Whether we are having the best day we’ve ever had or the worst we’ve had in a while, we all need something that makes it all worth it. When we have so many aspects of our lives trying to break us down, we need to be the one who builds ourselves back up. We need to learn how to really love ourselves, not in spite of our flaws, but because of them.
It can seem difficult, or even silly, at times to figure out how to remind ourselves that we are great, and that we deserve the best. Here are some ways you can remind yourself how great you are.
1. Write yourself love notes.
When I started going to therapy, one of the first things I learned about myself was that I was constantly putting myself down without even noticing. I had got to the point where I talked badly about myself so often that I didn’t even see how much I had started to hate myself.
One of the things that my therapist suggested that I do was to write myself little love letters in random places like in my notebooks for class or random papers around my room—any place where I would find them after I had forgotten I even wrote myself a note.
I felt so silly when I was writing these notes—until I started to find them in places I wasn’t expecting them to be. One of my professors would give us great pieces of advice that I would write down so I would not forget them later on. While looking back at my notes to study, I found all of these positive messages that made my day a little bit brighter.
You may feel odd writing yourself love notes, but finding them when you really need something to make your day better makes it so worth it.
2. Set reminders on your phone to go off throughout the month.
We. Are. So. Obsessed. With. Our. Phones.
We are on our phones so often throughout the day, mostly experiencing something that annoys us. We get countless dumb texts that make us doubt humanity as a whole. We also get good texts that make it better, but that’s beside the point. Setting random alerts in your phone to go off throughout the month giving yourself a compliment is such a simple thing to do.
Most of the time, we forget what we said and when we made the alert to go off. Looking down at your phone and seeing a message from yourself telling you how great you look or that you can make it through whatever it is you’re going through can really make your day better.
3. Write compliments on post-it notes and hang them on your mirror.
This is yet another thing that may seem silly to do. Once again, I promise that it’ll be worth it when you wake up in the morning to brush your teeth and see a note telling you how beautiful you look. Even if you may not believe it, you can’t help but smile (or a little smirk for those who aren’t morning people, like me).
Even if you aren’t consciously looking at these messages, you are still perceiving them. The messages will get in there somewhere, and it will make your mood a little bit better. There are so many things that we subconsciously do to break ourselves down. Having something that subconsciously builds us back up can’t hurt.
4. Take time to do your makeup in the morning.
If you find yourself with a bit of extra time before you have to leave and like to do makeup, go ahead and take that time for yourself! If you already make time to do your makeup in the morning, then try something you’ve always wanted to do with your makeup. Do something with your makeup that makes you feel beautiful and happy.
Take some extra time to really focus on what you like about what you see in the mirror. We spend so much time looking at ourselves and immediately picking out all of our “flaws”. We get to the point where we can pick out our flaws so easily without even having to think about them, but when we are asked about what we like about ourselves, we suddenly can’t think of anything.
We need to be able to find aspects of ourselves that we like. You never know: you may really start to like one of your flaws if you take time to realize that flaws don’t make you any less beautiful.
5. Reward yourself.
We all feel really proud of ourselves at certain times like when we get a good grade on a test we studied really hard for or a promotion at work. It can also be something as simple as being proud of yourself for getting out of bed when you felt like you physically could not do so. There are so many little victories in our lives that we have to learn to take notice of.
When you’re proud of yourself, reward yourself by doing something that makes you happy. If you really wanted to tell someone off but controlled yourself, you deserve a reward. We all know how hard that is to do. If you really like sweets, then get yourself something sweet as a reward. We don’t always have to give ourselves a physical reward, either—praise is good enough.
There is always room for positivity in our lives. Even the small victories need to be made important so that we can ensure some happiness in our lives. With everything negative that surrounds us, we need to be our own biggest cheerleaders.
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