Are you in love with your man, but it’s still not working out? Maybe it’s time to let go and move on. There are times when love is not enough to keep a relationship going.
Breaking up is one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do in your life. There are so many worries and fears when you’re in a relationship, but even more when you’re leaving one. Your mind is full of doubt and you wonder if you’re making the right decision, if this relationship is “the one” and you’re throwing it away, if you’re over-exaggerating, and if you’ll ever find love again.
Every time a relationship of mine has ended, all of these questions have rung through my mind. I wondered if that would be the last man I ever kissed, if I’m doomed to be alone, if I’m being too picky…everything you’re probably wondering, too.
While I can’t tell you if your relationship is going to last forever, I can tell you that love is not enough to keep it going. There are times when you will need to let him go. Here are some of those times.
Rarely do relationships last when two people have massively different life plans. If you want to settle down and have ten kids, and he wants to travel the world as a missionary, living like a nomad, then you’re probably going to want to reconsider this relationship. Life plans are a very big deal, and it’s important to be with someone who wants the same things as you.
If you’re an ambitious person and have a lot of drive and self-motivation, but your man is not ambitious and has no motivation to move forward in his job or life, then this will pose a lot of problems later. I spent years with a man who did not want to work. In fact, he didn’t work, I worked.
I thought he would change, since he was always saying he wished he could find a job, but the truth is, he wasn’t really looking. I lost respect for him and the relationship fell apart. I loved him more than I can say, but this time it wasn’t enough.
No matter how much you love someone, if you’re not physically or sexually attracted to that person, then the relationship isn’t going to work. One of my biggest problems in finding a relationship is that I have not recently met a man I want to get naked with.
You see, regardless of what people say, sex is a very big deal! If you love someone, but you just don’t desire them, then your love will not be enough. It’s not fair to either of you to stay in a sexless commitment, or a relationship with unsatisfactory relations.
Everybody has baggage. We all have a past, and sometimes, that past really isn’t very pretty. However, there are times when there’s too much baggage and we cannot handle the other person’s inner demons. It’s not that you want to “fix” your lover; it’s just that the issues are embedded so deep, it genuinely puts a strain on your relationship.
I know a guy who was injured pretty badly and is still recovering from it. He asked me out, but it was hard for me to get past his constant talk about how much his injury changed his life. Yes, your past will have an effect on you, and it’s hard to get over things, but it can’t be the only thing you obsess over.
You have to move beyond your past and look towards the future. A person who dwells on their past and their baggage usually makes it hard to move forward in a relationship or in life.
Whether it’s physically or emotionally, you know when you’ve had enough. No amount of love in the world can keep a relationship together when there’s too much hurt involved. Don’t play the martyr, get out of an abusive relationship and seek help. If it’s not abusive, but he’s been a cheater or a liar, then the hurt is still there and it’s still real. You deserve better.
Have you ever been with someone and matured faster than he did? It’s awkward, isn’t it? Sadly, it’s also a relationship breaker. If you’re a grown woman keeping her responsibilities and he’s still acting like a frat boy, then I’d say love isn’t enough to keep this together. Couples should grow together, not apart.
Have you and your guy been dating for a long time? Are you ready for marriage, but he’s still commitment shy? If this is you, and you need more from him than he’s willing to give (now or anytime in the future), then it’s best to get out of the relationship and move on.
Maybe he’ll change his mind after losing you, or maybe he won’t. Either way, you’re better off alone than waiting for him to make up his mind. I say this from experience.
If you and your man have been through too much together, then sometimes love isn’t going to be enough to make your relationship work. Every now and then, I think of one of my ex’s, Matt. I loved him, and I know he loved me. We were together for three years and we just grew apart.
Sometimes I wonder if we got back together would it work, but too much happened between us and too much has happened since us. Love isn’t always enough to forget about the past, no matter how much you want to.
I am a firm believer in love, and I think you should always give a relationship one hundred percent so that you don’t look back later and regret it. However, giving one hundred percent doesn’t mean you have to stay in a relationship that isn’t working.
Sometimes love is enough to build a strong foundation on, but there are times, such as the ones listed above, when love is not enough. What is your relationship like?
Just another hard working mom who loves her kid, loves to write, can’t cook, and has a thing for tentacles! When I’m not hanging out with my Spawn, I’m happily sharing my dating experiences and offering advice and trying to control the chaos that comes with being human.
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