Of course, it is a nice compliment to be told you are pretty, but doesn’t it get old sometimes to have people—especially men—comment mostly on looks? Women are so much more than how they look. There are many other things to compliment us about.
Here are other things I would rather be told I am than “pretty”.
As Cristina Yang in Grey’s Anatomy says, “Oh, screw beautiful. I’m brilliant. If you want to appease me, compliment my brain.” I don’t just mean being book smart and getting all As in school. I mean intelligence having to do with real life, like common sense or street smarts.
I would much rather have someone compliment my general intelligence or a specific intelligence rather than my appearance. One of the worst things women do is dumb themselves down, many times for men. I feel as though it is important for intelligence to be recognized, especially for young women. Many women, including myself, do not want to make it in this world from our looks. We want to be known for our brains as well.
Creativity is one of the most important things in this world. Without it, there would be nothing. To be called creative is such a huge compliment. Being creative is a quality that should never go unnoticed. To have an imagination that runs wild is something that anyone should take pride in, and it should be recognized.
What is your hobby? Whether it is writing, art, fashion, photography, cooking, music or anything else in that realm, doesn’t it feel amazing when someone compliments that and tells you that what you do is creative? To me, one of greatest compliments a person can give is if they say that I am creative, no matter what it is for.
They say that laughter is the best medicine, and in many cases that is true. One of the qualities I look for in others is a sense of humor. People who have a sense of humor are the kind of people others want to spend time with.
I look forward to spending time with someone I know for a fact will get a laugh out of me. If someone tells me that I am funny, or I can make them laugh, I take that as a compliment. What is the use of sitting there and being pretty if you have no personality at all?
This may seem a bit generic, but many people do not often compliment others for being warm and friendly. The comment “You’re pretty” gets tossed around a lot more than “You’re kind”.
To me, being told that I’m a warm, friendly and kind person is a very important compliment. I always gravitate toward people who give off a vibe of being friendly and kind. If someone says this to you, it is something that should truly be taken to heart in the best way possible. No one wants a pretty face with a cold heart.
Ambition and hard work are the keys to success. I work very hard, whether it is in school or my job. When this is recognized, it is one of the greatest feelings. Men especially love women who are independent, hardworking and go after what they want. Nothing great comes without a lot of hard work.
In some cases, a pretty face can get you somewhere, but relying on looks only lasts for so long. It is hard work and ambition that gets people to the top, and it is also what keeps them at the top.
I want to be known for being capable of doing things in life, whether that be holding on to my job or even just doing simple errands. When I am told that I am a capable and reliable person, it increases my confidence and makes me feel good.
It means that the person trusts me to do something and get it done. I would much rather be known as someone who is capable of getting things done than someone who just sits there prettily.
Does it feel nice when someone tells me that I look good or that I am pretty? Of course it does, and there is nothing wrong with telling someone that. There is so much more about women though than how they look, and that should be what is valued the most. Is there anything that you would rather be called than “pretty?” Feel free to comment below!