Once again, ladies, I’ve been dating different men and realizing which ones are good and which ones are bad. I can tell you, I’ve had my share of bad, and I’m almost at the point of giving up altogether and living out the next fifty years of my life alone. Still, I have hope that there’s a Mr. Right for me (I mean, I know a lot of great men who are already taken by some lucky woman, so there must be more out there). While we’re looking for Mr. Right, though, we seriously have to skip over Mr. Wrong.
#1 The Abuser
Of all the absolutely worst types of men to date, this one is the one you have to get away from now! Abusive men, whether they are emotionally or physically abusive, will never change. Believe me, I’ve known both. No matter how much he says he’ll change, or how much you hope he’ll change, the truth is, he won’t. I know it’s not an easy truth to hear, but you need to recognize it because your life might depend on it.
#2 The Egotist
The Egotist is also one of the worst types of men to date. this guy might seem like Mr. Nice, but he is really full of himself. So what’s the big deal, you ask? Well, the Egotist will never, ever put you first. Your achievements will not mean anything to him (you’ll be lucky if he even acknowledges them), he’ll always make the plans (yours are not important) , and he requires you to be at his beck and call. Seriously, you don’t want to live like this, do you?
#3 The Party Guy
Right up there with the Egotist, you have the Party Guy. This guy is fun, I mean he’s tons of fun, but that’s really all there is. I can’t say he’s a bad guy (chances are he’s a real sweetheart underneath his frat boy attitude), but he’s never going to grow up. I guarantee you’ll get tired of his drunken stumbling into your room, and his out-every-weekend-with-the-guys personality.
#4 The “I’m Sorry” Guy
Another one of the absolutely worst types of men to date is the “I’m Sorry” Guy. This guy, unlike the egotist, doesn’t flat out tell you he’s the awesome one. he is way more slick than that. he does think his plans are more important than yours, but instead of saying it, he’ll just forget your plans, do what he wants, and then call you to say he’s “sorry”. In fact, he says it all the time. This guy isn’t’ man enough to keep his commitments, and thinks it’s too wrong to flat out be chauvinistic, so he just apologizes whenever he breaks your plans or does something to make you feel bad. This guy is also never going to change.
#5 The Jerk
Are you dating a jerk? Yes, this is one of the absolutely worst types of men to date. You know the kind I’m talking about. He always walks in front of you, he flirts with the waitress while you’re ordering dinner, he doesn’t open the door or carry stuff in, he doesn’t tip…maybe he even expects you to pay. After sex, he leaves without staying the night. Get rid of him, you can do so much better.
#6 The Cheapskate
If you find yourself paying for dinner, paying for the movie, dealing with the line “I forgot my wallet”, or hearing your man haggle at the bakery, then you’re dating a cheapskate. You could always tell yourself it’s good to be thrifty, you can even say he’ll be able to take care of you when you get married, but the truth is, he will nag you for every dollar you spend if you ever get a joint checking account. his money is his money, and your money is also his money. Dump him and go buy yourself some shoes, woman.
#7 The Liar
Liars are some of the absolutely worst types of men to date. The problem isn’t just the lying, it’s also that when they’re telling the truth you really have no idea. Any relationship all boils down to trust, and there is no trust with this guy.
#8 The Cheat
Speaking of trust, another guy to avoid is the cheat. Now, you already know you should avoid a guy who cheats on you with other women, but there’s another kind of cheat as well. the guy who cheats at life. You should never date a guy who cheats his way out of things. Does he cheat when you play board games together? Does he cheat when he’s playing cards? If so, then you have a man who is spoiled and untrustworthy. Get rid of him.
#9 The Player
We’ve all dated this one. He’s the player. He’s gorgeous, he has style, he is the man that men look up to and the man that women want to be with (and they do). He’s not “technically” cheating on you because whenever you ask him where you stand in the relationship he always says something like “Baby, I adore you, and if I were at a different place in my life, it would be you I’d choose”. Something that says he wants his freedom, but still wants to be in your bed. Yeah, he found a loophole to cheating, but he’s still a jerk.
#10 The Martyr
Last, but not least, of the absolutely worst types of men to date is the martyr. I’ve dated this one, too. I’ve dated all of these guys, really, and let me tell you the martyr is the most annoying one of all. He feels as if the world owes him something. He thinks it’s okay to be lazy because he’s “earned” it. He probably still lives at home and constantly gives you his conspiracy theories. Plus, he’s really angry at “the man”. While at first the martyr might seem edgy and hip, the truth is, he’s just a user who refuses to grow up. Get rid of him fast before he drains your bank account (trust me on that).
Are you dating a dud? Leave us a note, I’ll be happy to give you advice.
I just got finish doing an interview with a guy who is helping me fight for tenants rights in my building. He works for a news station and interview to put my stories on the news, however, out of all the time he has done so before today was different. He like the dress that I was wearing he said that it was beautiful and that I look beautiful, he also said that he wanted to get to know me more and wanted to know which radio stations I intern for so that he can hear me on the radio. I also insisted on meeting my mother and he spend a lot of time interviewing me . Does this mean that he likes me or was just flirting with me?
Hi Nadia,
I hope your fight for tenants rights goes well! As far as this guy goes…did he insist on meeting your mother, or did you? If HE insisted on meeting your mother, then you should be wary. I consider this a serious red flag for a first date. It might have been traditional 20 years ago, but this day and age, it’s kind of creepy. Don’t let him know too much about you too fast, he could be a stalker.
That being said, if you insisted on him meeting your mom, and he agrees, then it’s okay. You should always keep your own safety in mind first!
It sounds like he is hitting on you, but it’s very inappropriate to say how beautiful you are during an interview. If I were you, I would definitely take it slow with this guy, don’t let him know too much about you until you know him better, and make it clear that he’s being inappropriate. A gentleman would ask you out for coffee AFTER the meeting…not tell you that your dress is beautiful and you’re beautiful when you’re working on a tenant rights issue. If you’re uncomfortable, then I recommend bringing a friend to the interviews with you from now on, but you need to draw the line between business and pleasure. Good Luck! Let us know what happens! :)
Trina
I’m none of those guys, and that’s reassuring. Ladies, don’t overlook the decent, sweet man, who’ll treat you how you deserve.
1st of all I tink I have to appreciate the creator \ founder of dis medium for the great work of advice and information that u are doing here.my little contribution as reguards the discurion is that we should try as much as possible not to rush into any relationship. And if anyone needs instant satisfaction or pleasure I believe we also know how and we’re to get it and at no once expence. Be safe.
A black man is the worst to date