10 Reasons Why I Won’t Go On Dates With Guys I Don’t Like

As women, people expect us to constantly search for relationships. I’m not that way. I'd rather skip going on dates until I meet the guy I really like.

People assume that because I’m a young woman, that I am constantly on the lookout for a guy to date. That I should want to be in a relationship with someone. Girls are always seen as the more sensitive sex and that we depend on finding guys to fulfill our lives.

That’s just not the truth. The main reason that I’m undateable is because I am not focusing my entire life around going on dates. Here are some other reasons why I’m an “undateable” girl.

1. I’d rather stay in than go out

woman sitting on a bed

I’m not one of those girls whose main focus is going out every night. Of course, this is where most girls meet the guys they start to date, or even hook up with when they’re out and partying. I don’t find the fun in that.

On the off chance that I do go out, I’m not going to remember what went on anyway. I go out to have fun with my friends, and it usually ends up with me blacking out anyway. If I do meet a guy, chances are that I will not know who he is the next day. Sorry, not sorry.

2. I like having the bed to myself

I don’t like to share my bed. My bed is my safe space and my happy place. No one gets to be in my happy space beside me. Sharing a bed does not sound appealing to me whatsoever.

It’s not going to happen. I’m not going to sleep next to someone who refuses to let me stop spooning and overheat at night.

3. I can’t even choose what I want for dinner

If I don’t even know what I want to eat, how am I going to know who I want to date? It takes me forever to pick anything on the menu.

Like, a ridiculous amount of time. It’s embarrassing. It’s not that much different when it comes to guys. I don’t like to make choices, so I don’t want to feel like I have to choose someone to be with.

4. I don’t have time for drama


I don’t care what anyone says, there is no relationship on this planet that doesn’t include a bunch of fights. Whether they be big fights or small ones, it adds unnecessary drama to my life, and I don’t feel like dealing with that.

When you start dating someone, then you need to start thinking about that person when it comes to certain decisions you make, and if things don’t match up, something is bound to happen.

5. I love my alone time

Dating someone means sharing time together. Yeah, it can be great when you’re with someone that genuinely adds something to your life, but most guys these days don’t meet that standard for me.

I’m the kind of person who needs to spend time alone to be able to go out with people and be social.

6. I work often

I work my way through life. I am focused on progressing with my career. I work often because I need to make my own money to pay for bills.

Most guys I’ve dated have not understood that my work is very important to me. I am not a workaholic, but I’m not messing around with my money just to hang out with you.

7. I’d rather spend time with my friends


I put my friends on a pedestal no matter what. They are my priority because they have been there for me long before guys have been in my life, and they have been there after those guys have left my life. I can count on them for anything, so I am not going to blow them off for a guy.

I feel the most comfortable when I’m with my friends. We always have fun when we’re together because of how close we are and there is never any drama. It’s just easier to have fun with the girls than to focus on a guy.

8. I don’t choose the right guys

I have to take responsibility for this article. There are great guys in the world. I can never lie about that. Not all guys are bad. It’s just that it’s more difficult to find a good guy in this day and age than to just hook up with them or not deal with them at all.

9. I don’t want to be tied down

I love being able to make my own decisions, whenever I want to make them. I am a very free-spirited person, so I don’t want to have to make sure the decisions that I’m making are okay.

If I want to go travel for a week with my friends, I don’t want to have to feel like I have to run it by someone else before I do it. If I meet someone wherever I am, I want to be able to have fun instead of saying no because of a relationship back home.

10. I’m focused on myself


There is nothing wrong with wanting to focus on yourself instead of a guy. It’s not selfish to focus on things you want to do with your life. I have so many plans for myself and my life, so I want to make sure those goals are attained.

Women are often made to feel like we are selfish for doing things that help our lives instead of sharing our lives with someone else. It’s not fair to us to have to choose.

If we don’t want to be in a relationship, just like some men don’t, we should be able to be respected for it. Some of us are ready to be “dateable” just yet, and there’s nothing wrong with that.[rett

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About the author

Myranda Siegert

Hey, I'm Myranda. I'm an absolute hopeless romantic. I've always loved writing about subjects that will hit close to home, and make people really think more deeply about themselves. I show myself through my writing, as well as my photography.

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  • Yeah, you can have your bed, or your life – to yourself! But, don’t complain if you find it lonely!