.i have learnt and i love him now its time i show him.
I do all of these things for my boyfriend, but not because he “expects” them or from fear of him leaving me. I have a feeling that girls who read these articles because they’re afraid their boyfriend is gonna dump them need new -better- boyfriends; after they’ve done some soul-searching as to why they’re attracted to such shallow, incomplete guys. If you’re gonna be going by this list to try to hold a man down, he better be a dang perfect dude.
Wow, really helped! Although me and my boyfriend can’t be exclusive, it still really helped! :) I love my boyfriend lots and lots.
Thanks so much for this u helped me become the perfect girlfriend I always keep these things in mind thx again
hw i wish u girls will just stick to dis and stop venturing into attitude that shatters relationship
Man, this is crazy. EXACTLY what a guy wants. Hats off to you, buddy. B)
I agree with the whole – look after yourself and treat yourself with respect and if your man loves you he should do the same. Same goes with him, look after him and respect him too. All of these points are just pin-pointing the key things it takes to not only be the best for yourself – but be the best for your man too! Good article :)
I agree on a lot of these . There’s some I disagree on, but could you write one about guys now?how a guy should act to be the perfect boyfriend?
If you do all these things for HIM. He still could end the relationship for 100 reasons. Leaving YOU in total confusion. You do the above things for only ONE person. YOU. That’s it that’s all. Anything beyond that and you’re basically trying to please a whole population of men who you fear will leave you. The above is a recipe for disaster and lowered self esteem.
If you meet the man you love, all the above will shine because you have loved yourself. He knows he’s not perfect and he know’s you’re not perfect. But the two of you together are perfect because you take care of your lives apart from the relationship. PERIOD
I’ll also fill you in, being in many relationships. What one man doesn’t like another man will adore. That should calm down some of your perspectives while also understanding that you can’t always give what others want by becoming what they want. It’s a serious mistake.
Take for instance a former disaster of a relationship I had vs my newest relationship. Being kind, respectful and wonderful for this new man comes so natural is surprising myself. As for the former lover whom I couldn’t look straight in the face and say “you’re awesome” just couldn’t do it. But my new guy. He rocks, it’s all cool. It’s just simple. I love the freedom of simple.
So keep it simple. Work at loving yourself. All else will follow, and it may follow you again and again as you come closer to the ideal match for you.
We are not all cut out dolls to pander to the ideal of all men. It’s impossible! Just catch yourself when you can say something amazingly honest to someone. That’s a sure fire sign that you’re going down the right road, also known as you’re own road. On that road you’ll meet many people and you’ll find many who you love and who love you back. Go with that and love yourself.
I see a lot of negative comments on this article! I can’t help but to feel that most of those comments come from women that have been called out by what’s written for their crappy behavior….I mean…the article’s a bit long….so…if you read the whole thing then something must have grabbed your attention…or guilt. You get what you give, girls. If you want him to put in the effort the it’s a matter of reciprocity….bottom line. Oh and to the girl whose boyfriend said the article was crap, let me just say this: your boyfriend is not stupid…he knows you…he knew how to react after reading the title! He’s not about to fight with you over things he knows you won’t fix and ruin what little chance he has of getting laid that night…if anything…waving this article in his face probably made him more resentful…I guarantee he’s doing one of two things right now…either he’s grinding his d*ck in a wood chipper because he’s too much of a pussy to leave you, or he’s f*cking your neighbor to make living with you more tolerable…..there’s of course always the possibility that he’s also at the post office getting a change of address form right now too…so I guess it’s one of three things….maybe he’s a multi-tasker…f*cking the neighbor in the post office parking lot after he got the change of address forms…
Woahhhh that is really intense to say to some stranger online because she said her bf didn’t like the article… you sure don’t sound like a perfect gf..some of these make sense and are really just guidelines to being a decent person.. But the rest are bs, who wants a gf who is lifting and getting ready and trying to be someone she’s not for me, thinking it’ll make her “perfect”? That whole idea is so dumb and way too much effort for a relationship that shouldn’t be so stressful. Idk what age this is meant for or how old you are but college couples would not be into this. We respect eachother and the rest comes easy. This seems like a terrible guide for unfortunately insecure girls. I don’t know why I let someone show me this article
Thanx I hope it works :)
Girls, we should be feminine, work out, eat healthy etc. to make ourselves feel good and for our well being, and if it attracts and pleases men too than so be it. But, the reason that we do the tasks listed above should not be solely for the pleasure of men, we should live life without the burden of pleasing men. We should live life for us.
I think this article should be a reminder to we ladies who get caught up in our own heads and take our life frustrationss out on our significant others. Obviously his isn’t 100% accurate for every single guy, but I think most people guy or girl would prefer someone willing to put in an effort to entree themselves for their other. It isn’t a cookie cutter template. These are tips. I’m a tattooed feminist but I still know my man loves when I dress up. I work out so I feel good, but also to give him an opportunity to compliment (or join me). Don’t hate the article. Take some of the tips and apply them. No one is perfect but everyone should try to be more considerate of others in their daily relationships of any kind. This article gives you points to consider. Everyone knows no relationship problems are a quick fix. we are people learning to get over ourselves wheter male or female. loved it. Thanks sir!
I feel really bad for any female reading this and believing any word you wrote. A woman shouldn’t have to change who she is for her man, he started liking her for a reason.. So she should change those things and potentially ruin the relationship?
Its true…I will try my best to change
I think a relation is depent upon these tips if someone loves you then he will love you at any situation but there are some facts here that girls need to improve.
Not that I disagree with all the tips given in the article, but geez that’s a lot of work for a woman to keep a man happy. I guess the question is, what does the woman get in return for becoming an indentured servant? A fat, bald, wrinkled up man in his 30s who could easily pass for 60 years old? Really? You have to be super hot, nice, employed and making way more money than me if I’m going to consider doing half the stuff on this list. Yep, I said it… It’s called sexual economics… If you don’t know what it is, then look it up.
My point exactly. If a man won’t make an effort, why should the woman basically, like you said, be his servant? Relationships are about both people making an effort for each other. Why am I going to look good if he won’t? Why am I going to go see an action movie with him if he won’t go see a romantic comedy with me? You should both want to be perfect for each other. And no one should ever have to completely change who they are for someone else. If I’m a tomboy who likes sports and getting muddy, you aren’t going to make me become miss america. I’ll dress up for special occasions, but wearing so much make up I turn into an oompa loompa with lipstick and mascara just isn’t going to happen.
I agree with the previous posters… I spent years in my last relationship trying to be perfect for the guy, cooking and cleaning for him, pleasing him in bed doing whatever he wanted and basically catering to his every whim. He ditched me by text at 3am one day, saying he was with someone else and I should probably get a chlamydia test. Once a gave up trying to please people and started just being myself, I met an amazing man who loves me despite my many imperfections, and we’re getting married next month. Take this on board by all means, but with a pinch of salt. The best guy for you will still love you for yourself, even if you don’t have a perfectly airbrushed body and face covered in makeup.
well,i do my best and i will keep this tips in my mind and will used it befor itz too late…
well! i’d agreed indeed. but i’m very discouraged about cooking…uff! if i can avoid that !! i love my guy so much… & wanna make him to feel like a king… but i can’t exposed it to him..& i’m little bit lazy about responsibilities
I work out, because it makes me feel good. I don’t do it for him. I don’t wear makeup, I don’t try, and he still thinks I’m beautiful. When you’re in love with someone, they’re always beautiful. So I’m not sure I agree with that comment. There are valid points in here, you should always make your man feel like a man, you should always do little things to show you’re trying your best to make him happy. At the same time, this kind of looks like a rule book to becoming a domesticated house wife. We are working class women these days, we have our own issues and lives to worry about we can’t just 100% cater his needs and be in a pleasing mood. Also in a good relationship, your insecurity shouldn’t be there, you should rid each other of those pesky thoughts with reassurance.
I 100% agree with your comment
I like to dress up and look good for him. But I feel like this list is pretty chauvinistic and meant for an older generation of thought. I work out and do yoga for myself. I don’t cook, he loves to. I’m pretty messy and disorganized, he’s super clean. He gets more turned on by pleasing me sexually but our chemistry is pretty much off the charts, I’m pretty naughty myself. I motivate and inspire him to be better and help him become the best he can be by supporting his interests and finding tools for him to grow in those areas. We have fun together (: Maybe it’s a list for your perfect girlfriend but definitely not for all guys. I wouldn’t date a guy who had this list.