Bored In A Relationship? Here’s How To Decide If It’s Over Or Not

The beginning of a relationship is never boring. In fact, it’s the total opposite. You find this new guy to be really exciting. But now, you are bored in a relationship and you don’t know what to do? Here’s how to decide if it’s worth it.

You can’t imagine ever becoming one of those couples that you see having dinner at a restaurant and not talking to each other.  Every time that he texts you or looks at you, you think that it’s the most thrilling thing that has ever happened.

And then you find yourself feeling bored and you hate to admit it, but you think that it’s your relationship. This is definitely a low moment and a tough thing to deal with

There are a few things to consider if this is the situation that you’re in. Read on to find out what to do when you’re bored in a relationship.

1. Think about whether it’s him or it’s boredom of your life

Sometimes we don’t quite realize what exactly is causing us these negative feelings. It’s possible that while we think that our boyfriend is boring, it’s really our life that exhaust us.  This is the sign that we need to reignite our passion.

When you feel unhappy  in a relationship, it’s definitely a good idea to stop and think about whether it’s your boyfriend or your life in general. Maybe  it’s your life  routine that it’s boring you to tears. You wake up, make a healthy breakfast, go to work, come home, watch TV, go to bed, and then the next day feels exactly the same. Anyone would be bored after a while and everyone needs to shake things up sometimes and make some changes.

If you try adding some new things into your weekly routines, like a new workout class or scheduling more time with your girlfriends, you might find that you’re just as happy with your relationship as you were before.

Try some new recipes, for example.  Prepare a hot dinner for your man. Try one of these 5 spectacular aphrodisiac dinner recipes

2. Consider if you want to make a career change

Your daily routine can exhaust you, but so does your job, too. So many people make career changes and end up doing something that is the opposite of what they were doing or thought that they wanted to do. There’s no reason why this can’t be you, too.

Maybe you’re blaming your relationship when you’re unhappy at your job. You might not be feeling like your don’t use your skill as much as you should. Maybe you don’t have a passion to wake up every day and head to your job. If this describes you, then you could find that think about what to do. Making a career change, either getting a new job in your same field or something else, could make you feel a lot better about your life in general…

And about your relationship, too.

This is the best case scenario, of course. You’ll not only wake up excited to get to work and will have some amazing things happening in your professional life, but you also won’t make a decision about your relationship that you could regret later on.

3. Is your daily routine slowly killing you?

However, it’s totally possible that you really are bored by your relationship. It’s time to talk to your boyfriend about it. It’s not a great one when a person feels a certain way about things but doesn’t let their partner know. He might be thinking that things are perfect. Also, that he is more in love with you than ever. But there you are, wondering if you find him boring and if you want to move on. It’s not the best situation to be in.

If that is the case, then it’s a good idea to talk to him about whether he agrees that you’re stuck in a rut. Maybe you’ve been together for one year, two years, or even five years, and while you two had an amazing time together, it just doesn’t feel the same anymore.

It’s possible that he agrees with you and has found that you two have settled into a routine that is anything but thrilling and passionate. It happens to a lot of couples. When you’re in a rut, it can be hard to feel the passion that you did at the beginning of your relationship.

Show him/her love, passion and affection

This is very important. Show emotion, be romantic and be affectionate. Show it to your partner verbally, physically, and through actions. Sex is something that makes you both emotionally connected in a completely different way

So, try harder. Spice up your sex life and add some playfulness into your relationship today.

While this may seem redundant, communication is what lacks in a LOT of relationships. Couples are simply not talking to each other anymore and are relying on assumptions . Say what you want and what you need, and hear what your partner has to say.

Get out of your comfort zone and don’t be afraid to  try something new and exciting.

Even the simplest of changes can add that dormant spark to your relationship.

4. If you still love each other, take a break to re-evaluate your feelings

Let’s say you and your boyfriend have had a serious and honest conversation. You realized that, yes, you both feel that you’re stuck in a rut. If you still love each other, it can feel like the worst situation. You just don’t understand how you got here, You wish that you could wave a magic wand and be super in love once again.

You can take a break and re-evaluate your feelings. Maybe you two don’t do anything super exciting most of the time. It’s no wonder that you’re both feeling this way. If you still love each other, then you can think of this as a rough path but not something that is going to result in a break-up.

Sometimes couples take a break for a few months. They just want to chill out for a bit and see how they feel about each other. It might be uncomfortable and feel really weird, but it could help.

5. Accept that the relationship might have run its course

You’re bored in your relationship and you’ve done all of the above things? Then it could be time to accept that the relationship has run its course.

Sometimes there is no real reason why a couple decides that it’s time to break up. You just have a gut feeling and even if you know that your boyfriend is so sweet and such a good person, you just can’t help but know that it’s the right decision.

It’s good to remember that it’s not normal to feel bored in your relationship. Sure, not every night is going to be super romantic and not every date night is going to be fancy and full of sweet nothings, but for the most part, you two should feel excited about even doing boring things together.

When you’re bored in your relationship, it’s not a great feeling. You feel uncomfortable and like you can’t believe that this is happening to you. This is especially true if you’ve been with your boyfriend for several years.

This is the person that you thought that you would stay with forever. You thought that you would be together forever, have kids, and experience the ups and downs of life with. It’s pretty upsetting if you decide that it’s time to end the relationship and move on.

Whether you decide that or make a life or career change and are able to salvage your relationship, as long as you follow your heart and your gut, you’re going to be okay.

About the author

Aya Tsintziras

Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor. She loves coffee, barre classes, 90s television and pop culture. She is a food blogger at A Healthy Story and shares gluten-free, dairy-free recipes and personal stories.

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