Sadly, little girls are growing up to believe that you HAVE to do everything yourself, be completely independent, be in no need of anyone, act equal to men to gain respect and anything less than that makes you seem weak to the opposite sex and perhaps even other women.
Well, I’m here to tell you that it’s complete nonsense! There’s absolutely NOTHING wrong with acting like a lady. In fact, it sets you apart from everyone else. It makes you unique—and being unique is what this is all about…
Allow him open the door for you.
Letting someone open the door for you doesn’t mean you can’t do it yourself; it’s just a sign of respect. Unfortunately, men are so confused these days as to whether or not they should open doors for women, especially on a first date.
They don’t want to offend you, but they want to show you respect—that’s if you’re going out with the right man.
Many women have made men believe that the modern-day woman doesn’t want a door opened for her. She finds it offensive. That it’s a sign that he thinks she’s helpless and can’t do anything herself.
If you’re one of these women, you need to stop immediately. You’re teaching him that you don’t need his respect—and ultimately him, for that matter. When a man doesn’t feel needed, there’s nothing keeping him where he is. More importantly, you deserve that kind of respect.
Maintain your image.
Being a lady isn’t just about the way you speak. It also reflects in the way you showcase yourself. Social media plays a huge role in how the world sees us and, ultimately, how we see ourselves.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with going out and painting the town red with a few close friends, but you don’t need to show the world—especially not every weekend.
Let’s be honest, we all do it. We’re young; it’s alright. We’re supposed to have fun. However, when you have photos of yourself on the internet broadcasting your drinking habits and people start associating you with partying, you have a problem.
Not only will you attract the wrong friends, but your dating choices will rapidly become very slim. At the end of the day, you want to be around people who bring out the best in you.
Acting tough is the first sign that you’re actually a real softy deep down. Being soft doesn’t make you weak by any means though. In fact, those who have soft hearts are actually the toughest people around. When you think about it, being soft in a hard world takes a lot of courage.
A great example is Princess Diana. She was extremely kind to the homeless and the sick, individuals most people look past. It took a lot of courage and people respected her for her kindness. It made her graceful and unique—very ladylike.
Wouldn’t it be amazing if we all had a little bit of Princess Diana in us?
Make a little effort.
Everyone knows that being a lady means you put in the effort to look nice. Nice doesn’t mean slathering your face in makeup and wearing the most expensive clothes every day though.
It just means that you take care of yourself. You put in a bit of effort to make sure that your clothes match and your hair looks neat. Accessorize a little bit and make your outfit for the day complement your personality. Make yourself look presentable. If you look good, you feel good!
This point is perhaps the most important one of all. How can you expect others to respect you if you don’t respect yourself?
This relates to the standards you set for yourself and those you choose to spend your time with. Never settle for anything less than what you deserve. You often hear this, so don’t rob yourself of this. Respect yourself enough to only want the best for YOU.
You’ll see that the minute you have standards for yourself, people will notice. The right people will stay in your life and the wrong ones will leave. It’ll make the elimination process so much easier. Allow yourself to be treated like a lady, and if anyone treats you less than that, call them out on it!
Giving up that desire to do everything yourself will, surprisingly, give you a sense of freedom.
You don’t need to be in control of every aspect of your life, including the roles that were never meant for you. It’s ok to be treated like a lady. It doesn’t make you less of the strong, independent woman that you are.
In fact, it makes you more of a woman than you can imagine. Your man will be happy: he’ll feel needed, and you will feel more feminine and special. The question is: Why wouldn’t you want to feel that way?