Not every relationship you get into has to be serious. Now that there are so many different apps and ways to have the relationship you want, there is no reason not to try.
It’s so much easier now to have a no strings attached relationship nowadays because that’s what most people are looking for anyway, but it can tend to get messy if it’s not done properly.
You have to figure out where the line is between a no strings attached relationship and just a hookup. Though they may seem similar, there are differences that could ruin the entire thing.
Having this kind of relationship means that you are having sex with a guy, but there is no label of being in a monogamous relationship. It’s basically the same thing as having a friends-with-benefits.
In this relationship, you have all of the fun you would have with a boyfriend without all of the drama that labels tend to bring.
Here are the do’s and don’ts of having a relationship with no strings attached.
1. DO make sure you’re prepared to have this relationship
If you’re a jealous person, then this kind of relationship may not be for you. There is nothing wrong with being jealous to a point, but you have no room to be jealous here.
The guy is not your boyfriend, so he is allowed to go out and hook up with other people. You have to really think about if you’re ready to have a relationship with someone where the focus is really just sex.
It’s hard not to get feelings for the person you’re continually having sex with, but it’s what needs to be done in an NSA relationship.
2. DON’T choose someone who you think you could have feelings for
This means DO NOT choose to have an NSA relationship with an ex or someone you’ve had feelings for in the past. Not every situation has ended like you see in the movies.
Having sex with someone does not mean that that person is going to automatically fall in love with you. It’s a lot easier for guys to have sex without a romantic connection than it is for women. Keep this in mind while you choose who to have sex with.
Having sex with an ex does not mean that they are going to fall back in love with you or realize what they’ve been missing. This is the same with a crush.
Make sure that you’re not putting yourself in a situation where you can possibly be hurt because of feelings that are already there. What makes a relationship NSA is the part where there are no feelings involved.
3. DO establish ground rules
You always have to discuss what you want with the person you’re having sex with. This makes sure that you are both safe and are both enjoying the relationship.
Talk about whether or not you’re going to tell each other if there is anyone else you’re having sex with, or if you’re interested in trying something with another person.
Also, talk about what happens if you or your partner meet someone new and want to continue something with them. If you’re not enjoying something with the sex, talk about it.
Make sure you’re comfortable with everything at every stage. Sometimes your needs change, make sure you talk about changes often.
4. DON’T make distant plans with your NSA partner.
Once again, you guys are not dating, so there is no reason for you to plan things together. This makes it more of a relationship than just someone to have sex with.
Plans for the distant future imply that there is going to be a future, which can really freak some people out. This person is not in your life to make plans with and think about a future with. This person is here for your sexual needs.
Try to avoid anything that is going to make the relationship more complicated than it needs to be. You have the power to keep it where it needs to be, in able to make sure the both of you are happy with what’s going on.
5. DO voice what you need in bed
What is the point of having a relationship focused on sex if you’re not getting anything out of it? Seems pretty one-sided if the person is only focusing on themselves and not what you need.
Make sure the person you’re with understands that you need to get off, too. Your needs are just as important as his, and that’s something that needs to be made a big deal.
If you’re going out of your way to make sure your partner is having a good time and making yourself look sexy for him, then he needs to put in that amount of work as well.
Don’t let him off the hook because it’s not a big deal. You enjoying the sex and getting something out of it is just as big of a deal. Don’t put up with decent sex when it should be great.
Having an NSA relationship can be tricky at times because we are so obsessed with the idea of being in a relationship and having labels. Sometimes the labels don’t need to have as much weight as we give them.
There is nothing saying you can’t just have sex with someone and enjoy that time you spend together. Nothing has to be more or less serious than you want it to be. As long as you are both happy with the boundaries you’ve set, then nothing else matters.
Hopefully, this helps you with your no strings attached relationship! If you liked this article, then please like and share it. If you have any thoughts, then please leave them in the comments section below.