If you tell a person to list things about herself that she thinks are flaws, she will likely have no difficulty talking for minutes about all the qualities she deems imperfections. If you ask the same woman to describe things that she likes about herself, you’ll notice that it will be much more difficult for her to list even a few things.
In a society where women are taught to hate things about themselves that aren’t perfect, it’s hard for average women to have the amount of self-confidence that they deserve. We can tell you everything that’s wrong about ourselves, but are taught not to “brag” about the things that we do like about ourselves.
Every woman deserves to feel confident in her own skin. These are six things that you should start telling yourself today.
1. “I matter.”
It’s so easy to feel lost. You could be surrounded by a thousand people and still feel alone. On the same note, you can also be surrounded by two people and feel inadequate.
We are so hard on ourselves because we don’t allow ourselves to see how amazing we are. We don’t get to fully appreciate how much our feelings and thoughts matter in the world. Don’t let anyone tell you that your thoughts don’t matter, that your feelings are stupid or that you don’t mean anything. You matter.
We have so many people in the world who will kick us when we’re down. We shouldn’t help them do it. We need to be there for ourselves first, and know that we are important.
2. “I am worth it.”
This one is hard for most people to believe. For people with eating disorders, it’s hard to believe that they deserve to eat. For people who don’t think they’re beautiful, it’s hard to believe that they deserve to do things that make them feel beautiful.
This doesn’t even have to be about someone you’re interested in. You have to know and believe that your life is worth something. You being on this earth is a gift. You deserve to be where you are right now because you worked hard to get there. Don’t let anyone make you believe that you aren’t worth it.
You are worth it. You’re worthy of people’s time. You’re worthy of people’s love and friendship. You deserve to eat whatever you want to because you have a body that needs fuel. You deserve to feel like you’re beautiful because you are.
3. “I deserve to be loved.”
I truly believe that there is someone out there for everyone. Whether or not you believe the same thing is up to you. For me, thinking that someone is out there who is going to love me in a way that I can’t even imagine gives me hope.
Don’t be with someone who makes you feel privileged to be loved by him or her. That person is not deserving of your love. Not the other way around. No one has the right to tell you how you deserve to be treated besides yourself.
You have so many amazing qualities that deserve to be recognized and adored. Don’t ever think that because you aren’t a certain way that you don’t deserve someone’s love. Everyone deserves to feel loved.
4. “I have the power to change things I don’t like.”
If you don’t like something about yourself, then you have the power to change it. If you don’t like your weight, then you have the power to do something about it. I say that in the most loving way because it’s something that I need to hear, too.
If you don’t like what you’re doing, then don’t do it. Don’t like your job? Quit and find something that makes you happy. No one deserves to hate what they do every day. That makes for a miserable life.
If you don’t like a relationship you have with someone, then you can change it. You can either try to work towards it, or you can let it go.
None of this is going to be easy, but it’ll make for a healthier and happier lifestyle in the long run. Your current situation is not your final destination.
5. “I will not worry about the things I cannot change.”
This is difficult. I know. I have difficulty doing it myself. This may be the hardest thing to work on out of all the things listed. Worrying about everything is one of the easiest things to do, but it causes pre-mature wrinkles. We don’t need that.
There are going to be things in your life that you cannot change. It’s bound to happen. When these issues arise, you have to learn how to accept them for how they are.
You have to take things as they come. It’s easier to take on smaller things at once than it is to deal with a snowball of anxiety after you can’t push it to the back of your mind anymore.
6. “It’s going to be okay.”
No matter what you’re facing right now, you need to understand that you are going to be okay in the end. You need to know that. Everything happens for a reason, and you are strong enough to get through it.
Everyone is going through something different, but knowing that you’re going to be okay in the end is something that is so comforting. Everyone deserves to know that the bad times don’t last forever. You are okay. If you’re not now, then you’re going to be.
We need to stop putting ourselves against other people and start being there for one another. We’re all going through things that make our lives hard, so we need to be there and understand that we’re not that different from other people. We all just want to be happy and feel good about who we are as people. It’s something we all deserve.
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