No matter where you are in your relationship; even if you are just starting, newlyweds, married for a long time, in a serious relationship, or even just hooking up, it is important to know how to keep the romance alive. After all, romance is like the spice of life, but instead of life, it’s for your relationship.
Even though the scenarios listed above for relationships are widely different, in the end, it doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you are intimate, and building something with another person.
In order, for what you’re building to be fun, exciting, romantic, loving, and exciting, it is still crucial to keep the romance alive.
Even if your relationship is perfect, you still need to put the work into it, or else your relationship will stop thriving and will be hitting some rough patches.
If you stop doing all the gestures of love and romance, then your partner will definitely notice the difference. In fact, once they notice, they will feel worried and insecure regarding the security of the relationship.
They will also feel neglected, not loved, undesirable, sad, and nervous. Read on to learn how to keep the romance alive in order to protect your relationship and to also make it flourish and grow!
Dress up, not down
As much as everyone loves to put on their baggy and comfiest clothes, resist the urge!
This may seem so small, but this is actually a great start to keeping the romance alive.
Think about it this way, if all you saw was your partner in sweats, you would feel as if they were not putting as much effort into the relationship.
Whereas, if you saw them dress up in something sexier, you would already feel like the evening was something special, like they cared, and wanted to make it more special.
A simple text, voicemail, email, or note will be all you need for this method of keeping the romance alive. For this to work, all you have to do is leave a message saying how much you love them, how you are thinking of them or wishing them good luck.
Of course, you need to gear the message to suit them, but this is generally the common theme.
As a result, they will feel like you care, are thinking of them, and are being supportive and romantic. This will surely put a smile on their face and will instantly brighten their day.
Signs of affection
When you were just starting, I’m sure you couldn’t get enough of kissing, holding, and touching each other. That should not stop no matter how long you have been together. You should still be kissing, hugging, and getting it on in the bedroom (or any other room for that matter).
Once signs of affection stop, or slow down, your partner will notice. When they notice this they will feel unattractive, undesirable, neglected, worried, and sad.
The remedy for this is easy, show signs of affection by pulling them in for a kiss, slapping their buttocks, holding them close, and feeling them up.
Make time for each other
Making time for each other is a crucial rule for when you are figuring out how to keep the romance alive. This is probably the most important one.
After all, once you make time for your partner, the rest should come naturally. That includes the signs of affection, the laughs, conversations, romance, and love.
Making time for your partner in a relationship may be more difficult than it sounds. That is understandable, a lot of people have issues with finding the balance between work, their hobbies, chores, and then quality date time. However, that is no excuse for not including them and making time for them.
You need to make sure that you do make time for your partner and you to do whatever the two of you want to do. You also need to make sure that yu do not shut out your partner.
Instead, you need to include them in various parts of your life even if it isn’t exactly their thing.
Once again, if you don’t do this, your partner will feel cut out of your life, neglected, unwanted, and saddened by the fact that you aren’t wanting to spend time with them.
Even if you do want to spend time with them, they won’t know that because of the fact that you actually aren’t making time for them.
When wondering how to keep the romance alive in a relationship, the best way to go about it is to do it with a bang. You need to surprise your partner, that way they will feel loved, cared for, and will know that you were thinking of them.
A simple, but always amazing surprise to do is to just tell them to get dressed, and that you are both going out.
Then take them to their favorite café, restaurant, beach, or even forest. All that matters is that you took them out, thought of them, and did it in such a sweet way!
Compliment and appreciate
As mundane and simple as this may sound, it is something that is often overlooked. Compliment your partner, tell them how amazing they look, or how they are good at something. Additionally, also say thank you, or let them know that you notice and are grateful for all they do for you.
The “little” things are what counts
Reach over; touch your partner’s hand. While spending time with them, just look at them; admire them, their laugh, their smile, their voice, and their expression.
Give them a hug and a kiss. Ask about their day, how they are feeling, or what’s on their mind.
All of the statements above are some of the many examples of the little things in a relationship, which are very important.
As much as these parts of any relationship may be taken for granted when they are always happening as soon as they are gone, it’s the very opposite.
Once these little signs of love stop, the bad feelings your partner will start to have, begin.
They will feel neglected, sad, worried, unsure, not wanted, unappreciated, and not feeling that spark.
If you want to know how to keep the romance alive, then make sure that these little things continue. They are so important and I can guarantee you that they mean the world to your partner.
Keep your couple identity
A couple identity isn’t actually something that is a real thing, however, it should be.
You and your partner need to keep your couple identity. Meaning when things get tough, make sure you still do the things you have always been doing since you were just starting out.
You both need to remember to laugh, have fun, have tickle and prank wars, go out for dates, enjoy each other’s company, and do everything that makes your couple identify what it is.
It is very important to make sure that you don’t lose sight of that. After all, the two of you are your own person, and when you add you and your partner up, you get your relationship which is your couple identity.
It is a one of a kind thing, and something special between the two of you, that has been built on your love, experience, and feelings for each other.
Meaning, don’t change your relationship or lose sight of what you both have. You both need to put work in and continue to keep the romance alive in and out of the bedroom.
You both need that balance of everything, but you also need to always be romantic, loving, caring and your true selves together. That is the only way your couple identity will thrive, survive, and grow.
When learning how to keep the romance alive, it is important to remember what you and your partner are like, and what is going on. You need to know what suits your partner, and your relationship.
I cannot express enough how important it is to be romantic, loving, and affectionate for your partner. If you stop doing that, your relationship will falter and you will both be unhappy.
Whereas, if you are keeping the romance alive in your relationship, then you and your partner will feel happy, madly in love, secure, and overjoyed.
Additionally, if you keep the romance alive, there are fewer chances of you and your partner having any issues. There is also a higher chance of the both of you getting along much better, and communicating and functioning as a couple better too.
If you can think of any other method for how to keep the romance alive in a relationship, feel free to share!
wooow! this article’s really helpful, thanks Christian :)