Long distance relationships are scary to say the least. They can cause lots of worry and stress. However, they can also strengthen a relationship by making you realize what you already know about each other and your strength as a couple but in a completely different way.
Don’t get me wrong: they are extremely tough due to various factors such as conflicting schedules, time zone differences and the fact that you are far apart from each other and can’t see one another in person. Nothing compares to being with the actual person, and as daunting as the idea of a long distance relationship is, there are ways to get through it and make the best of it.
Try to plan a trip so you and your partner can get together in person, go out and have fun not over the phone but in person. Not being able to see the person and hold hands, or have an actual conversation face-to-face while going out and doing things you and your partner love to do is the hardest part of a long distance relationship.
Let’s face it: if you are in a long distance relationship, it means you are still a couple, and you plan on being together; you did not break up because of distance; instead, you decided to make it work. So, try to plan trips to visit each other as it’ll be a booster for both of you and will make things much easier.
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2. Technology is advantageous
Thankfully, in today’s day and age, there are what I like to call the handy helpers. This includes cell phones to text and phone with along with the handy apps like Snapchat, Facebook, Instagram, Facetime/Skype and Facebook Messenger. No matter the distance or time zones, you can use all of these apps to stay in contact and share your life with your partner even though they are far away.
Thanks to the advances of technology, it is so easy to quickly write a message and send it so the other person can see it almost right away. It’s also very easy to send a picture of what’s going on with the weather, your outfit, what you are eating or even what you are doing—you can even send some sexy images if you want to. Regardless of the apps you use, all that matters is that you use the technology you have in the best ways for your relationship.
3. Communication is key
This is the most important part of a long distance relationship. If you can’t communicate effectively, you are guaranteed to fight and feel sad, disconnected and not part of the person’s world. Just because your partner is far away does not mean that you should stop telling them everything. In relationships as a whole, it is crucial to be open and honest about every single thing and to talk about anything and everything.
This is a given for any relationship, but when it comes to distance, it’s crucial. Since you aren’t close to each other distance wise, you need to talk more about your days, what you’ve done and what’s going on because the person isn’t there to see it for themselves. Communicating is also important because it keeps your partner informed so that they are aware of your world and can also be supportive of you.
4. Wear your heart on your sleeve
It is important not only to talk about any worries you have due to the distance, but also to talk about how you feel about each other so that you and your partner can feel at ease and know that what you have is still going.
Being romantic, affectionate and emotional is crucial, so share your thoughts as it will let the person know that they are missed and loved. Be honest about your feelings and even talk about fond memories and how you are excited to get back to doing things when you see each next other.
Plan for the future: you are still in a relationship despite the distance, and you should figure out and plan what you will do and where you will go next as your relationship continues to grow.
Distance doesn’t put a relationship on hold—it still happens even though it is harder, but you should still plan for the future and enjoy it because that future can very well happen. Who knows: maybe those plans involve you not being far away for much longer.
6. Write notes
Writing a collection of notes labeled “open when” with special occasions such as birthdays or for when they’re sad, sick, tired, lonely, need a kiss or before their big event are also great ideas. If you aren’t able to get the letters there, send them as text messages—just send them on the day that they are specified for.
Long distance relationships are hard, but they can be made easier and you can still make the best of them. You can’t change the distance (yet), so at least make the best of it by using these tips because if you’re still together despite the distance, that says a lot, and it definitely shows that you are committed to the relationship, you trust your partner and you want things to work and so do they.
If you have any other tips on how to make the best of a long distance relationship, feel free to share!