When we like a guy, we usually forget to ask some very important questions and tend to jump into a relationship without knowing some basic things that are sure to float to the surface and hit us in the face as soon as the ‘honeymoon period’ is over. We often go dumb, deaf and blind as soon as the butterflies appear. If you want to avoid this, these are the questions to ask a guy to get to know him.
#1 Family
What’s your family like? What do they do? What kind of relationship do you have with them?
If he comes from a picture perfect family and has a great relationship with his parents, and you don’t, he might not be able to understand you.
The most important question considering his family that you should ask is ‘How often do you talk to your mother?’
If he talks to her every day and goes to movies, lunches, and coffees with her, it could happen she becomes something of a competition to you. You might hear something like ‘my mom does it differently’ ‘or ‘my mom does it better’ quite often. However, it can also mean that he is just close to his mother, and has a healthy attitude towards women. You will be able to judge more when you spend some time together, and possibly meet his mother.
#2 Job and Ambitions
Are you happy with your job? Do you have any ambitions not related to your job? Is there something else you are thinking of doing or ever thought of doing? How did you choose your job? Do you work a lot and is your job stressful?
If he has a routine job he is not so happy about he could often seem melancholic and nostalgic for his youth. If his job is stressful he will often be agitated and rude. Working a lot and being unhappy with his job can result in a very chaotic middle age crisis.
#3 Books, movies and music
What’s your favorite book? Books can be a great way to escape reality and learn new things, and everyone has different tastes in literature. This question can help you understand the other person’s preferred genre and what they like to read.
What kind of music do you listen to?
Music can be a big part of someone’s life, and it can also reveal a lot about their personality and taste. This question can help you understand his musical preferences and potentially find common ground.
#4 Political views and religious affiliation
What are your political views?
Politics can be a touchy subject, but it’s important to understand where the other person stands on political issues. This question can give you insight into his values and beliefs.
What’s your religious affiliation, if any?
Religion can be a big part of someone’s life, and it’s important to understand their beliefs and values. This question can give you an idea of what he believes in and what is important to them.
#5 Love
Have you ever been in love? Tell me about your ‘love story’. Have you ever had your heart broken? Why did you break up? Do you still talk to your ex?
You have to know what sort of mistakes will be the deal breakers in the relationship. What is it that broke his heart and that can break his heart? You need to know about his first/big love and see if there is still something there. Can he love you more than he loved her or is he too damaged for you to even try to compete? These question will help you find out.
#6 Future Goals
What are your future goals and aspirations? Knowing what he wants to achieve in life can help you understand his priorities and values. It can also give you a sense of whether your goals align and whether the relationship has long-term potential.
#7 Food
What’s your favorite food?
Food is a universal language, and everyone has their favorite cuisine. This question can give you an idea of what types of food he likes, which could be helpful when planning meals or dates.
#8 Free time
What are your hobbies and interests?
You may also find common interests that you can bond over.
How do you like to spend your weekends?
Weekends are a time for rest and relaxation, and everyone has different preferences for how they like to spend their time off. This question can give you an idea of what he values in their leisure time.
What do you like to do for fun?
It can also give you ideas for future date ideas.
#9 Female Friends
You can’t really get to know your significant other without communication. And getting to know each other is the best part of a new relationship! If you lack inspiration for further topics, here are some other questions to ask a guy.
Just keep an open mind and you will soon feel like you’ve known each other your whole life!
I like this!
Do I ask him those question right off hand even when I just started talking to him?
wouldn’t it just scare him away from me?
no chance id ask how many nights a week does he spend at his best gf’s house… that sounds like a crazy jealous insecure girl to me.