Dealing with loneliness can be difficult as it is often accompanied by feelings of emptiness, disconnection, and sadness. If not dealt with properly, loneliness can sometimes cause more serious psychological conditions such as extreme unhappiness, depression and anxiety and lead to unwanted social isolation.
Fortunately, there are many ways to overcome loneliness, reconnect with life, and finally stop feeling lonely in the middle of the crowd. It may seem hard at the beginning, but it’s worth the effort.
Feeling Lonely is not the Same as Being Alone
Many people experience feelings of extreme loneliness even when surrounded by other people.
Loneliness is, in fact, often described as a feeling of isolation, not belonging, and not being able to connect with others.
What Kind of Relationships Do You Have?
You may know thousands of people and have many friends, but it’s the quality of your relationships that matters. If your relationships are superficial and lacking in depth or intimacy, you will feel lonely despite being in the company of others.
Having meaningful relationships and being surrounded by people who you can share your thoughts and feelings with is what truly matters in life.
Start Overcoming Loneliness Today
Loneliness is a passive state that leads to apathy, drains us of energy, and deprives us of an enjoyable life.
Start dealing with loneliness today. Stop being passive and take action now.
Change Your Approach to Loneliness – Accept It
Loneliness is a perfectly natural feeling that all human beings experience. It is not necessarily something negative. Don’t be scared of it and don’t try to deny it or ignore it. Once you have recognized and accepted your loneliness, only then will you be able to change it or turn it into something positive.
The first step is telling yourself that you are the only one responsible for your life and for your choices. You can make your life better, fuller and richer or leave it as it is.
Accepting loneliness and understanding how it affects your life is the best way to start changing things.
Identify the Cause of Your Loneliness
Try to discover the true cause of your loneliness.
If you don’t do it, you won’t be able to handle it and you won’t know how deal with other problems associated with it.
Examine your life, write down your feelings, analyze them, or talk to someone. Pinpointing the reason of your loneliness will help you decide what steps to take to overcome it.
Learn to Be Alone
If you are constantly hanging out with people in order to suppress feelings of emptiness and loneliness, you should stop for a moment.
The key to overcoming loneliness is not to avoid it, but to accept it and learn to be alone with yourself. Once you understand this and once you manage to spend time alone and focus on your inner being, you will feel a lot better. Facing your emotions, fears and desires will help you get to know yourself better and this will greatly improve your relationships with other people. You will feel more relaxed and self-confident and other people will feel it and respond to it.
Learn to Enjoy Your Own Company
Don’t get stuck in routines and don’t let apathy keep you from being active. Transform loneliness into something positive and learn to enjoy your own company. Loneliness can have many advantages. It can bring out your creativity and help you find your true self.
Choose to look at your being lonely in a positive light. There are so many solitary activities that can lift up your spirit, activate your mind and ease your loneliness. Reading, painting, cooking, or gardening, are just some of them. Find something that suits your interests and focus on it. Stop thinking about the past or worrying about the future and start appreciating the present moment.
Loneliness can also help you make constructive changes in your life. When you learn to be happy and comfortable with yourself, you will also find out what you really want from life. And you won’t be feeling lonely any more.
Strengthen Your Existing Relationships
Reconnect with people you already know. Call them, go see them more often, or write to them if they are not in the same city. Try to deepen your contacts and make your relationships more meaningful.
Reach out to People and Create New Relationships
In order to stop feeling lonely, you can create new social relationships. Without human interaction, loneliness can turn into complete solitude. Sharing opinions and life experiences with other people is what all human beings need – we are not meant to live life alone.
Don’t expect that people will approach you and ask you to be their friend. You should make an effort to approach them first. If you never talk or take any initiative, they will assume that you want to be alone.
Rather than waiting for people to invite you to social gatherings, step up and arrange events. Organize outings, meet up with old friends, or invite new people over.
But remember to be patient and take it slowly. Social relationships and friendships are not built overnight. It takes time to get to know another person, build rapport and develop mutual trust.
In the meantime, enjoy spending time with new friends and doing activities that interest both of you. This is a good step.
Stop Waiting and Looking – Get Involved in Activities
To avoid feeling lonely, you must keep yourself busy and engage in an activity that will make you feel happy and satisfied. When you change yourself, the world around you will change also.
Joining a class or a club, or participating in a team project such as volunteering, can have numerous advantages.
Getting involved in an activity will not only stimulate your curiosity and make you learn a new skill, but it will also help you meet new people and give you a sense of belonging to a group.
Volunteer: Helping Someone Who is Lonelier than You Will Make You Feel More Connected to Life
There are plenty of opportunities. Homeless shelters, soup kitchens, care homes for disabled people, hospitals, and nursing homes are just a few.
The act of doing something useful for someone who really needs your help, will give you happiness and satisfaction. Your feelings of emptiness and loneliness will quickly dissipate and you will start feeling more connected to life.
Volunteering will also make you meet many other valuable people who are trying to do something good for others without expecting anything in return. This is a good way to develop meaningful friendships.
Join an Internet Community and Find Support Online
Loneliness is widespread in modern society. There are far more lonely people in this world than you might imagine and many of them are in search of friends to talk to. Join an internet community and find them.
Sharing thoughts, secrets, worries, and experiences with other persons who feel the same way will help you feel less lonely and less isolated. Creating friendly connections online can be as valuable as forming them in real life. Just remember to be a careful internet user. Not everyone online is who they say they are.
You may also join loneliness support groups online. Sometimes they can be very helpful.
Learn to Be with Other People
Social relationships and friendships are based on mutual respect. This means that instead of just talking, you must also learn to listen to other people and show that you are interested in what they have to say.
In other words, you must respect their need to express their opinions and feelings, just like you would want them to respect yours.
Don’t Be a Burden
When you meet someone, don’t exhaust him or her with your problems and don’t try to quickly create an intense relationship. Nobody likes someone who is too insistent or too desperate. You must let a new relationship take its natural course and give it time and space to develop.
However, just by starting to create new social contacts, you will already feel less lonely.
Love Yourself and Others will Love You Too
Are you afraid that you can not measure up to other people? Do you feel insecure about yourself? Do you think that nobody cares for you?
If your fear of being rejected prevents you from establishing relationships with other people, then you have a self-confidence problem.
Try focusing on your good qualities instead of only the negative ones. Reaching deep inside yourself, overcoming your fears and learning to accept yourself for who you truly are will help you become more self-confident, more socially relaxed, and thereby less lonely. Once you learn to live with yourself, other people will enjoy your company too.
Loneliness doesn’t Last Forever
Stay positive and always look on the bright side of life. Negative emotions don’t last for ever. Loneliness, sadness, or depression, are just temporary feelings that are part of everybody’s life.
Avoid despair, don't allow yourself to wallow, take action and things will change.
Hopefully this post has helped you feel a little better. If you have any other suggestions or tips on how to stop feeling lonely, please write in the comments below and don’t forget to share this post with others!