5 Things You Can Do to Give Off Good Vibes

If you’ve ever wondered how to make yourself more memorable and personable, think about working on the vibes you put out to the world.

We’ve all heard about these mystical “vibes” from some beaded man in a tie-dye shirt and super comfortable sandals. Whether you call them vibes or not, you emit a certain feeling that other people pick up on. It affects how people see you, how much they trust you and who they think you are at a spiritual level.

So, whether you scoff at the “vibes” or not, that sort of weight on your character’s good name is nothing to shake your nose at. Being more conscious about the type of vibes you are putting out there will literally change our life.

These 5 tips will help you to make sure whatever vibe, aura or feeling you are putting out to the world is something that reflects your true self.

Don’t Divulge Anyone’s Secrets No Matter the Size


This tip is essential for making lasting relationships with others, including bonding with co-workers. Realize that it takes a certain amount of trust for another person to tell you something. Even if it’s a “secret” that doesn’t feel earth shattering to you, it could be to them, so it’s better to treat every confession as confidential.

When you feel like someone is getting ready to tell you something, the best thing to do is to look them in the eye to express your sympathy and listen. You will be amazed how reminding yourself to take someone’s confessions seriously affects how deep and productive your conversations are.

It’s a lost art and the best way to show someone you care about what they have to say isn’t to offer a story of your own to relate or say that you care. It’s your job simply to give them the attention they deserve as a person without showing them the attention you decide the problem deserves.

Be Affectionate—Whatever that Means for You

Affection doesn’t have to be sexual or flirtatious in any way. Giving off good vibes is all about making a person feel valued. If you’re a hugger, there is no more straightforward way to say, “I care about what’s going on in your life” than doing just that. If you’re like me, and not a physical person with friends and acquaintances, there are a million other ways to make the same statement.

Sometimes just remembering someone doesn’t like olives on the food you order together does the trick. You could also leave food they like on their desk when you know they are having a rough week without saying, “Did you see the food I brought you?” A tough love flick to the arm and a get-it-together wink when they’re stressed at work and can’t seem to move on can change the direction of their shift.

Whatever your level of affection is for someone, consciously make an effort to take their mood into account and act on it. Sometimes knowing how someone is feeling and adjusting without actually asking what’s causing it is the most calming thing a person can do. We only regret the tiny actions we never took and the kind words we never said when the question of how much we care for someone comes into play.

Allow Your Emotions to Show on Your Face


We spend too much time trying to mask our emotions and make ourselves mysterious. Newflash: no one ever trusts a mystery and an enigma is not the person you want as your best friend.

When you’re delighted to see someone, don’t worry about seeming odd or whether your feelings are appropriate—feel that emotion fully and openly. The game of pretending to be less interested in people then you are is completely outdated and unproductive. Why let people wonder if they matter to you? Nobody ever liked someone more because they weren’t sure if they were important or not.

The same goes for anger and frustration; address them fully. When you’re about to strangle the person next to you, take a breath to calm yourself, but don’t let that moment slip away without telling the person why you were upset. Humans are intuitive animals; we can sense bottled anger. Why lie with your words when your face says otherwise.

Turn the Attention You Give to Others Inward

This is the hardest thing for people who are naturally empathetic to other people. They forget to turn the same love on themselves. Every self-conscious thought and doubt you have about yourself, you need to imagine your best friend or lover saying to you about themselves. Guaranteed you’d have some words of wisdom or show them they matter if the tables were turned. It’s much harder to cut someone down that you care for.

That being said, shouldn’t we care about ourselves just as much and turn that same forgiveness to the reflection in the mirror? Living a life that isn’t without consequences but has room for mistakes is something that reflects in people’s initial impression people of you.

That being said, living a blameless life or an overly rigid one isn’t ideal either. Being able to forgive yourself, and not make the same mistakes over and over, is something a self-aware and self-treasuring person can do.

Don’t Carry Around Toxic Feelings


Like other animals, we can sense the bitterness or envy in the hearts of others. A huge part of improving your vibes is doing whatever you can to get that weight off your shoulders.

If you’ve done something bad enough to another person that it causes you anguish, it needs to be addressed. Whatever happened, you need to make an effort to make amends and try more than once. An unanswered “I’m sorry” text for a year of failure isn’t going to cut it, but it’s up to you to know when the person would rather be left in peace.

Keeping that in mind, when someone tries to make amends with you for something they’ve done, let them. If their apology is sincere, even if it can’t make up for what they did, beginning the process to forgive them doesn’t just help them—it fixes you.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean an action was less impactful on your life, but it does mean that you recognize the offender is human and want your life to progress in light of the event.

Let us know what you think of these ways to improve your vibes and share this article as inspiration to others, or to hold yourself accountable for working on consciously changing how you affect others.

About the author

Raichel Jenkins

Raichel is an ambitious free spirit who loves poetry, hiking, and a decent amount of carbs. She is a Journalism student at Ohio University with a passion for women’s rights, sappy love stories, and intricacies of the human experience.

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