Mothers are special. When you’re young, she holds you, loves you and teaches you the ways of the world. As you get older, she looks out for you even when you’re too foolish or stubborn to look out for yourself. She walks behind you to make sure you’re safe and sound because, it doesn’t matter if you’re fifteen or fifty, you’ll always be her little girl.
The older I get, the more I realize how fortunate I am to have a mother like mine because there are a lot of people not as lucky. Some moms walk away, some are taken away and some are there, but only physically. No matter what circumstance robs a child of a mother, it’s sure to affect that child forever.
One of the primary roles a mother plays is that of teacher. Not only does she make sure you get a good education so that you have a great career, but she also teaches you how to succeed in life in general. What have I learned from my mom?
Live with Passion
My mom lives life. She doesn’t just go from day to day trying to survive. She aims to thrive by pursuing things that are enjoyable to her; things that bring her happiness. In fact, she is so involved in other activities, like social group meetings and having dinner with friends, that she certainly out-socializes me.
You have two options in life. Sit on the sidelines of life or play in the game. Find your passion, what makes you happy, and get out on the field. You can’t be MVP from the bench.
Yes, one of the first things my mom taught me is to work hard. From the time I was a young child, my mom has worked her tail off. She put in long hours on her feet as a waitress and would wear a smile even when her feet and back ached so much that she knew her after-work idea of fun would consist of heating pads and elevating body parts.
This taught me that sometimes you have to push past the pain, mental or physical, to get where you want to be. Although it may be difficult at the time, your hard work and effort will pay off. The harder the battle, the sweeter the victory.
Be Willing to Step in and Help Others, Whether They Ask for It or Not
I swear my mom has this sixth sense that tells her that you need something. You don’t have to say a word, but before you know it, she’s right at your side helping you do whatever needs to be done.
Oftentimes people are afraid to ask for help. Either they’re embarrassed that they need it or pride gets in the way. Why make them ask when you can just jump in and help? They benefit from your assistance and you feel good because you did something selfless. You both win.
Get to Know People from all Walks of Life
Put my mom in a room full of strangers, and it won’t take her long to know everyone’s name and life story. It doesn’t matter if she’s at a black tie event or the local hole-in-the-wall pub, she can make a friend out of anyone.
The greater your social circle, the more well-rounded you are. Engage with people from all different backgrounds. Experience the world through their eyes. At a minimum, you’ll learn something new. Best case scenario, you’ll make a new friend.
Family Is more Than Just Blood
While many people are blessed with a great family, myself included, I learned at a young age that the boundaries of family can extend well beyond those that are given to us, to those that are chosen by us. Just because someone isn’t born into the family, doesn’t mean that they can’t be part of it.
My mom has had friends who became like my second mothers. I’ve brought people into my mom’s world that she has taken and treated as if they are her own. Family is whatever you decide it is, so don’t limit yourself.
One of the most important things my mom taught me is that there’s nothing more special than our families. They’re are to be loved and supported and they in turn should return the favor. Here’s some quotes to remind us why.
Don’t Be Afraid to Take Risks
At almost fifty years of age, my mother moved half-way across the world, leaving her life as she knew it behind in pursuit of happiness with the man she fell in love with, who is now my step-father.
When it comes to finding your happiness, sometimes it involves taking risks. But, if you’re willing to have faith and courage you can expand your life in ways you never dreamt possible.
The weird thing? Eight years after she moved overseas, I moved across the country to pursue my own love and happiness. Guess the fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree, huh?
Do What’s Right, no Matter how Hard It Is
After attempting to set our toys on fire in the basement, my sister and I learned the importance of telling the truth, even when it’s difficult. Our lack of truth-telling at the time caused my mom great worry as she knew something was burning and was concerned that the house was unsafe. Had we just been honest, it would have saved her a lot of stress and anxiety.
At the end of the day, you’re the one that has to be able to look at yourself in the mirror. Sometimes it’s hard to do the right thing, but if you do then you will enjoy a life of character and integrity.
She Taught me Important Things About Being a Mom
First of all, that silly is a good thing to be.
When Kiss them when they cry.
Hold them when they are afraid.
When they speak, listen.
Let them explore…dirt washes off.
Always do the right thing…even when nobody’s looking!
Yes, my mom is pretty great. If your mom is just as special to you, let her know you appreciate her by making your own list of things she taught you. Mail it to her to read privately or publish it for all the world to see. Doesn’t matter how you deliver it, she’ll love it regardless because that’s what good mothers do. These are the best things my mom taught me/ I feel blessed and grateful.
A mother-daughter relationship is one of the most special yet slightly complicated ties of affection and love. Keep reading and find out how to make a good relationship with your mother.
words cannot express what you have wrote. I’d call and tell you but can’t stop crying! Thank you. Love you so much!!! xx
I’m glad you liked it. Thank you for all that you’ve taught me throughout the years. Love you too!
Nice tribute to your mother. I am sure she loves your thoughts and how you are able to put them in writing. Nice job friend.
amazing article, Christina