Getting over your ex boyfriend isn’t easy. For some people it can take months, even years to kill the negative feelings of being apart. Here are 10 tips on how you can get over him once and for all, and then continue with your life.

Did you dump him, or did he break up with you, or you both decided that it just wasn’t working anymore? It doesn’t really matter now. It’s over, and, chances are, you won’t get back together no matter what you do. There’s a reason why things didn’t work out. Sure, it’s possible to get your ex back, but that’s another story.

I’ll assume you want to get over him, turn a page and move on with your life. Here’s what you should do to repair your broken heart, and make those painful thoughts disappear.

1. Get Busy

Do stuff. Be active. When you have things to do (watching TV doesn’t count), you clear your mind and just don’t have the time to think about your ex. Be busy, get a hobby, work on your career, and catch up with old friends.

2. Work out

Hit the gym, or go jogging. Do some physical exercise. This will toughen up your body, mind, and soul so you’ll be less emotional and more productive. You might even meet your new love in the gym.

3. Get out of the House

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Staying at home, watching TV and checking out your ex boyfriend’s Facebook profile won’t help. Distract yourself. Get out of the house as often as you can. Don’t hang out in places that remind you of him.

4. Don’t Get Drunk

The worse thing you can do is to drink alcohol to forget him. You’ll end up hooking up with some idiot in a club that you’ll never want to see again, the next day you’ll just feel depressed. Pull yourself together! You don’t need alcohol to get over your ex boyfriend. That’s what weak people do. Are you weak? Of course not.

5. Don’t Go Insane, Accept Your Pain

Do not cut him out of your life completely. He might be your ex boyfriend now, but not so long ago you used to love each other – don’t be angry at him or yourself. Forgiving him, and yourself, is the first step to peace of mind after a break up. Accept that it’s over and that life goes on. You need to be strong and able to control your pain – how? Accept it. Acceptance is the first step. Don’t try to resist it. I’m not saying you should spend time with your ex, but don’t cut him out of your life either – it’s possible to stay friends with your ex, whatever you believe right now. Give each other a chance to continue communication, that’s what cool, emotionally healthy, open-minded people do.

6. Don’t Look for a New Guy

You just broke up with your boyfriend and you’re trying to get over him – finding a new boyfriend after just a weak is dumb and unrealistic.

Give yourself some time, and be fair with your ex. You would feel terrible if he had a new girlfriend out of a sudden too. Have some respect for each other. Take it slow and let your heart heal. It also wouldn’t be fair towards that new guy; you’d just use him as a cheap substitute of your ex so you don’t feel like crap. That’s selfish.

Enjoy being single a bit, rethink your life, get to know yourself better. Stay strong and carry on. You don’t need anyone to be happy but yourself.

7. Be Positive

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Paulo Coelho says in one of his books, “When somebody leaves, it’s so that somebody else can arrive.” Know that just because your ex left you, this is for a reason. Maybe it’s a good thing, even if your ego is hurt and your heart broken. Look at it from a positive side.

If you didn’t break up, you would never meet that next guy that will come along. Yes – he will come along – but only if you think positively. Open up yourself to new opportunities by looking at things from the right angle. Your heart is broken because you let it be broken. You can’t get over your ex – not because of him, but because of yourself – you do not let yourself get over him. Allow yourself to move on. It’s easier than you think.

8. Do You Enjoy the Pain?

Think about this for a second. Do you enjoy feeling bad? Maybe you like feeling like a victim. Maybe not. But be realistic and honest towards yourself. I know you may feel terrible right now, and you’ll keep on feeling like crap IF you decide, “I feel bad.”

Stop the negative self-talk. Wake up the next morning and shout out loud “I feel great!” then repeat this, as many times as you can until you really believe that you feel great. I know this sounds dumb – but it works! Try it.

9. Rise Above Your Pain

The best way to get over your ex boyfriend is to rise above the pain. You are now inside of your head. Change your way of thinking.

View yourself from outside. Rise above your pain, and accept your situation. This breakup is not an end, it is merely a new beginning. New opportunities are everywhere around you. You can’t see them if you close yourself up with negativity. Open your eyes! Distance yourself from your pain; don’t let it eat you up. You are stronger than you think.

10. Love Yourself

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Life works in strange ways. Sometimes, you just don’t “click” with a guy completely. Why be in a relationship with someone who isn’t ideal for you. There’s someone for everyone, and you will find true love, sooner or later. Just open up yourself, Mr. Right could be just around the corner. Anything is possible.

Don’t put pressure on yourself. The first step to getting over your ex is acceptance. The second step is to keep walking. You have to move on in life and have a positive attitude. Love yourself and you will be loveable to the world around you.

Never forget… after the rain, the sun always comes out. It may be raining now, so take out your umbrella, keep walking, and sooner than you know, the sun will shine brighter, and will bring a smile on your face.