With the average engagement about 14 months long, you will be surprised at how quickly time will speed by as you set out to plan the perfect wedding. It’s a process that will be different for everyone, just like each wedding is.
One thing to remember is that everyone’s idea of a perfect wedding will be different but the best thing you can do is to follow your heart and stay true to you and your significant other.
One of the first big decision you will have to make (after saying yes to the proposal, of course) is choosing which day you will get married on.
There are so many options and possibilities, in this article we hope to condense them down to something more manageable.
1) Do you have any symbolic date?
The possibility of symbolism is endless in any wedding you can have a personal brand of symbolism or an external brand of symbolism. For example, a personal date that would be symbolic is picking the same day your great-grandparents were wed. While external symbolism has more to do with the time of year and what it represents.
Getting married in the spring, for example, would symbolize new beginnings and fresh starts. While winter is a time for introversion; winter weddings are always some of the most beautiful, it’s a time to remember that despite anything that happens in life you’ll always have your family.
Getting married in the winter can have special meaning for many people just as the fall would represent the cycle of life. Summer represents youth and is historically a popular time to have a wedding.
Throughout history people have strived to choose the day that holds the most prosperity for them, some cultures even performed specific (albeit unpleasant) rituals that were though to show the perfect day to get married—nowadays, most people look to astrological signs and their own personal feelings.
When choosing the day there is a myriad of possibilities and it largely depends on what the bride and groom feel is right for them. After all, what matters most is what you and your fiancé want for your special day.
2) Which season is your favorite?
Each season is beautiful within its own right and each season has different qualities that make it that special.
When choosing a wedding date it is important not only to consider the symbology behind the day, but it is equally important to consider how the season will affect your wedding day.
A winter wedding, for example, can be almost magical with sparkling snow and icicles. The backdrop would be beautiful, but it’s important to remember that depending on where you’re getting married the weather can be inclement and can cause problems.
But the same can be said for any season. Spring and summer bring rain and thunderstorms, for example. Each season has a character of its own, an energy and a personality, which is important to keep in mind when choosing a date.
3) Check the availability of your guests
In all of the craziness of planning and picking a date, you’ll want to remember to check in with the most important of your guests if you really want them to be there.
Family, namely brothers and sisters and parents, especially if they have high-stress lives or high-demand jobs would be eternally grateful if you checked with them before picking the day.
It isn’t something you necessarily have to do, after all, it’s your day and you may feel your family should be there rain or shine, no matter what.
But to think ahead, to eliminate any future stress and confusion can be a huge help in the long run. Giving your family a run down on which days you’re thinking of choosing can be a great help for everyone involved. In the long run, it will just save you stress and upset.
4) Don’t forget about the holidays
There are some days you should avoid choosing for your wedding day; Christmas day may be one of them, perhaps Easter as well. It’s less likely for people to show up if you choose to hold your wedding on a major family-centered holiday.
That being said, having holiday themed weddings is always beautiful. There is plenty of days you could choose that are around the holidays, and there is an array of options and possibilities when you have a holiday themed wedding.
I’ve seen Nutcracker themes around Christmas and harvest themes around autumn. Easter is all about rebirth and spring, it would be a beautiful time to hold a wedding because of the sheer amount of life all around you.
5) Would you like a themed wedding?
Lately, there has been a major trend where brides and grooms are choosing to have their weddings inspired by their favorite movies, books, eras, or TV shows. This is always a very unique and personal theme when it comes to getting married.
It is a unique wedding style that shows how a story or aesthetic has really touched the lives of individuals. It’s always interesting to see people choosing to have fantasy themed weddings, such as Harry Potter or likewise.
To some people it may not make sense as to why the bride and groom would choose to have a Jane Austen, Lord of the Rings or Harry Potter themed wedding, but that doesn’t matter. All that really matters is that the bride and groom love it and that it’s done well.
6) Prices vary depending on the season
For weddings, another thing everyone has to consider is the price. Weddings are expensive, there’s no way around that. But there are many ways you can cut the cost down. One of them being, you can get married in the off-season.
Whether you want a summer wedding or a fall wedding one thing you can do is to try and avoid the months of June, September, and October as those are the prime time in wedding seasons and most people get married during those months.
Getting married in the off-season will help you to save a couple bucks but you also have to be aware that if you want a fall wedding you may be looking more towards November which is a tricky time weather wise if you want to be holding an outdoor wedding.
You’ll have to find a balance between what’s most important to you and what you can sacrifice. It is also important to note that even though the venue may be less in the off-season other aspects such as flowers may end up costing you more.
7) Saturday, Sunday or Wednesday?
Now you’ve got the month set, all you need to do is figure out which day. Small task, right? Well as it turns out, not so much. Out of all seven days of the week, some can save you money while others can end up costing you more.
If you aim to get married on a Friday or Saturday it’s more likely that you’ll end up having a big party and it may last longer than one on a Thursday would. But Saturday is the most popular day to get married, and it’s easy to see why ( plenty of time and the next day is Sunday which means no work for most people).
But sometimes being flexible with the days can pay off. Literally, getting married on less popular days can save you some money. But once again, it’s all about balancing between what you want and what you have to have.
8) How do you imagine a dream wedding?
Really the best thing you can do with any advice is to take what suits you and leave the rest at the door. The same goes for your wedding. Throughout your engagement, you will get a lot of advice—a lot of people who claim to know exactly how you should have this and that. So hold onto your vision.
Really think about what you want your wedding to be about because that’s what matters most. You and your significant other have likely gone through lots together, and apart, and your wedding day should be a celebration of not only what you’ve accomplished, but the fact that you both have found love that has rocked your world.
You want to share your life with this person and that is a truly beautiful thing. In all the confusion and stress we create by needing to find and pick the perfect date for our wedding it is important that we don’t forget what we’re really celebrating, and at the end of the day, the date doesn’t matter half as much as the marriage.
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